The 90% is the key!

Just reflecting on the line, if 90% of what we do is just reaction, then it would explain the 90% of people in the world who just live mindless doing their everyday thing, wrapped up in their own little world. And then there is the 10% who take action with their lives. And they are the ones who are successful in the world. I know that it is a different context from what you intended this post to be, but I think it also applies.

Hi behen I did this once to a friend. He was seeing a girl who was not interested in him. Both were my friends and she asked me to communicate to him about her feelings as she could sense it and the guy had no guts to share / speak to her about his. You know the kind of things at College. I waited till the guy started discussing his feelings with me, and when I told him about what the girl was expecting, he started kind of reacting that I could not understand. I re-tried but seeing that he will not care to understand, I walked away. Later, I realized that both of us were wrong. I was wrong because in such matters of infatuation, they wont and will never understand anything saying or leading to NO and he was wrong because it was infatuation and not the love he mis-interpreted it to be.

I am telling my husband this all the time! I also lead by example and show him that negative reactions aren't going to get the job done.

Definately! I have had people get so angry they have left a room when I said something that came out wrong!