Do You Get Too Busy?

You might consider me to be too mushy but I believe that is one of the most romantic things to surprise your spouse when she least expects it. Like I remember once going to my girls job a little early and waiting outside with a rose until I saw a teenager walking by and gave him a dollar to go in and ask for her by name and hand her the rose and tell her, "from a secret admirer." She spoke about that one for a long time. lol But to answer your question, I always check-in with my significant other not because she expects it, but because I think its nice. Plus, I like to hear here voice from time to time. Makes my day more meaningful. lol

It sometimes concerns me when I don't hear from him, but only because he tends to call too much, so when he doesn't call at all, I begin to wonder if something happened..He also works over 40 miles away, so he calls on his commute and even when he is just a mile from home, just to talk, something that he can do when he gets here..But, he doesn't because that is his, "time to sleep" time and he stays that way until the morning..So, I rather him not call and spend time with me here at home, than to hear he talk on the phone and then not be with me..

hi lovingmybabies I am a widow but I never expected my hubbyto dall me from work as he wo rked as a cook, and cooks are busy and restaurrants are not call c enters for hubbies to call wives.You need to loosen up you are not going to lose him just b ecause he is wor king and not thinking of you right then.look at it this way. he loves you and wants you to always have a good roof over your head, plenty of good food to eat and all utilities paid. thats proof of a lot of love. A lot of places do not like their employees getting and making personal calls.I do not mean to sound harsh but when a mate is at work you must not bother him just for calls asking if he loves you. real love does not evaporate each day. Be confident that your hubbie does love you very much.I was not upset because he did not call.He was working.The only time I ever called him were emergency calls like telling him the baby is coming so am taking cab to the hospital.You soon will be a papa.

No! It does not upset me if my hubby did not care to call me all through the day. I understand he is at work and is busy with his job. Why should I expect or demand him to call me then? At any rate after 8 hours he would go home and we will see each other.I don't think it is right to think that if he loves me he should call me within the day. That is too childish! That is not the only way a husband could express love. There are a hundred and more ways. So why should I be upset only because he misses to call me during the day when I know he is at work and must concentrate on his job? I would not worry about him not calling at all. What would give me much worry is if did not go home even just for a day.

If he's working for himself (as I believe you said), there's a very good chance he's inundated with stuff to do: self-employment is a very tough business. I wouldn't be particularly upset if my lady was at work all day and didn't call, but it would be nice if she did. My lady's the same as you, though: she felt a bit abandoned when I was working a fair distance from home (once about a half-hour's drive, another time 2.5 hours by train/bus). Not in a bad way, just a bit lonely and so on. So I always made sure I took my lunch break at a specific time and spent 10 minutes on the phone with her. She knew she couldn't phone whenever she felt like it but knew I'd call and see how things were going every day. Fair trade. Of course, now I freelance part-time from home amid other responsibilities, so I'm always around. Much better.

Hello LovingMyBabies, I must sustain the other side's point of view. I'm at work the whole day and my partner stays home. There are days when I don't have the time to call him but this doesn't mean that I don't think about him. The tasks at the office are sometimes so demanding that I don't have time not even to eat my lunch! But he knows this and he never complained that I forgot him. Now, hearing your opinion, I've started to think: what if he feels like I don't care about him but he doesn't tell me anything?

I try not too but really I often find myself missing on letting my boyfriend know I already have eaten and even if I an goodies forget to tell him to let him know I an already home. I guess most of us do not notice how much time we spend at work or being busy body neglect our loved ones.

Sometimes I am very busy, but still I will send my partner a message every couple of hours to make sure that they're okay. You shouldn't really expect to hear from him when he's at work though, as he shouldn't be making personal calls in company time. Maybe in his lunch break he could get in touch with you, however it is probably not appropriate because he would have to have his lunch in the short amount of time that they're actually given. As long as you make time for each other when you're both not working, it should be okay. Just remember that he is busy because he wants to best for you and wants you to be happy and get whatever you want in your life.

I feel it shouldn't upset you if he doesn't call from office.The reason why he is working hard is to provide for you and your family.If he shirks work or doesn't provide for you then you have a problem.Though I am sure if you persuaded him in your intimate moments he'll change and show his concern for you.

I have been on both sides of the fence here so to speak. When I was working outside the home, I was fairly high up in the organization and had a pretty important job. There were certain times of the month and year when I barely got a bathroom break and had to scarf down my lunch at my desk while I was working. During those times, I really could not talk on the phone unless it was absolutely necessary and really important. I definitely did not have time to call just to say "I love you", but that does not mean that I loved him any less. When I started to stay at home my husband would call to check on how things were going. While I thought this was sweet, he would always seem to call at the worst times, such as when I had finally gotten the baby to sleep and was trying to get a couple things done before she woke up and needed to be fed and changed again. I knew he was trying to show me that he cared, but I wasn't any less busy staying home than I was when I was working outside the house. If you really feel that strongly about him calling, though, then maybe you should talk with him and tell him how you feel. Also listen to him and try to understand if he cannot call you. Maybe he could manage to call you every other day or something, which would make you feel better and still allow him to do what he needs to do while he is at work.

I think it is very important to make the balance between the love and professional life. One has to give the time to both. If we talk about the relations ship alone then it matters a lot on the attraction between the two of you. Don't be careless and also don't be too much demanding, that is what one should have in their mind. I don't know what is your case but I hope it gets better. Stay cool and calm.. have a nice day ahead.

@lovingmybabies: I believe you love your significant other very much, because you really want his attention towards you all the time. But perhaps work is work, and personal is personal. I believe that it is in the best interest of yours and his for you to not to call him when he is at work (or expecting him to call you). I believe he is working for your family, and to distract him from doing his work is somewhat inapropriate, isn't it? Just my two cents. No offense, though.

Sometimes me and my partner gets really busy with our separate work, and during those times we tend to be more focused on what we do individually. It's not that we don't have time for each other, I guess we just mutually respect each other's career path and the least that we could do is to support each other with our jobs. When she's down, I'm there for her, and vice versa.

Yes it happens when you are busy in some work and don't have much time to think about other stuff!

Hi there, I do get upset when my significant other fails to call or text me if he gets too busy. I get all sorts of emotionally imbalanced so I make it a point to corner him at some point in his day. A gal has to make her man understand that we need constant love and care. Otherwise, a relationship, a marriage may well disintegrate. :) Let him know your thoughts. Be honest with him. Initiate sweetness and love notes or texts. A man who is in love will respond. Don't stew in passive-aggressive anger. Get it out in the open. But if the husband resents unconditional, no-strings-attached expressions of affection from you, if I were in your shoes, I'd be thinking about whether he's having an affair. Just sayin'.

My husband would call sometimes during the day if he wasn't busy.But,he was making the money to pay the rent for the apartment that I chose for our family.He earned to pay for the electric that powered the tv,that he also paid for the cable hook up each month,so me and the kids could watch the channels and shows that we wanted to.The electric also ran the computer that he bought me that was hooked to the internet service that he paid for and didn't ever use.His time away working paid for the car that I drove,along with it's necessities,tags,taxes,gas,oil and so on. However,if he was busy and didn't call I did not mind....sure I missed his hearing his voice.But,I appreciated what he was doing and NEVER said anything to him,like,"Why didn't you call me?".I knew why and understood. One day,you might be sorry you did not appreciate him working hard and not always being at your call.I miss my husband calling me when he can,working hard to provide for us. You need to be more thankful and grateful.

I find if you're talking all the time then you run out of things to talk about. Not because you have nothing in common, but because you've been talking all day. I'm fine with my "Significant other" being busy all day and then talking to me at night. If anything I think it's better that way. If you can't occupy yourself for eight hours, you have some problems.

I do think that families should stay in touch daily because we do need to hear from one another. Not to nag one another but to show we care about the other.