Why do you think we let trivial matters distract us from what really matters?

United States
June 29, 2011 2:08am CST
I think at times we get so overwhelmed with other things that we can loss our focus. I strive hard not to let trivial matters get me down, or distract me from what's important to me and my family. Life can be so hectic and at the same time routine that days,months, and years could go by and we could still be wondering what is really happening in our life.
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• United States
29 Jun 11
I think many focus on the trivial because they Think they can fix the small stuff, the big stuff , not so much. I have been always so weird. I can handle the large stuff, the trivial is what gets me.
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• United States
13 Sep 11
I guess you can look at that in a positive way. Most people are the opposite. It seems to be a balancing act. Knowing how to successfully cope and deal with things that come our way.
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@Suzieqmom (2763)
• United States
29 Jun 11
It is a natural reaction--it is easier, and less emotionally draining, to focus on little stuff than it is to focus on the bigger or more important stuff that is happening in our lives, especially if the bigger stuff is overwhelming or out of our control. For instance, a family member is dying and there is nothing you can do about it--you feel distress, sadness, and anger at being unable to "fix" or change the situation. A trivial, meaningless, problem comes up at work, but it is something you can control or fix-it is natural for you to focus on the small issue that you can do something about as a "proxy" for the larger issue that is frustrating you. As long as you recognize that the trivial issues are, indeed, trivial, is it ok to get distracted by them sometimes. Just try and step back every now and again and take a look at the big picture, and you will remember what is truly important.
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• United States
13 Sep 11
All that you mentioned is so true. I agree that it is important to look at and remember the big picture. To really think and reflect on what is important to me. What things I want out of life and how to go about focusing on these things.
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
I agree. A lot of things can be a distraction. Your personal life can be a drag to your professional one. I know there are different ways to separate the two but it's just hard to do that.
• United States
13 Sep 11
Yes it is very hard to separate the two. I'm continually working on that. Some times I get so caught up in work. And it takes a lot of time and effort and many times I'm not getting paid that much and so I have to work harder and longer.So it is a balancing act that I've got to try and master.
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
That right. If it's work, it should only be work. You can't involve your personal life there. That's why when it's my day off, I don't like being disturbed, especially by workmates since I treat those days as relaxation days where I can unwind and just relax.
@KrauseHome (33746)
• United States
3 Jul 11
It is so easy from time to time to have things happen that can distract us from what really matters. Sometimes it can be done just to distract us long enough to help get us to think of something else other that our Health issues, or financial issues for a bit while at other times it is done to take our mind off of things we really need to do. Overall it is best to stay focused and forth right in order to help make sure things continue to go good in our life from now on.
• United States
13 Sep 11
I agree it is good for us to keep a clear focus of the things that we need to do. Getting distracted can waste our precious time, especially when their are pressing matters at hand. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts.
@Near2011 (155)
• United States
29 Jun 11
the answer is quite simple. People are easily distracted because they lack focus. Those who have focus aren't hung up on trivial nonsense.
• United States
13 Sep 11
That is a good point. We need focus. It is absolutely essential if we aren't going to be distracted. Thanks so much for your thoughts. I will keep this in mind.