Children, are they safe in their school, are they safe in your place?

@Sreekala (18782)
India
July 8, 2011 2:36am CST
Dear friends, Here I am not discussing about the corporal punishment in school or anything like that. I just want to talk about the shocking news of kidnapping kids in this place on their way to school. Some are rescuing some are getting killed and some are still absconding. A five year old boy kidnapped in last Tuesday from his school, the private vehicle left the boy in outside the school and boy kidnapped within minutes. The kidnappers asked ransom (Rs. 15 lakh) for releasing the boy but Police personnel acted smartly and arrested the culprits very soon. It has been said that the driver of private vehicle carried the boy to school, didn’t make sure that the boy entered in school. Here is the matter of concern. Schools are plying their own vehicles to transport the kids but at the same private vans are available to those who want the vehicle in their door steps. I think some school authorities are not taking enough security measurement to those kids who are coming in private vehicles. My elder son’s school, in nursery and preparatory class (LKG and UKG), helpers is available for teacher and these helpers will pick the kids (those are coming in private vehicle) from gate in morning to class and leave them back to gate from class. (the kids are going in school vehicle, they can get into the bus from the school compound itself). They don’t allow the private vehicle to enter the school compound. But some other schools are not showing any concern to those kids who are coming in private vehicles, I don’t know why. I think school authority should show concern to those small kids at least. How about your place, is the school is showing concern about the safety of your kids? Is kidnapping kids is a usual title in newspapers in your place? In India missing children’s number is rising day by day it becomes a matter of great concern. Parents are much concerned about the safety of their kids. Missing from school is only one side and several other reasons are also behind missing children. Please share you thoughts and experiences about this topic. You can add any issued related with kids. {This is my 100th Discussion in Mylot. I know milestones are not allowed so I would like to share this to all my friends, through this topic)
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@mayka123 (9549)
• India
9 Jul 11
Congratulations on your 100th discussion. Safety of children is becoming a very serious issue nowadays. Children run away from home for various reasons. Children are kidnapped ... for ransom, for sacrifice, for child labour and sometimes these children are raped and killed. Parents now feel it unsafe to send the kids alone even to their friends or neighbours houses. I do not know about the present safety methods adopted in schools in my area coz my kids are no more in school!!! I think we have to make our kids understand the danger of talking or making friends with strangers.
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@Sreekala (18782)
• India
9 Jul 11
Hi dear, Thank you so much your sweet wishes. There are many heart touching stories about kids and they are not at all safe. I just read an article in a magazine, it clearly shows that how unsafe is our girl children in home. Many culprits are inside home and possibly close relatives. A mother went to the doctor for treating her thirteen year old daughter who is vomiting constantly. Many doctors checked her but failed to find the exact reason and finally one doctor took the risk and asked to a pregnancy test, the result was shocking; the girl cried and revealed that her uncle was using her. Just think about the mental status of the mother, who was a widow and was a dependent of her brother. I don’t know, whom to blame. Have a great weekend dear.
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@mayka123 (9549)
• India
11 Jul 11
We had a case in Mumbai where two girls were being used by their own father!!!! This is because some Godman had told him that he would have to do it to improve his financial status. This godman was also using not only the two girls but also their mother!!! The father is in jail now. But what is the future of these girls??? It will be very difficult for them to trust anyone all their life.
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@Sreekala (18782)
• India
12 Jul 11
Ridiculous, is it. A father is supposed to protect his daughters and here he become so selfish...
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@dpk262006 (53690)
• Delhi, India
9 Jul 11
Congratulations on posting your 100th posts here on mylot. You have raised a burning issue regarding safety of school going kids. It is really a matter of deep concern that vulnerable kids are abducted for ransom. Parents and school authorities need to be more cautious and practical. Kids are also required to be educated and told that they should not accept anything from strangers or talk to them.
@Sreekala (18782)
• India
11 Jul 11
Hello Deepak, Thank you so much for your wishes first of all. Regarding the topic, I think you are more aware about the situation in this city, how often it happens etc. Kidnappers are active not only from school but from home too. Here the culprits are maids or helpers. Poor parents are in dilemma, they can’t decide who is good and who is not, they can’t work in office peacefully by thinking about their kids. It is a matter of deep concern……… Have a great week..
• Mexico
9 Jul 11
Wow this is a really scary story to hear about. I hope that they fix this problem as it would really freak me out if it carries on like this!
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@Sreekala (18782)
• India
9 Jul 11
Hello nord, Yes, it will scare all the parents; will scare all those who love kids. Unfortunately we are hearing these kinds of incidents more often. I don’t know to whom to blame. The culprits are taking much time to observe the activities of kids and they know when to act. I hope the authorities will take proper measures to ensure the safety of the kids. Thank you very much for the participation. Have a great weekend.
@salonga (27973)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
It is really very alarming! Kidnapping should be stopped and those people behind must be persecuted immediately. If the school is not concern about it then it is better to transfer to another school that implement stricter safety measure. At home I always take care of the kids and in fact I'd say I'm very protective. I would not allow them to be far from my eyes. I've heard some news of kidnapping in various places here in our country also so I am really very, very careful. Congratulations for you 100th post. Keep posting and keep enjoying this community. Best wishes to you!
@Sreekala (18782)
• India
9 Jul 11
Hi salonga, These kinds of news really spreading panic feelings among parents. I am happy with my elder son's school; they have every security measurement to avoid such incidents near or inside the school. But I have to say that some other schools in the city is not that much concerned about the safety of the kids, especially they are opting the transport facility through their own. At home I never allow my kids to go alone outside. Thank you so much for your hearty wishes dear. I would like to add that you are one of the regular respondents of my topics since I joined in mylot so special thanks t o you dear. Have a great weekend.
• Canada
8 Jul 11
I think home is safe place for kids as compared to school. though in school they learn most but seeing the current stories in news it is difficult to say school is safe.
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@Sreekala (18782)
• India
9 Jul 11
Hello smartbrain, I agree with you home is safe but children should go to school which is also inevitable in their life. The stories are scary for parents and I hope the responsible people should keep more vigil and take necessary action to avoid further attacks on kids. Thank you so much for the participation. Have a great weekend.
@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
8 Jul 11
Hi Sreekala, I agree with you that enough is not being done by those who have responsibility for the children. It is a sad state of affairs when children are not safe to be left alone for a few minutes. Last year my five year old grand-daughter was put on the wrong bus at her school and let off in the company of another child. Thankfully, she wasn't hurt and was returned to her parents in a short time. Blessings.
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@Sreekala (18782)
• India
9 Jul 11
Hello Pose, How are you? Small kids are often attracted with sweets and if anybody offered the same they will take it and ready to friendly with them. The children are always innocents and the culprits are taking advantage on this habit. When I read the experience of your grand daughter, I remember the incident happened on the first day of my younger son's school. I was in the school bus to show the route and place to the driver where, before starting the bus one child started to cry and keep on saying my uncle is outside I want to go, nobody listens to him. He supposed to get in another bus but the lady was in charge is not listening our plea and engaged in chatting with some other people. We were in back seat and asked to stop the bus but no use; finally the uncle of this child who run after the bus and asked to stop then only the driver noticed and stopped the bus. Lack of responsibility is everywhere and the consequences are very dangerous. Thank you so much. Take care and have a great weekend.
@shibham (17025)
• India
8 Jul 11
Hi sree.. You know i live in village and the town is just 3 kms away from home. The nursery or KG privates schools are here but the parents or housemaid do their duty to bring the kids to school and vise versa. If there is no chance to bring that way, then some parents book a van and the driver takes all the risks of the kids. Yet, there are some incident occurred but very less. IT was when the extremists movements was so strong years ago. Have a nice day.
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@Sreekala (18782)
• India
8 Jul 11
Hi Shibham, I think the problem is very less in village. Most of the mothers are sitting at home else the maid is there to help but in city the case is different. But I remember one incident in a village, where one child has gone to buy something in a shop and never return back. The child went missing and nobody knows what happened to that child. I think children are not safe anywhere. Thank you so much for sharing your views on the topic. Have a great weekend.
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
8 Jul 11
Hi Sreekala, First of all, I would like to congratulate you on your 100th discussion! The new regarding child kidnapping in my Malaysia have been reduced. Our enforcer have been taking action against the human trafficking and they have arrested and have broke down a few syndicates that involved in such a crime. A few years ago, there are many cases which are similar to what you have mentioned. But they were kidnapped outside the school compound where some of the kids were lure or being cheated by the kidnapper that their parent send them to pick the child home and that happen quite a number of cases few years back. I think our enforcer have taken action and stopped such a crime. As a parent, we all should keep an eyes on our kids and should never let them out of our sign. If the child is too young to take care of him/herself, we should at least send them into the school, or if we appoint someone to send them to school, we should make sure the driver or the assistant should take care of them. I have sent my son to a kindergarten and the teachers will always wait in front of the gate every morning before the class start. Or else we will send him into the building. And when he return from the kindergarten, the teacher will accompany him up to the gate of my house, they will never let him wake up alone and left him without monitor. I think that will be really helpful since everyone in the society can help to make sure our children are safe. It is also good to know the parents of our children at the same school, at least if someone else have pick up a children, we will know that is not the parent and we can take action to stop them immediately. But, it is better to take care our children by ourself. That will be very much safer!
@Sreekala (18782)
• India
8 Jul 11
Hello yspmyl, Thank you so much for your nice gesture. It is glad news if the kidnapping is reduced in your place. In India, I think it is on the rise. There may be many reasons behind the same. I agree parents should take special vigil on their kids and explain to them how they can deny the offer of a chocolate or ice cream if it offered by a stranger. But kids are kids always and fallen on sweets sometime. Once again thanks for giving a detailed reply. Have a great weekend.
@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
8 Jul 11
I tried my best to make my home a safe place for my child. On the other hand, school is becoming a not so safe place for children or adults.
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@Sreekala (18782)
• India
8 Jul 11
Hi steph, There are plenty of cases of kidnapping kids from home too, here the culprits are servants who are responsible to look after the kids. Last month an incident happened here the servant kidnapped the child. These kinds of news give a nightmare those who are working parents. It is very difficult to get a servant at home for look after the kids and if you get somebody then other tensions starts, will they take care the kids well…, hearing all these news the tension doubles. Thank you so much for your quick response. Have a great weekend
@anil02 (2886)
• India
9 Jul 11
Children are soft target, so criminal use children for their ill will. This situation is terriorable. It may be possible that driver of school's bus involve in it. It is duty of the school adm to appoint driver after a thorow investigation.
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• India
12 Jul 11
Heartiest congratulation for your 100th post (I only hope this very serious discussion doesn’t get deleted because of the congratulation part.) As far as education in our country is concerned, we all agree and know that its in complete shambles. Our parents went to neighbourhood schools yet the education they received was good enough to sustain them for life. but now, one cant even think of sending the kids to such schools if one can afford it. Most parents are running after a few reputed schools and sending their kids to such long distances everyday. Either the school bus is coming or the mother herself (in most cases) is trying to escort the child. However, with more and more women working, its but natural that parents have to depend on unscrupulous and unconcerned car pools for their children’s commuting. Again, all other India I see people just out to make quick money by whatever means possible and kidnapping for ransom seems to be the flavor of the season…yes, its sad but true that here in Calcutta too, incidents of kidnapping kids is rising day by day.
@SViswan (12095)
• India
10 Jul 11
Congratulations on your 100th discussion! When I was teaching at kindergarten, most of the children opted for the school transport or was dropped by their parents. We had ayahs who would pick the children from the gate. Some teachers who had their kids studying in other schools also had the bus (private or school bus) drop them at our school. Even then, one of our ayahs or the parent would go to the gate to pick them up. But kidnapping cases are common here too. One of my student's family was having a feud with a relative or some other person. One day, when the bus stopped to drop one child off at their home, another car parked in front of the bus and asked for my student saying he was the father (as per school policy, a child is not put on the bus and sent with another person only if they have a note signed by the parent authorizing them to pick the child up....we often follow that up with a phonecall to the parent too...just to be on the safe side). The ayah was confused...she wouldn't know the parent...and the child was 3. Fortunately, the child immediately said that he was not his father and the driver noted the car's number. We informed the parent too. In my apartment complex, the security makes sure that no child goes out of the complex without an adult and so we can safely send them down to play alone.