Serenade

By Toni
@toniganzon (38631)
Philippines
July 6, 2011 8:59pm CST
In my country, this is considered as a tradition that was practiced in the old days by men when they got attracted to a woman. They would visit the house in groups, with their guitars and started singing just right out of the woman's window. Not sure though if it's still being practiced nowadays in certain localities. I have never been serenaded but i would love to be serenaded. I think it's a very special way of showing emotions to the person that you admire through songs. Gym Class Heroes' Stereo Hearts Song reminded me of how nice it would be if a guy would show up on my doorstep and would sing "My heart's a stereo it beats for you so listen close, hear my thoughts and every note oh, oh. Make me your radio turn me up when you feel low, this melody was meant for you to sing along to the stereo!"
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9 responses
@chuyins123 (2118)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
I would be willing to do that to the woman I love. But yeah, it's no longer "in" nowadays, it's a sweet thing though and it takes a lot of effort. LOL. I do sing to my EX before. I sing to her over the phone or when we're together. But haven't done that in public, like singing outside the home of my beloved. lol. it's really tons of effort to do so. haha I just have second thoughts though, because I am tone deaf. LOL. My family laughs at me when I sing. LOL. There's not much guys who do serenade their girl.
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
hahaha. i think it's good to restore this kind of tradition for us filipinos, before most filipina ladies are hard to get, it's a hard work but for those who are really in love, i think it isn't. it's a sweet though, i don't know if i will serenade a girl whom i like, i don't know how are they going to feel.
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
Most girls would love to be serenaded I guess. It's sweet. There is one "serenade services" featured on ABS CBN before on Korina's show, maybe we can try that one as a modern form of serenading.
@toniganzon (38631)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
Doesn't matter if you're tone deaf. Sure your ex appreciated that!
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
serenade a great tradition, i'd like to experience it but I think I can't because its not being practiced now a days even in the mountain places and remote provinces. I think during the time of my grandfather, i think they did this one. I wanted to but I am shy to do this to a girl i like, she is so beautiful and i find it hard to look at her directly to her eyes and i think she has a problem with that too, i find that when i shake her hands she can't look at me in my eyes. when i shake her hands, instead of looking at me she looks at my hand. I wanted to come to court her but in my heart, it's not yet time for me to do it since she is still so young and i wanted her first to experience relationship with other guys. my plan is that, when i think it's time for me to court her, i still need to ask permission from her if it's okay for me to court her then if she's okay then the next thing i will do is to ask permission from her parents to court her. then maybe i will try to serenade her in her home with her parents. I don't don't know if this is a good plan. and I still don't know when would be the best time for me to court her and tell her that i like her and she is so beautiful. what do you think? do you have something to add or to change a little bit?
@toniganzon (38631)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
As long as you are sincere in expressing your feelings, that in itself is a great plan already. So go ahead and do it!
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
Hey man, I admire your plans. I'm glad there are still Filipinos like you. Its just that i dont agree with your plan that you have to let her have a relationship with other guys since she's still young. What if she's just waiting for you to court her? And what if you let her have a relationship with other guys and fell really in love with one, where will you be?Standing in the corner watching her with tears in your eyes. Your Intention is noble and definitely will earn points from the girl and girl's parents.Go for it, dont waste time.
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
thank eldeenz, you really encourages me. and it seems you are right. i am looking for ways on how to do it. it's not really easy to court someone you really like than courting someone you don't like.
• Mexico
8 Jul 11
hi there, i know about this , but it was long time ago, now we as man i think we little bit shy to continue with such tradition, just before a few decades ago could be very special or even important for the girl to compromise, engage with man seriously to be boyfriend and girlfriend, it was complicated hehehe, now is more easy to get a girlfriend. heheh
@toniganzon (38631)
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
Now i'm a bit sad when you said it's more easy to get a girlfriend. If i were a man I would not hesitate to serenade a girl. I still believe it's more romantic that way. But i guess most men nowadays just ask the girls out and then that's it. True but very sad.
• Mexico
8 Jul 11
oops sorry i did not meant to make you feel bad, i think i should say this in other words, sorry again, but its so true, i have sing to girls but in private in a romantic place im so shy to do that in public,
@ravisivan (14051)
• India
11 Jul 11
This is something interesting. In India this practice is not there. But in the present day context of internet, cell phones instead of serenading in the old fashion people do adopting cell phones, sending messages, etc.
@toniganzon (38631)
• Philippines
11 Jul 11
Yes I agree. But men can improvise using this technology instead of losing the tradition totally. They can sing over the phone. IN fact i remember years before we also had the singing telegram. I wonder if that service is still there.
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
8 Jul 11
Gosh, that is romantic act from a man toward a woman. I would like to try it once if I have such bravery though. You said your country practice such act, what country will it be? Is it South America, or Spain? I knew some South American cultures are super - romantic, and they would practice such bravery in public too.
@toniganzon (38631)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
Philippines.
• United States
7 Jul 11
As far as I know this has never been an American tradition, although I wished it would have been because I think it's a very romantic way to show a woman just how much you love her. As to whether this tradition is still being done in other countries, well I find it doubtful. Sadly the world has all but taken romance & love out of most relationships nowadays. This is a sad, but true fact.
@toniganzon (38631)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
Sad but true. In our country there's still a village that practices that tradition.
@maxen07 (892)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
As much as I would love to be serenaded, I wouldn't mind if I do the serenading;) I know it's kind of inappropriate for girls to show their attraction first to some people but my voice is my best weapon. I'm planning to compose my own love song dedicated to my husband if ever I get married and I'd sing it on my wedding. I think that would be a good starter gift for him.
@toniganzon (38631)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
If I have the voice I would love to do the same, but I wasn't blessed with such a gift.
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
Yes, serenading was really a lot of fun, for the serenader who wanted to court a woman and his companions who accompanied him to give moral and vocal support. I accompanied a few of my friends when they serenaded the objects of their affection, but I did not sing. The serenade was a sort of "first announcement" from the male admirer of his intention to court a woman. The songs would be about love, soothing. It had better be, it was night and a bouncy beat would be disturbing to the serenaded and the neighbors who were already in bed. If the serenader and his troupe had a poetic bent, "balak" (love poems or verses) would also be included in the repertoire. The admirer was expected to give the first song, or if he had an awful singing voice, the first "balak." The rest could be rendered by his companions. If the girl (or the parents) found him suitable and the house was commodious enough, then they would invite the serenaders into the house. The admirer would talk to the girl, but no courting as yet. Anyhow, it would be very embarrassing to start a courtship in front of everybody: your troupe, parents and all the siblings. The girl, to encourage the admirer, may also sing back. This was considered good form to indicate reciprocity on the part of the girl. The parents, the serenader, and his companions would read it as that. So the girl had better be certain about her feelings. Most of the time, however, the girl does not sing back during the serenade. If the family really did not want to be disturbed but the girl had an eye on you, she would open the window where you were serenading, put a kerosene lamp on the ledge, and sit by the window, presumably smiling at her admirer. If the girl or the parents found you unfit, they would not invite you in. It seldom happened but it sometimes did that serenaders who were considered a nuisance got water thrown at them by one of the parents. So we serenaders, especially if it was a surprise serenade, had better be ready to duck when a window would open, just in case it was water or worse. This was extreme discourtesy of course, and the family who did this becsme a laughingstock, the girl and the parents receiving unfavorable comments. It would really be better to inform the girl or the parents that you would be serenading. This should be phrased as a request. Of course they could refuse it, but a request was the best form. It was also a signal to the parents, to the girl and to the community that you were serious and honorable in your intentions with the girl. For the admirer who wanted preliminary clues on the girl's feelings, this was the opening move. The girl would sometimes let her guard down in her reaction to the intended serenade. Serenading was a practice in some parts of Davao City until the mid-1970s. Of course, there were other naughty things that serenaders did, but that's another matter.
@toniganzon (38631)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
Wow! You sure do know a lot of things about serenading.
@eldeenz (25)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
How I wish I experience this tradition of ours- Voicing out what a guys a feels about you through a song. Until now, I'm wishing my husband would do this for me but I guess it wouldn't happen. Anyway, I hope Filipinos will restore this tradition. Guys, do this for the girls you are in love with, I assure you , its WORTH IT.
@toniganzon (38631)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
Yeah it is indeed worth it. I hope to see more men with great courage in serenading the women they like in public.