Relocating for Love

@lisa0351 (303)
United States
June 30, 2011 3:13am CST
Well, after many failed relationships and a lot of heart break, even a divorce, I have found the one. We got engaged a few months ago and are getting married in Tennessee in September. However, he lives an hour away from me so I am relocating. I am leaving this weekend to move in with him. I have given notice at my job, packed up my apartment, and Im moving from the only town Ive ever lived in. I know Im in love, and this is the best choice for me, no regrets, but its been so difficult. I have no friends other than his family and friends, and I only have a part time job. Im kind of sad about leaving, but happy to start my life with him. Anyone have any advice on relocating for love? Anyone ever done the same?
8 responses
@nurseclare (2210)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
Holla lisa, I know you're one of the happiest girl now. I'm happy for you girl! I haven't tried relocating and I'm not yet engaged. That's a good side on you for you will have a new environment, new people to met. That sounds really fun! You don't have to be anxious at all. Just enjoy the moment.I know you'll have all the fun in the world and make the most out of it! :)
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@lisa0351 (303)
• United States
30 Jun 11
Thank you! It has been really fun with all the changes. Its been kind of a challenge, but I'm up for it. Its really excited because we are getting married in Gatlinburg, TN. I cant wait, so much going on, but Ive never been happier!
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
1 Jul 11
Well, I've never done this before, so I am not sure if what I am going to tell you is relevant or a help to you. For me, it's clear that I would have to be comfortable and stable in my relationship with my fiance and his family, as well as secure in my job. Then, I would start finding new friends in the area also getting to know my neighbors.
@lisa0351 (303)
• United States
1 Jul 11
That is a very very good idea! i didnt even know where to begin making friends. Thank you everyone for the good advice! I am really excited to see where things go!
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
1 Jul 11
u can always start finding friends in your working area and your neighbors...
• United States
30 Jun 11
I know I met husband online and we lived in different states. He lives in Idaho and I was living in California. I came to Idaho to visit him back in 2004 and have never left. It was love at first sight for the both of us. It was hard leaving my friends and family, but on the other hand I knew that he was the one and that made it worth it. I wish you all the best.
@lisa0351 (303)
• United States
1 Jul 11
Thank you so much! These are my final couple days in the town I have lived in all my life. It is kind of bittersweet leaving everything I have ever known, but on the other hand I know without a doubt I made the best decision for me. I can't wait to begin my new life, with the one I love!
@SIMPLYD (79762)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
It is okay , to relocate. as long as you have a job, and be with your love one. In no time, you will gain friends there and find a more stable job. Just be friendly and have a happy disposition. Good luck Lisa. I know that you will be happy with him, as i can read between the lines, that you are . So, go for it.
@lisa0351 (303)
• United States
30 Jun 11
Thank you so much! It means a lot! Honestly, I have never been so happy! Im just getting the jitters since its such a huge change and all
@sanjay91422 (2728)
• India
30 Jun 11
It is great that you found your love of life. It is no big deal to relocate when you love each others. I am not married yet but I have felt the love myself. I thing everything legal is fair in love. Do what you mutually want to do. Good luck to you.
@lisa0351 (303)
• United States
30 Jun 11
Thank you so much! Im really nervous. I hit the point where I could barely stand leaving him and he was the same with me. I cant wait to see how close we get when I move up there. Its amazing where life sends you!
• United States
1 Jul 11
You are lucky because you are not relocating very far. My mom moved from Maryland to Ohio when my parents got married. All her relatives are in Maryland and we would take vacations to go see them when I was a child. It will take a little bit of getting used to being in a new environment and getting used to your future spouse's quirks but when you love each other and it is a real love everything will work out in the end.
@neusdo (33)
• Puerto Rico
30 Jun 11
Hi! Congratulations on your engagement! It's always difficult to leave behind everything that is familiar tu us, as human beings, we're afraid of change, but if you feel confident that this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with and you're happy in your relationship, I'm sure you'll be fine. At first you'll only have his family and his friends but you'll be making new friends soon and start enjoying your life in your new place. I wish you all the best in this new journey!
@RitterSport (2452)
• Lippstadt, Germany
30 Jun 11
hi lisa first of all congrats on finding the one you want to spend the rest of your life with and are happy with. Great to hear you relocate and will have a part time job so you have more time for your husband I have been there and done that. As during our engagement we lived a 4 hour drive away from each other I relocated to where my husband already lived. I didnt want to uproot him into the much more expensive surroundings of my own hometown. His and my family are an1,5 resp. 3 hour drive away from us and thats a blessing so we can really have a married life without them interfering all the time. Due to the fact I kept my job in my old hometown and also switched to part time a typical work day for me looks like this: take the train at 5 am, commute to work, reach work 930 am then work till 4 pm and commute back , reaching home about 8:30 to 9 pm but its worth it. The surroundings here are nicer, its healthier air here, the costs of living are way lower than in my old hometown and its a nice new hometown for me.