what to do when you like someone?

Philippines
July 6, 2011 11:27pm CST
I like a girl and i don't know what to do, i wanted to let her know that i like her and if i could court her. or maybe it's good if not to show first my feeling to her. maybe i will come to her and just say hi and how are you. and then ask her to go with you for a snack. is this a good thing to do?
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
Be courageous, take the risk. There are thees people who sometimes wait for the right time and before they know it, the girl they like is already taken by someone else. There was this friend of my brother who became very close to me. He was a seafarer and would go home only once a year. One time I knew that he had feelings for me because he wanted to spend more time with me than my brother and he didn't want to go back to work. But I pushed him though since he had to. He sent me a message in another language which I couldn't understand upon boarding a plane. I asked for the meaning but he said he shall reveal it when he comes home. He didn't have the courage to propose to me but if only he did I would have accepted. He never broke any communication between us since he would constantly call but still he never proposed. He was waiting for the right time. Then after 8 months I found a boyfriend who happened to be my husband now. When he called again, I told him that and he never talked to me like he used to again. He became civil but not friendly anymore. Later on I learned from his cousin that he was just waiting for the right time. Too bad!
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
ohh, you were not able to wait for him? or maybe you are not really meant for each other. maybe your husband is the one prepared for you. or he is just don't have the courage to say it to you. but it's great, i think you are enjoying your life now. but i think he the seafarer guy became sad for not proposing to you. well we cannot bring back what is past. and we should learn from them.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
Did you get the moral of the story? Don't wait for the right moment to come. Let the right moment come to you or you will loose her. I didn't have to wait for him because he didn't tell me to wait for him in the first place. If he had proposed earlier then he would have known if we were meant for each other or not!
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
you're right. maybe he did not know when would be the right time for him to proposed to you. but i hope he found joy for his next girl. i should do something for nothing will happen if i will always wait for the right when the right time is now.
@Camylo57 (86)
• India
10 Jul 11
There is a saying that if you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you it is yours. If it does not come back to you, consider that it was never yours. Taking a clue of this on a similar line take courage and approach this girl. Express your true feelings for her and give her a chance and time to think and take a decision in the matter. If she positively returns back to you, then she is yours. If not, then forget her and consider that she was never going to be yours.
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• India
17 Jul 11
whatever step you feel is right please take it. But my request is, please do it fast and do not linger for long otherwise you will be "Too late a Hero" I hope you got my hint crystal clear.
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• Philippines
18 Jul 11
i wanted to but i am overcome with my fear. i am nervous to do it. i don't know how to get courage.
• Philippines
10 Jul 11
you have a good principle there. you have the point. i think it would not be good to approach her and tell her my true feelings to her since we are not close yet and you are right but i think i still first build a friendship relationship with her for i think this is right in winning her heart and knowing if she also likes me then that would be the time for me to express to her what i have for her.
• Indonesia
9 Jul 11
hi leon, what you have to do is good step.Make sure that she's comfort spending time with you.Make her comfort is very important to know that she may have same feeling with you.Have more frequency spending time with her and wait the right time to say it her.Don't be afraid to be rejected, it's the consequences, just do your best
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• Philippines
9 Jul 11
really? i just learn this from you that girls don't like to wait too long. and why/ do you have an idea why they don't want to wait too long? i think it is good that i will post a new topic which is "is is true that girls can't wait to long? why?" what do you think?
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
great, thank for that. can you give me an example on how to make her comfortable? or in a situation?
• Indonesia
9 Jul 11
longer you spend time with her you will know if she is comfort or not.If she doesn't mind going with you anywhere and anytime, it's a good signal.She will be very open with you and free to talk about her family, friend and simple thing.My advice, don't wait too long to say you like her, faster is better.The girl don't like waiting too long :D
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• India
7 Jul 11
You have spent 3 year with her but still u dön.t know abt her.what is this buddy.if u like her then u should have known her.lovers don.t waste their time like you.anyway forget past and look ahead.now do as much u can anythng to know abt her.wht her like dislike,wht she think abt you and has she already a b.f or not.you hv to do it all very fast.niether she will be engaged with anybody other and you will be a D.J in her merriege.when you think its a right time,purpose her.you have no other way now.
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
thank you for the suggestion, now i have an idea what to do. it would really be sad if they will make me an emcee for their wedding reception. i can't really accept the offer even though i love to be an emcee.
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
hahaha. not good. i don't know how would i feel if that would happen. i should make evry opportunity to win her heart. nothing will lose if i would make a move. i will only lose her if i will make mistake or offend her or she just don't like me.
• India
7 Jul 11
He he he.i think it would be realy nice when she has to choose between you and encee.so if u don.t want to fullfill ur 2nd dream to be a emcee then go fast and do somthing.niether you first client would be ur g.f and her husband will pay for tht reception.lol.
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@babybea (82)
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
...i usually show it to someone i like but i will not make it obvious because i dont want that guy to think of me as cheap girl...as much as possible i will have some of the body language just to tell him that i like him... ...
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• Philippines
8 Jul 11
yeah there are really girls who are hard to get, even if they like the guy they still like the guy run after them. well i think, there's an advantage of it and there's also a disadvantage.
• Philippines
22 Jul 11
can you tell me whats the disadvantage of it? my aunts always told me that nowadays its different from their old days because its the "maria clara" style with girls should not wear skirts, shorts should apply light make up and etc but nowadays the girls are liberated and the one who goes to the house of the guys and the one who invited their crushes to go anyway or to party with them
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
Do something to impress the girl you like, do something good to catch her eyes and if feel you got the chance to say you wanted her, then do it. Don't expect good thing will happen first, that's normal, do it again. Good Luck to you.
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
great, that would be awesome. i just feel a little shy when she looks at me, all i can do is to say hi and how are you then go my way. just pass her by.
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
what do you mean by "adive mathgadiano"? i don't understand.
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
thats' a good adive mathgadiano! try it leon, i know you can make it!
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@lala501 (1532)
• United States
7 Jul 11
I believe it's best to let her know that you are interested in her,because for me if a guy shows me that he's interested then it gets me interested in them more not like if he doesn't really do anything and doesn't communicate with me it shows me that he's not really interested in me.Maybe like small gestures but not huge gestures just small things like asking to go out for a snack like you said.Good luck with the girl!
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
you have the point. sometimes i am avoiding her and it could mean to her that i am not interested in her. and i should give a little time first so that she might not misinterpret it that i want something for her.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
If she is a long time friend then you can simply invite her a snack,or a stroll in the park. Slowly you will feel if she likes you too,then you can propose to her. But,if you don't know her much..you need to be friend with her first and know her likes and dislikes. Try to find more things about her thru a common friends and then you can start to talk with her. Things will follow if you were compatible and next steps will be easier for you to know if she likes you or not.
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
great advice, we've each other for more than three years already but we are not close. i find it hard to come near to him, i am speechless and i don't like that she will know that i like her. you are right, i think i need to know what are her likes and dislikes that i might be able to have a foundation
@amora123 (85)
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
Maybe the best thing to do is, don't let her know first your feelings. Just inrtoduce your self first and get to know her also. And if times comes you already know each other, maybe that would be the best time you can tell her that you like her.:)
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• Philippines
8 Jul 11
you got it, that's what i wanted to do now. just keep my feelings to her in secret first and just reveal it later because it's too early if she will know and there's a possibility that she will avoid me.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
17 Jul 11
Hi Leon, When you feel you really love a girl or like her. You can introduce yourself, try to express your mind in good way, so she can understand your good nature better.
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• Philippines
18 Jul 11
hahaha, it is easy for me to do it. but i am also hesitant for i am afraid to come closer to her. i don't know why. i don't understand myself.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
7 Jul 11
Ohhhhh friend now I am a married women so now no chance for liking someone to me hahaha but if before my marriage someone is liked me then I will lots of talking with him and go to icecream parlor because I like ice cream I am talkative girl so I want to talk with him always tell my friend lots of jokes
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
hahaha, you are great. it's good that you are. i think i will invite her to go to a chocoloate house since she really likes chocolate.
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
Good thing you open this up, for sure lots of mylotter will give you a good advice. If I'm a guy and i really like someone, I'll probably let her know as soon as possible but I will be so gentle in expressing it. Just by sending her beautiful floers or chocolates, asking her for a date and text her good morning and good night. These are simple actions that a girl would love. :)
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
yeah, this is simple thing to do. do you think, i still need to ask permission from her parrents to court her? and when i take her out for a date?