It Hurts A Lot When Nobody Responds...

Philippines
July 3, 2011 9:59pm CST
I must say it really affects me a lot on how many people responded to my discussion. I think it also impacts on how many more people would respond to a discussion. Usually, if I find a discussion with many responses I would look at it and find myself interested to respond too. But it's really a bad feeling when nobody responds to my discussion. I think everybody feels the same. We make discussions expecting responses, and when very few or even none responds.. it just hurts.. Oh yeah, it hurts, right guys? What do you think should we do to drive people respond to our discussions? What do you think?
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17 responses
• United States
4 Jul 11
Sorry you have felt this way. I have not had discussions where I have not received responses, but then I do not start many. When members start a lot of discussions in one sitting sometimes a members discussion get get deeper buried in the pages. It then gets deeper in the no response tab. As a new member I was told by very experienced members that it is wise to respond to others discussion with useful and helpful information. They in turn will remember the interaction and will see your discussions and respond to them as they have already seen the perhaps compatible interests. I usually get anywhere between 40 -90 responses on any discussion I create, and because of my furthering with it in comments, I would not be able to keep up with more then one at a time. Though not compulsory to comment back, if a member does not comment back, I have seen where they later receive less responses. I believe the reason is because when some take the time to research, place careful thoughts as responses and not receive a comment they are unsure if the member has actually read it. Try a bit more on responding to others and maybe that may help increase your discussion responses. Also as you build your friend list, I have heard that some members will PM their friends and ask if it is okay to send them a url of your discussion to see if they can respond to it, where as it gets relived and many others will see it in the recent tab. But be sure to ask so they do not feel spammed. Hope this helps.
• India
4 Jul 11
Thanx harworkinggurl.as a newbie i didn.t know abt that much.but u told me that.thanx for that.it will help me in future.
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• Philippines
4 Jul 11
Wow.. Your response is indeed very useful and full of information. Honestly, you're right. When somebody responds back with a very meaningful response, I would be very eager to look at their profile and see their discussions. Wow.. I think your name here really identifies you. Thank you for the tips. I'll try my best to use them and keep them in my head.. I think you're now the very experienced user giving nice advices to new ones.. Well I'm not so new but really not experienced.. LOL.. Thanks.
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• United States
4 Jul 11
I am a member now for 13 months and active for 10 full months. What helped me was really reading the veterans discussions/responses/comments and re-reading at times until I understood. I am grateful to them for having advised me and having the patience to show me the way here on myLot. There are several far more experienced here, I just keep reading and learning. lol So what I do know is simply pay it forward.
@sjvg1976 (18403)
• Delhi, India
5 Jul 11
hello Bannybanzie, This happens sometimes that you don't get comments on you topic but it should not affect you rather you should take a lesson from it & create more interesting topics to attract more & more people. In order to get more responses on your discussion you must increase your friend's list so that more people could get notification when you start discussions.You should respond people with quality responses so that people could identify you, you should make an image in front of other MYLOTTERS so that they may be able to recognize you & could respond your discussion.I remember when i joined MYLOT 1 month back i got only 2~3 responses on my starting discussions that was really upsetting but now i do get 20~30 responses on my discussion which is better because i have been responding to more discussions thats why people do respond if you don't respond to other's discussion they will not respond to your discussion so make it a habit to always respond more & more to other's discussion.
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
Yeah... maybe I should respond to other's discussions too more often than what I'm doing now. Thanks!
@sjvg1976 (18403)
• Delhi, India
5 Jul 11
yes try it & see the difference.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
4 Jul 11
Being that you're relatively new still, you probably haven't built up a friends list so not many are getting notified of your discussions. It takes time to establish yourself so please hang in there, you'll be making friends in no time. Trust me in that! Now I'm going to ask you to be my friend so I can get your discussions in my email so I can respond to them. Another thing to remember, not everybody has something to contribute to every discussion or they're just busy with their daily lives so there's a few things to consider, ok? Also, when someone responds, always comment back for that's what mylot is about..... conversation.... to give an opinion, all in a nice or courtesy and consideration of others feelings.
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
Well, I think that's one thing I need to do now. Establish myself by adding new friends so many would see and may respond to my discussion. Thanks! Accept me, okay?
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
5 Jul 11
Oh I've accepted you!! lol Cool! You know, what you didn't know at the time, I was using my cell phone to respond to you and I was in the doctors office with my mother. She is really sick and come to find out, she has pnemonia. I was in the waiting room waiting for her to come out from seeing the doctor. I just happened upon your discussion and had to respond. So in a sense, you helped me and in turn, we became friends! How cool is that? LOL
• Singapore
4 Jul 11
Hi Bannybanzie, I have an experience of that when I got zero response to my post, I remember I keep checking it from time to time and still no response. Later I posted a topic similar to what you put here, asking for advice from the veterans here and to my surprise, that post got more responses. Since then, I have gathered some guidelines which I will share them with you here, these are just my own realizations and hope they are useful to you. 1. Phrase your question in a way that makes people want to respond. Make the topic interesting. 2. Describe what you want to ask in detail, that way, people can understand better what you are trying to say. 3. Always respond back. This is major important, because it shows that you are reading what people said and inputting your own thoughts, so there is a two-way communication. This will encourage others to join in. I have disappeared quite a while so by replying to this post, I'm actually giving myself a refresher course, thanks!
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
bluemoon, wow.. I looked at your profile and it's so nice. Really... Thanks for your tips. I'd try my best to use them in discussions I make. Thanks!
• Singapore
7 Jul 11
Hi Vidhyaprakash, husband of sridashika Yes I remember that discussion. I am happy that it made you forgot your worries for a while, I like to bring joy into life, both mine and others as well. Thanks for reminding me of the wonderful time I had in mylot back then. Bannybanzie, I see that you are starting to do well already as you have responded to every one of the replies here. Some may be short but responding makes a mylotter feels respected that his/her comments are being read. Good for you!
@sfleric (83)
• China
4 Jul 11
Maybe the topic itself should be more attractive. Have a good title is a good way to draw attention from Myloters. It makes them curious about what you would indicate in the content, and they would be patient to read what you really want to say and may get shocked or attracted to respond a lot to you.
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
Yeah, the title does a lot of things here. If the title is not good, nobody would read it and nobody would respond. That's what I'm trying to improve now.
• China
5 Jul 11
I hope I would see your topic on the list of "today's top" frequently. And I would never be tired of responding to it.
• Philippines
4 Jul 11
Yeah banzie sure it hurts but we have also to consider that our audience have different backgrounds in life. We must try to browse what's hot for the day and do some little research to stimulate people to respond especially if we have some data to be presented. It depends also on the mood of myLotters logged in that time of the day. For me it is just like fishing so just continue swinging your rod and reel and they come to respond to you. After all myLot is a place for good natured people.
• Philippines
4 Jul 11
Yup.. When I see a discussion that is so hit for everyone with a lot of responses, I try to see what's the essence of it and see if I can too share something similar to it (but not the same, as in photocopy). Yeah.. it all depends to everybody's mood. Thanks
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
You're welcome Banny.
@silverglint (2001)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
I think you should not take it personally, sometimes, your discussion might be interesting but it just got buried under the many new discussions. you can try to comment on the same discussion again so that it will show up on the home page once again and people can see and comment on them
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
Hello! Now, all my discussions have been answered... I'm happy. Anyways, thanks for the tip. I'll surely do that in time of need.
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
Hello Banny, When i really first started in this site, I had so many discussions with empty responses. but that's because the topics are credited already, that change now. It's bad and sad that if people doesn't response to our topics, then either they're not interested or they didn't see it because of the que of different discussions. I tell you what, respond to a few who are active, they will respond to you. but that's because i was one heck of a responder and it works.now am just being lenient in reponding to discussions now adays.
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
Ahhh yeah.. Give and take. Respond to active members because they are more likely to respond... Well.. I think I'm starting to learn from the veterans!
• Philippines
4 Jul 11
Post a discussion that is really interesting or maybe you can study yourself the discussion that you made in the past that responded my many. Good luck!
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
Yup! It takes effort to make a discussion a hit.
• Philippines
4 Jul 11
Yeah, I also felt the same way. When I started joining here and start a discussion and nobody response, I felt a little embarrassed to my self. I don't know I just felt neglected. Lolz. But When I get used to it, it would felt better then.
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
Yeah... it's really sad when nobody likes to respond. But knowing the fact that it really happens, well, that feels better. Thanks
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
4 Jul 11
For me yes as a normal person if may differ you but try to response the discussion you may gain income.
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
okay.. I respond!!! Thanks. Short but... uhmm.. right, right?
• Australia
4 Jul 11
The discussion stay there along time not getting a response strait away doesn't necessarily mean that you wont get a repsonse ever. I have posted discussion noone has replied too and i wasn't trying to post useless discussion. Dont take it to heart just post another or make some friends so you atleast know that people might look at your discussion and that it wont get lost amongst the chit chat. Compared to the amount of so called active user of mylot there isn't many responses on anyone discussions there should be thousands or atleast hundreds. but then people probably wouldn't respond, I think try to post in interest that you see used commonly might create more attention to your discussion. I preffer unique discussions myself and they don't always have alot of posts either. I think its a matter of how many people here share your interests or have an opinion on your discussion.
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
Yeah, that's another good point. I have one discussion here that nobody responded. I thought it would just be like that. But after more than one week, somebody made a response! And really few active mylotters compared to overall number. Yeah, also I think the number of discussions made under that interest is an issue. The more discussions, the less likely it will be noticed unless it's really good, right?
@Arnel_24 (155)
• Philippines
4 Jul 11
I think, the reason why some people dont respond is because of the topic and the one who created the topic.. Maybe, one couldnt relate or doesn't like the topic.. Maybe, you must choose a topic that everyone could relate, and try to be friendly and active.
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
Yup! How could we answer if we don't get it, right?
@vangie26 (449)
• Philippines
4 Jul 11
Maybe the reason why there are some discussions that don't have responses is because the topic is very plain and not interesting. The best thing to do to avoid zero response is to think first of a topic that would interest mostly of your friends. But nevertheless, not having responses should not affect you because we can always posts topics anytime and who knows, one of the topics, you can receive many responses. :-)
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
Yeah... you're right. We are inclined to respond when the discussion is something interesting. I think the title does a lot, too. What do you think?
@marie2052 (3697)
• United States
4 Jul 11
I am really sorry to hear that people are not responding to your discussions. I have one that no one EVER responded to. not even friends I just figure no one saw it or did not respond. I know some times I have to be careful when responding to discussions if they are political. Even though we are supposed to be free to respond our true feelings we ruffle someone else's feathers and get told off. then there are discussions that if I read and cannot reply to I rate them anyway for giving them credit for writing the discussion even though i cannot or do not have a reply for. there are tons of discussions started on mylot every day I think it would be kind of neat to have the years marked so we could go back even when Mylot first started and find discussions started. but I find so many to reply to that are new I try to just stick up front and continue. But i have to know something about the discussion or I can't reply. Hope this helps you understand some. wishing you more luck on mylot! Maybe add some new friends and dump some of the ones with really low numbers if they are not showing up on Mylot.
• Philippines
4 Jul 11
Yeah... sometimes in sensitive issues, even if we know we are free to say what we want here, we just cannot. I understand that. And honestly, well, I just had one discussion with no answer, and it was solved. I got one answer with that now, and that's from you. Thanks. A lot of reasons why sometimes people cannot or do not respond to discussions. Thank you.
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
4 Jul 11
Well, it not gonna hurt me at least, but I would find it a bit disappointing though if no one wants respond on my discussion I made. But it would also give yourself an encouragement to make a better discussion next time, so people might find it interesting again. It is part of the marketing strategy that you should practice on. If you can get people's attention, you win. If not, you lose. Next time you will be better.
• Philippines
4 Jul 11
Oh yeah.. not really hurt but disappointed. Yup, I like your attitude. Make it better the next time around. Thanks!
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
4 Jul 11
Oh it is nothing to feel bad about. It doesn't mean anything bad about you and it doesn't even mean that your discussion was uninteresting. Sometimes people just cannot relate to the topic or sometimes they are too lazy to read the discussion because of its length. lol. People seem to be drawn to controversial discussion topics and also very general ones that they can relate to.
• Philippines
4 Jul 11
Yeah.. you're right.. when something is controversial.. everybody craves to share something.. LOL... That's what I also do.. ha ha.. Thanks anyway