" I rather have thirty minutes of wonderful..."

United States
July 10, 2011 1:52am CST
This is quote from Steel Magnolias but it describes my thoughts on love compared to having to marry. I just tried to explain to a fellow MyLotter that I rather have 3 years of happiness and love Than A lifetime of marriage!To him because of statistics since I will not marry ,I will only remain with my guy 3 years or so. when thinking about it I thought that's fine. That is three years of bliss compared to a lifetime of misery if I married him! To this guy and I guess many if you do not marry , whatever you have is fleeting. Well I rather have " fleeting " than something stable and miserable. and as I was about to feel so upset I remembered this quote. Here is the full quote. " I would rather have thirty minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special." And it put everything into perspective. Instead of feeling angry I now feel sorry for this guy. He Has to look for a wife. He Has to marry to verify what he feels and Maybe it will last and maybe not. Me on the other hand I just get to love and be happy. your thoughts.
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@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
10 Jul 11
I have said this before and I will say it again. If I had gottan married I would be very miserable! i know so many people who were miserable in a marriage! I would be miserable in any relationship and have been! My mom had a miserable marriage to my dad. My sister had a miserable life in her 1st marriage! I know a guy at work who is miserable in his marriage! I also know a lot of woman at work who are miserable in their marriages! I even know a woman who has been living with the same guy,never married him, for over 30 years and she is miserable! Like I have said before I never will even date again! I am better off with being with out for the rest of my life! Yes it makes me happy but it also is bittersweet when I get lonely! Try and explaining that to my family and other people sometimes! Most don't understand! So I am going to be alone for rest of the life! Enough said!
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• United States
10 Jul 11
Girl You are Preaching to the choir! I never married because I preferred to be happy! I am not one of those saying you Should do this or that. I wish you all the happiness in the world , with or without a fella! And if you ever need to talk , write. Being alone is one thing, but lonely? Not good. So write me if you to talk.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
10 Jul 11
For me it would totally depend on the situation. If its true love I might want to make it for a lifetime..but I don't want to settle for less then what I really want.
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• United States
10 Jul 11
We All want true love to last forever. But sometimes our share of forever is shorter than a lifetime. I rather cherish my part of forever than just live with nothing special.
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