CHOOSE: Your own happiness/finding yourself worth or Your Children?

Philippines
July 1, 2011 4:53pm CST
When you are asked to choose between the two.. what will it be the former/? or the latter. If it is me, I'll choose the former. I have to choose my own happiness and find myself worth first. Why so that my children can be proud me... cause If I choose them... what will be it then...? when they can only see a mother without the will to stand on her own...? But even so... this is really hard to make a choice.... because we have to be careful on what we choose for... cause if we choose one... the other will be left behind..... Care to give some insights?
3 responses
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
I guess before you got married and had children, you already find you're worth so you wouldn't be confused regarding choosing of priorities. When you are single, it is easier to find your own happiness but if you are a mom, all that matters is my children's future and their welfare.
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
Agree, but what if after the marriage, you're self worth is gone, cause it's been taken away from you. then your given an oppurtunity to gain that back but with a price... You have to choose... between that self worth and that of your children... which of the two you will choose then?
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
I'll still choose my children because in the end what will matter most to me is my children's happiness and not mine. What if I find my self worth and after saw my children's future ruined, that will not make me happy either. As a mom, our source of happiness and contentment relies with our children and our family's happiness and safety. What can make them happy can make me happy also. Whatever they achieve in life is also my own achievement. There's nothing to regret compared to the welfare of my children.
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
So... it's always like that... yeah... I guess it's really great to care and nurture your children, so that they will be great people when they grow up... unlike today on which there are no longer children on which you can say... will be great when they will grow up as a man...
@GemmaR (8526)
3 Jul 11
I find it hard to separate the two, if I'm being honest with you. You're saying that you wouldn't feel happy if you chose your children, however I am confident that if I chose mine, I would be as happy as I have ever been in my entire life. I think that I have already achieved a lot in my life so that my children would be proud of me, and I don't see how this would change as you cannot change the past. I have worked very hard to give them a good life, and would never choose anything over them, so my answer to this question will always be the same.
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
What if... during that time or what if... the things you have achieved are gone, your self worth is suddenly taken away...and no matter how hard ou work you still did not get that worth back.... but one time you are asked an oppurtunity to have it all back but with a prize... and that is for you to choose...what will it be then...?
@devideddi (1437)
• United States
1 Jul 11
I like to think that both are actually possible. I see your point but I look at things a little different. As a Christian I don't get my happiness from my self worth necessarily. God gives me an inner peace that allows me to be happy. He also assures me I am worthy thanks to his son Jesus Christ. But back to the children. I think if a person chooses to have children they should give them their all. Meaning put them first even if that makes me have to miss out sometimes. Making sure a child has a healthy childhood with lots and lots of love, attention, one on one caring for, is the most important thing anyone can ever do for a child. I am very passionate about children. So thanks for the great discussion question!
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
Thanks I agree with you. But what if you are ask to choose between the two... what would it be? and at that time just a scenario, you're self worth is suddenly taken away from you... and you are ask to choose... what will it be?