I am heartsick at what I have done

United States
July 5, 2011 11:22pm CST
I have no one to blame but me. I collect costume jewelry. I love grab bags of costume jewelry that I buy from thrift stores, estate sales, yard sales, ebay etc etc etc. I keep and give some as gifts. The rest I re-sell at very good garage sale prices. I sometimes make a few dollars but often just break even. I make back the money that I have spent on whatever I paid. A woman who has bought from me several times came this weekend to buy. She brought a neighbor. I was very lax and careless. I did not look carefully at what I was putting in the box to sell. I gave the neighbor a very large bag of great costume jewelry for $14.00. it was a good deal all by itself. But, but, but ...... Later, I would realize that I had made a terrible mistake. I had accidentally put in the box to sell a 10k gold angel necklace that someone had sent me as a gift. I never ever meant to sell this necklace. It possibly is worth between $25 and $50 given the price of gold. I called the woman who buys from me ... the woman who brought the neighbor. She told me she would call the neighbor and either call me back or have the neighbor call me. This was yesterday afternoon. I have heard from neither and I do not expect to. I was lax and careless. And I made a painful and expensive mistake. The woman buying the jewelry did not steal the necklace. She has no obligation to return it. it would be nice if she did but ..... It is kinda tacky that one of the two has not called me back. I will probably not get the necklace back. I am heartbroken but I did it to me. As to the woman who nows own it, it's her karma. She does not have an obligation to send it back to me but what goes down comes round.
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@GardenGerty (90157)
• Marion, Kansas
7 Jul 11
I hope that you get a very pleasant surprise and she gets an attack of conscience and returns it to you. It is sad.
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• United States
7 Jul 11
Thank you for your sweet response. Unfortunately, I do not think it is going to happen. However, I met a nice buyer on craigslist who came over today and bought $25 worth of costume jewelry. Plus I had work this evening. Work has slowed down for now. That is why I am selling my costume jewelry. I believe in karma ..... or whatever you might want to call it. I have still not heard back from either lady. Tomorrow, I will call again. If she has it and does not return it, then it's her karma.
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@GardenGerty (90157)
• Marion, Kansas
27 Feb 12
I am going to guess that you never got your special necklace back. I appreciate the best response, but I would have liked you to get it back as well. I like happy endings.
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
6 Jul 11
I am sorry to hear about this. I understand that you really feel bad not because of the very low price but because it was gift. Just hope that maybe those ladies will come back and return the item ,who knows they might be just waiting for the right timing to return the item Then next time you will surely be more careful
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• United States
6 Jul 11
I do not think that they will return it in person because it takes about 45 minutes to drive to my house from their house and then it is 45 minutes back. It is quite a drive. I do not expect them to drive here to return it to me. She / they would have to mail it to me. And that would be a hassle for her / them also. The gold necklace in question was tangled up with other pieces of jewelry. Jewelry can get tangled. That is why I had this handful of jewelry in one box. I had meant to untangle the bunch. And without thinking, I put the tangled bunch in the "to sell" box without looking at what was in this tangled bunch of jewelry. I have no one to blame but myself that this happened.
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
9 Jul 11
It was an accident. When you do this for work and deal with so much jewelry i know it would be easy for me to accidentally do that. It is very sad though that the woman will not call you or return it. Your right she doesn't have an obligation but it's just being considerate because she is now aware that you made a mistake and put it in the bag. I hope that she will return.
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• United States
10 Jul 11
Thank you for your very sweet response. I never did hear back from either women. I left another message for the woman who brought her neighbor. This is the woman who has bought from me in the past. And she did call back and leave me a message. She told me that she gave her neighbor my phone number but that her neighbor became ill and lost it. I know that her neighbor has an array of health issues plus three children and a husband. The message went on to say that both women went through all the jewelry that they bought from me and neither one found the angel necklace. Both woman seem like genuine people. But my angel necklace is still gone. I know that I did not sell it. It was a gift and I would not have even considered selling it. My memory is that the necklace had gotten tangled up with other jewelry and I had moved the tangled pile into a separate box so as to eventually untangle. This is vague memory. And when these woman came to look at my jewelry last week, I believe that I put the whole tangled bunch into the for sale box. I was not paying attention. I did not look through the tangled bunch. I had forgotten that the angel necklace was in the bunch. I never even looked at the bunch when I put it in the to sell box. I believe that the neighbor does have it. She may not realize it or she may be lying to the other woman who left me a message. Or the woman who left me the message may be lying. If she is lying or if the other woman is lying to me, then I leave it up to a higher power. I believe that what we do to others comes back. I have no one to blame for my loss but me. If I had only taken the time to look through the bunch of tangled jewelry that I had put into the for sale box .... But I probably should have taken better care of the angel necklace to begin with and kept it in a separate box and not in the draw with several other pieces of jewelry. Sometimes, the most painful lessons are the best one. Among the lessons that I have learned are "haste makes waste".
@SIMPLYD (74827)
• Philippines
6 Jul 11
I am sorry to hear that. Sometimes, out of haste, we make mistakes such as that one. Don't just expect that it would still be acknowledged . You can just earn what you lost on some items you can still sell.
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• Philippines
6 Jul 11
Oh so sorry to read about this. But if you really want that necklace back make an effort to call your friend again and again. And if they really knows how to value things especially a gift then they would understand. Just don't forget to apologize also that you have to take it back.
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@dfollin (12114)
• United States
6 Jul 11
No,she does not have an obligation to give it back.But,a descent person would..Call your friend back and ask her if she has talked to her friend yet. Good luck
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• Toyonaka, Japan
24 Jul 15
If I was the buyer, I would work up the moral to return it no matter how valuable or pretty the necklace is. Because if it means that to you, it should come back to you. I hope you get it back.