People Here on MyLot Are from All Over the World!

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United States
July 5, 2011 4:48pm CST
Often times, I find myself trying to explain or give information about something here on myLot from the point of view of a person living in the US. Since I live in the US, I only know about things from an American's point of view. Therefore, that is how I tell it. This can sometimes offend someone, or you could be considered ignorant. What I should do, and plan on doing from now on, is keep in mind that everyone here on myLot is not from the US. There are people from all over the world. Of course, I already knew this... but I just forget sometimes when responding or commenting to discussions. I guess I just get excited about responding! I just really need to remember that people here on myLot are from all over the world, and things are not always the same in other countries. I think this is something that all myLotters should keep in mind. When you respond or comment, is this something you always remember, and respond accordingly to? Or, do you often forget like me?
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36 responses
• United States
5 Jul 11
Hi Angelee I try to keep it in mind when I answer...but I can still only respond from my own understanding. Like someone 20 years old complaining that her dad and mom won't let her have a boyfriend ...or a young man twenty something years old complaining that his parents demand he take care of them financially and refuse to let him have a life of his ow.... I tell them they are adults. They are not children and until the create healthy boundaries with their parents they will continue to be controlled by their parents. It's time they grow up and leave home if they want their freedom. I don't know any other way to help but to be honest from my own understanding. I'm sure I'm probably way wrong but that is the only way to be free sometimes.
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• United States
5 Jul 11
Hi PQ! I think all of us myLotters should respond with our honest opinion, views, and from our own understanding on most discussions. However, in some cases, we should really consider that things may be different where the other person lives. Saying things like "Here, we do it like this..." or, "In my country, we..." to let the person know we are simply responding with how we see things, and that we are not assuming that things are done or thought about in the same way in our country, as there country. I explained an instance in a discussion that brought me to create this discussion in a comment above.
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@urbandekay (18312)
6 Jul 11
It is strange conversing with Americans for several reasons and these are both cultural and linguistic. You generally misuse the word Liberal Liberal used correctly means someone in favour of small government and a champion of individual liberty. Left and right in politics, both your parties are right wing. Culturally you are very different from us in UK, thinks I. You appear far more insular and parochial and have an odd association of Christianity with right wing politics. You seem to suffer from racial prejudice more than Europeans. I have read comments from Americans suggesting that they invented everything from the flushing toilet to the World-Wide-Web (Both British inventions) and that you won the Second World War (More a result of Russian action than that of the US) Your rabid hatred of anything slightly politically to the left of the KKK and preponderance to shoot first and ask questions later are baffling to a European. As is your abhorrence at what is, in European eyes, the mark of a civilised country, a free public health system all the best urban
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• United States
6 Jul 11
I must say, you seem extremely intelligent... and yes, I am an American, but I do not disagree. However, not all Americans are the same. Not all Americans feel the same about things. Just as not all Europeans think the same. I do not think it is fair to say that Americans are like this, or like that. As it is stereotyping. Not everyone is one way.
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@urbandekay (18312)
7 Jul 11
Angelee, Hatley, of course I understand US is full of a diverse range of people with diverse views. Understand though that I am talking about the impression your culture gives and not about any individual. All those impressions can be found in the writings of US citizens here. all the best urban
@Awinds (2472)
• United States
5 Jul 11
It depends on the question. If the question is about work, money or land, I will check the user's profile to see if their country of residence is listed. This way I know how to better respond. For example if a Canadian is asking a money related question, I know not to give money amounts in US dollars. Of course this approach only works for technical questions. As for more general questions, you are kind of out of luck. Users here come from dozens of different cultures. There is no way you can learn the mannerisms of all of them in one lifetime. You just have to go with your gut and be as polite as you can. If you offend someone because their culture interprets something differently, you can't really be blamed. You didn't know. You can try to remember that for next time, but you might not retain it. Consideration, friendliness and a bit of intuition is enough.
• United States
5 Jul 11
Hi Awinds, Thanks for responding! I agree. It most definitely depends on the discussion, question, or topic. The particular discussion that brought me to start this discussion was about PayPal. I responded with information according to PayPal in the US, without considering the fact that the person may not be from the US... and PayPal works differently and has different rules in different countries. In this case, I should have checked where they were from, instead of just responding according to my country. Which I plan on doing from now on.
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@Awinds (2472)
• United States
6 Jul 11
Good for you! It is amazing how different things are from country to country - you would think paypal could be the same across the board, but no. :)
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• United States
6 Jul 11
I know! I would have thought something like PayPal would be the same internationally, but it's not. Weird, huh?
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@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
6 Jul 11
i do not respond to topics where i do not have knowledge of but when i do, i reply with all honesty and politeness (even in disagreeing), irregardless where they come from.
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• United States
6 Jul 11
Hi bingskee, I also disagree politely, haha... and I think it is something everyone should do. Everyone is going to have different opinions and views on things, and you cannot expect people to think exactly as you do. Therefore, when two people do not agree, they should just agree to disagree. There is no point in arguing over who is right and who is wrong, when both people are right in a way.
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@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
6 Jul 11
Since myLot is a community that is composed of many races I see to it that i response and make comments accordingly with the topic and if I have to include my point of view from where i come from, I make sure that i have to mention it in order not to offend. Sometimes I totally ignore those discussions that is outright hostile to my own disposition as one different race.
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• United States
6 Jul 11
Hi EdnaReyes, That's great. It sounds like you are going about everything the right way!
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• Philippines
6 Jul 11
Yep, I too, always take note that whenever I respond to a discussion or start one, that there are other people from around the world here. Although, I also forget that sometimes because there are just too many Filipino myLotters here. I often feel at home hanging out here and that's one of the reasons why I forget.
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• United States
6 Jul 11
It's okay to forget sometimes, as long as you apologize and explain if you happen to offend anyone.
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@hora_fugit (5430)
• India
6 Jul 11
Well I don't think about it and it comes to me naturally. And also, my posts are usually independent of locations so I was never caught... may it be soon. There are some topics where I make sure the other person is from my country or region so I can answer correctly. Yet there are situations when I seek out for people from around the world but not from my country. :D I don't go to politics though. Somehow I feel it must be renamed US politics. Kind of annoys me with its monotone.
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• United States
6 Jul 11
I don't mess with politics either! Way to messy for me!
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• Australia
6 Jul 11
I like to read your posts! I think you should answer honestly and you are just as entitled to your opinion as anyone else from another part of the world. I live in Australia and my point of view if the only one i know i don't want to apologise for being honest its like apologising for being real. I do try to understand that people here are from all over the world. I don't think that i have offended anyone. If i have it was unintentional.
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• United States
6 Jul 11
Most of the times that people offend others, it's unintentional. I don't see why anyone would want to intentionally offend someone.
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• Philippines
6 Jul 11
Hello angelee, The only thing that i remind myself to is that never respond to foreign politics, most specially in the US, because debates there are heated that it's gonna boil me. I don't respond to foreign politics except on my own. . but if it's related to every one i would respond to it.
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• United States
6 Jul 11
Hello Letran! Haha, I don't respond to anything related to politics! It's too much debating, arguing, contradicting, etc... I don't want anything to do with it!
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• Philippines
6 Jul 11
Hi Angelee. Indeed we got a lot of people around the world with different views and opinions here so i find myself in a filtering state before responding to the discussions because I might offend somebody and ruin her or his day. I am here in the far east so there's a need for me to think twice before posting but I am really grateful for my friends across the world for giving their views on my humble discussions through myLot.
• United States
6 Jul 11
Hi fujisaki61, That's great that you think before you respond. We should all do that!
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@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
5 Jul 11
Yes, people in Mylot are from around the world. So, i think it is really very important as to respond in such a way as to not offend anyone. But if i need to explain why i am disagree with certain point of view, then i will let them know politely with the reason. I think as long we are always being respectful when giving our opinion, won't have any problem with it. It is worth to bear in mind that we should always give our opinion based on things that we only have knowledge, so that our opinion will not be off-topic and caused misunderstanding.
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• United States
5 Jul 11
Hi myfb2009! I agree. We all should always be as respectful and polite as possible when giving our opinion so that we do not offend anyone. However, we should not have to agree with everything everyone says just to get along. We are all entitled to our own opinion and views on things.
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• Netherlands
5 Jul 11
Good point Angelee_27. Well since I am not from the USA I did realise they do not all come from the USA. But I really should realise that habits and beliefs are different. And not all country have had the same development as we did. I think that is one of the cool things here on my lot. Learning about other countries and habits of other countries. I will keep your comments in mind and Try to be thinking about our fellow - earthlings too. Respect to you for mentioning this!
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• United States
5 Jul 11
Hi ieniemienie, I agree. Learning about other countries and their habits here on myLot is a great privilege.
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@jeneias (608)
• United States
5 Jul 11
I don't forget, but I don't think about it at all when responding to discussions. Maybe it's because I am not only American but also half Brazilian, so I have two different "world views" I guess you could say. But I try not to let that get in the way, as I feel that's a bit like censoring yourself. If you share or give information from a point of view of an American, you're giving people from other countries a little insight into how we think. The same way we get to see how people from other countries think when they post.
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• United States
5 Jul 11
Hi jeneias, What an interesting response! I have to say, I agree with you... that is a great point you've brought up, and I didn't think about it like that!
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
hello Angel, You can still express your views or disagree with the comment without hurting or offending them. We don't need to agree with each other due to our differences but we can inter-act in a healthy manner. I also write my comment according to my opinion and views,I disagree but tried my best not to write any bad words. If the person misunderstood me,it's fine..it is because we have different views right. But then again...as long I never say any bad words,or I never cursed,I still feel fine
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• United States
5 Jul 11
Hi jaiho2009, I agree. We are all entitled to our own opinions and views on things, and as long as we share them in a polite and respectful manner, there is nothing wrong with sharing them.
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@nezavisima (7417)
• Bulgaria
5 Jul 11
Mylon to here there are so many people. from all around the world and we all write and talk about different things. Things that excite us the things of our lives what we cooked or just how we feel. I also get excited every answer to every comment on my discussion. This makes me happy because I can read other posts go take the right decision. I think that everyone here enjoys these things. nice day!
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• United States
5 Jul 11
Hi there nezavisima! Yes, we all write and talk about different things. It's important that we are all aware that things in our country may not be the same as in other countries. So, when responding, we must take that into consideration. I also get excited about every response I receive on my discussions.
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• United States
6 Jul 11
I found your discussion to be particularly inviting. I have found out myself that the internet can be a place to bring together people from all over the world and of all different cultures. I find that all to often we use our technology to further our own countries and we tend to forget that we have a whole world of people just like our own who are also in need. When posting topics I have also found myself using the pattern of my own country's muse to paint the picture when perhaps I should have had a larger canvas in mind. Since I discovered the same thing you have I now try to understand other country's needs and look at the topic from a global standpoint.
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@polaris77 (2031)
• Bacau, Romania
6 Jul 11
I don't take into the consideration the country where the person is from when I start a discussion,I just express my point of view and I never think that it might offend someone.If that happens because of cultural differences and barriers of mentality,I feel sorry,but that won't stop me from expressing myself with an open mind,I hope.
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@megamatt (14326)
• United States
6 Jul 11
I try to keep my comments in a matter where they are easily understood by anyone around the world. Of course this is an American's perception of what everyone around the world might be able to understand. So this is really not something that is going to be the best thing to say the very least and there are going to be some points where I am sure someone out there for another country is rather baffled to say the very least. In many ways, it is one of those, you had to be there to understand it things. So yeah I try to keep mindful the most I can about that but no one is perfect. Of course, if there is a topic where I don't completely understand, its just I'm not really going to really participate in that topic all that much to say the very least. Still it does not mean that it is not educational to learn from people from different backgrounds and their world view on things are interesting. So yeah people are going to be here from different backgrounds and often times for someone who is not familiar, it is going to seem like an entirely different world.
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@SIMPLYD (86419)
• Philippines
6 Jul 11
Actually, it depends on the topic. If it is about the weather on their place, then i answer accordingly. But if it concerns everybody from around the world, then i answer according to what i experience.
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@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
6 Jul 11
For me yes because all person who know this site specially would be agree to do it everyday to response because you gain here.
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