Control anger - otherwise it will lead to big problems

@ravisivan (14051)
India
July 10, 2011 9:50am CST
IT WAS A SILLY MATTER WHERE CHILDREN TRESPASSED TO PLUCK ALMONDS FROM HIM HOUSE AND THIS BROUGHT ANGER AND THAT ANGER MADE HIM KILL THE INNOCENT BOY. - YES THIS HAPPENED A WEEK BACK IN chennai, India. ALL OF US SHOULD LEARN TO CONTROL/MANAGE ANGER SUCH THAT IT DOESN'T RESULT IN DIRE CONSEQUENCES AS THIS ONE. A week after a 13-year-old boy was killed in a military residential campus here, a 50-year-old retired army officer was arrested Sunday for the crime after he confessed that he was irritated by the boy's trespassing, police said. Lt. Col. (retd) K. Ramaraj had shot K. Dilshan from the balcony of his residence on July 3 afternoon when the boy and his friends trespassed into the residential campus to pluck almonds. Dilshan was fatally wounded and succumbed to his injuries in a hospital. 'The Tamil Nadu Police is proud to say that a breakthrough has been achieved in the case with arrest of Ramaraj,' Additional Director General of Police R. Sekar told reporters. http://www.samachar.com/Chennai-boys-murder-cracked-Retired-army-officer-held-lhkpKaaaicf.html
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@surekharathi (14134)
• India
13 Aug 11
This news is really sad and this is the lesson for those who are anytime anger on small reason also. Yes you are right uncle control is necessary on anger I also saw a incident a father beat his small child much more due to anger on his son get less mark. Then boy will kill himself jump on the well. Now most of the people are anger so much and it creates big problem. We can solve any problem with silence so why people anger.
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@ravisivan (14051)
• India
13 Aug 11
Surekha: Your views are correct. We solve any problem with silence and also controlled anger. Anger cannot solve any problem.
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@Hatley (152091)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Apr 13
hio suekarahit and ravi yes we must con trol our anger as if we do not it will control us in horribvle wys,.My father got so angry at children who were sealing his watermelons so he put some poison in one and over my protests and my moms pu t it back in the garden ?Well he was the towns only doctor so the child who stole the poisoned watermelon and got dreadfully sick his parents called my dad and by now my dad was worried he had gone too far so he knew the antidote to the poison so he administered it and the child got well.After that my dad did not ever do such a horrible thing again. He knew he had a wicked temper and he did try to control it.
• Philippines
11 Jul 11
The way to respond to irritating circumstances such as the one cited above should be with calm. Indeed, reacting through violence will lead us to more big problems. It is a sad thing that a child be killed in result of anybody's temper.
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@ravisivan (14051)
• India
11 Jul 11
this brings us to the point --that we should have an eye on our children all the time and be advising them properly.
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• Philippines
12 Jul 11
Yes. We should always have a look out on our kids as they may fall victim to any kind of harm. More so, we should educate them on the "what is okay" and "what is not" to avoid situations such as the given example.
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• Philippines
10 Jul 11
That is totally uncalled for. The fact that they did that just because they were bothered just makes you think what type of people they're like.
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@ravisivan (14051)
• India
11 Jul 11
Your statement that it is totally uncalled for is right. Not being able to manage emotions is the cause.
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• Philippines
11 Jul 11
Yeah, but there are times when we can't just manage our emotions that well. In those cases we should have plans. There was a time when I came home all tired and I found out my brother brought some friends home. All I wanted to do is take a rest but I couldn't because all the rooms were occupied. What I did was I scolded my brother. Thankfully, I had the right mind to take it to another room.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
26 Mar 13
Hi, I have seen the dramatization of this incident on Sony channel in the program crime patrol. It is based on the real crime stories. Your discussion reminds me that sad story. because of anger that boy had to lose his life. For picking almonds this punishment was very strict and unfair. We should control anger. When we are angry we can not control our words and we hurt the feelings of our close ones. Anger is not good for our health also.
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@ravisivan (14051)
• India
27 Mar 13
roshigo Some people break phones, lights when they get anger. some shout. some cry. some get away from the place. In this case it has killed a boy. though the culprit may be put into prison, boy cannot be given life again. good day.
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@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
o do sometimes to control my anger but its really hurt in my heart and sometimes i will just cry because of very angry feelings that i have if i can not take it out,so i think its better to shout out loud in a room with no one else inside of it.
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@ravisivan (14051)
• India
24 Mar 13
asliah: thanks for your response. Your way of handling is better -- where you cry and should out in a room. that also should be limited and not unlimited. If we analyse then we may not get bad feelings. best wishes
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@KrauseHome (32345)
• United States
13 Aug 11
Personally your country is far from the only country seeing this type of violence and problems these days. It is happening all over the US as well. It seems that the worse the Economy gets for people the more stressed that people tend to get, and that overall they end up resorting to things and ways they would have never have thought possible. The problem is that when they later realize just what they have done it is often too late and there is no going back. Just need lots of Prayers for more people out there to seek help first instead.
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@ravisivan (14051)
• India
13 Aug 11
Krause: Thanks for ur comments. the site is giving exercise to control anger. Site or internet I do not know. I am posting this response/comments again and again. Wish you have an excellent week end.
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@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
11 Jul 11
I just read this article. You would think a 50-year-old Army Officer could control himself a little bit more. Seems to me it would've been better for him to go talk to the boys. I can bet they wouldn't have stepped on his property again. I'm sure the others won't anyway but killing a child over something so tiny is absolutely ridiculous. Thanks for sharing. Best Wishes!
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@ravisivan (14051)
• India
11 Jul 11
I posted this discussion to signify the higher people rise in career --they become more rigid-- for creating awareness. He should have talked to the children--which he did not do.
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• India
11 Jul 11
Thanks for sharing raviji Anger can do anything, you can compare an angry person with a mad person I always try to control anger, because i feel as i age gracefully, i get angry more and more.. Might be effect of age and diebetes lol. God bless you, have a nice day ahead. Professor ‘@Bhuwan@’. .
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@ravisivan (14051)
• India
11 Jul 11
Yes Professor Sir - as we grow old -- we form rigid ideas -- we feel our way of leading life is only correct and we try to impose on others and that causes resentment from others and creates more anger--anger leads to consequences which cannot be undone.
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@jaiho2009 (39084)
• Philippines
11 Jul 11
hello ravi, This is very sad. All because of anger and almonds ..ugh! almonds cost a boy's life. What could have been worse this man could ever do then? I wonder how he serves the military having such bad temper.
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@ravisivan (14051)
• India
11 Jul 11
Serving in army only had spoilt him --in my view. People who are used to rigid rules, regulations in army --nowadays even in armies there are people who do not follow rules -- make them machines and cannot tolerate NO even from their own close relatives. They start looking at all others as "useless creatures" and this causes anger. anger leads to bad actions. bad actions bring results which cannot be reverted.
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@Rick1950 (1481)
• Peru
11 Jul 11
To keep under control the anger is one of the hardest things a human being can do. Anger is one of the most difficult enemies to defeat. In some books, about spirituality, it calls us to handle anger, but not always we achieve that purpose. The philosopher Plato speaks of the virtue of prudence. He says whithin us there is a wild horse that we must learn to master. It would help to control anger if we strive to cultivate virtues.
• United States
11 Jul 11
There are so many other ways that this could have been handled. Yes, the man may have been angry about the children trespassing. However, there is nothing on this Earth that justifies murder. He could have called the police and let them deal with the trespassers. He also could have spoken with the children and their parents regarding his issues. By no means should he have shot and killed a child. Our society is getting so disheartening. There are so many people being hurt or killed. It sickens me. Society as a whole needs to start doing things way differently!
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@ravisivan (14051)
• India
11 Jul 11
These lines are interesting: "Our society is getting so disheartening. There are so many people being hurt or killed. It sickens me. Society as a whole needs to start doing things way differently!" It is not known. possibly he was drunk when he did this. We must keep a check over our tendency to take others for a ride.
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• India
10 Jul 11
Its is very sad to know that anger and irritation can reach a peak where you can end up taking someones life. Considering that he was in the army himself he should be given severe punishment for taking the life of a minor. Children often do things that can be very annoying but you do not shot at a kid for plucking almomds. How cruel can we humans get. Really shameful. Despite not admitting to the incident initially Ramarah gave in when he was questioned as to why he renewed his licence. If you commit a crime no matter what all you do to hide the evidence, you still end up leaving some behind. Am glad that he has been arrested and the court shoudl give him severve punishment..
@ravisivan (14051)
• India
11 Jul 11
You have rightly understood the issue. You have gone through the link also fully. Good. We are all good when we do not have scope for doing wrong things. The moment we have an opportunity for doing wrong things--i think we commit. thanks for the posting.
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@bouncybug (615)
• South Africa
10 Jul 11
This is such a terrible, sad story! What unnecessary killing, and of just a little boy! The man who killed him surely has some serious problems that he needs to deal with. To be 'irritated' by trespassing can be NO excuse to take away the life of an innocent child!! This man needs to go to jail so he can make penance for what he has done. But that will never bring the child back to his parents and family - for that, he should feel eternally shameful.
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@ravisivan (14051)
• India
11 Jul 11
You have rightly said that the person who killed has serious problems -- these occur because he considers himself more ok than others-- this should be checked and we must be able to regulate our thinking.
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• United States
10 Jul 11
Hi Ravisivan, Wow irritated for the boy trespassing, now how crazy is that. I would hate for an adult to have crossed his path. It is common for some how do not know how to control their anger to take it too far. Sad, too because later they are left with regrets and wished they had not. If only those who do loose their tempers did way, could count to ten before, taking action. It could actually make a difference and or save a life. Now would this man, now wish he had warned the child instead?
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@ravisivan (14051)
• India
11 Jul 11
it is a lesson for all of us that we should be able to manage our moods well so that we cause less problems for others. The more we grow old the more static we become and we should be aware of it.
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@Bannybanzie (1398)
• Philippines
10 Jul 11
Oh dear.. poor boy. Yes, it's hard to control anger, but what's harder is when you have to go through the same irritating things over and over again. Maybe that happens a lot of times. A lesson to parents: Teach your children well! Don't trespass specially to strangers.
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@ravisivan (14051)
• India
10 Jul 11
yes. parents should teach the children to conduct properly in public. Adults should learn to manage their emotions especially anger.
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• Philippines
10 Jul 11
hi ravisan, This is sad to know well some people don't know how to manage their anger it is true it can give them a big problem. Hope justice will be served happy mylotting
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@ravisivan (14051)
• India
10 Jul 11
Even if justice is established by sending him to jail-- poor parents they cannot get back their son !! what a great loss !!
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@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
13 Jul 11
Parents should always teach their children to behave well in the public. It is pity to hear the boy being killed just because of almonds. It is really not worth to lose one's life because of almonds. That retired office shouldn't be that angry and kill the boy because of trespassing.That's why, it is always important to control our anger in our daily life. Because uncontrolled anger can lead to the creation of unwanted situation.
@ravisivan (14051)
• India
13 Jul 11
it is easily said than being practised. I have myself felt that many times anger has spoilt my career and relationship. But luckily my anger was not to the extent of this army man. That again god's making.
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@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
13 Jul 11
Yes, you are right. Wow, you need to really control yourself well, the very next time when you are in anger. You can practice meditation whenever your anger arise. I know it works for some of my friends.
@pahak627 (4206)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
That would be a great lesson to those who can't control their anger. That's really a big loss for the parents of the deceased and the boy.
@ravisivan (14051)
• India
10 Aug 11
yes. it is a great loss for the parents. almonds can be bought. But that boy--he has lost his life. We must learn to control anger. Or we must learn to manager anger properly.
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@thetis74 (1525)
12 Jul 11
That sounds very sad. Although he has been arrested--what about the poor boy? It sounded like he just shot a bird. Even a poor bird don't deserve to get killed like that. But for just some almonds? That really sounds absurd.
@ravisivan (14051)
• India
12 Jul 11
welcome to mylot. yes. u got the point rightly. A bird it self should not be shot. whereas this boy was much worse. that too for almonds--It is absurd in view of anger in the person. [em]
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• Mexico
11 Jul 11
Hi ravisivan: This story is so terrible and crazy but you are totally right. Peopple can get crazy when they are not able to control their anger. Anger can guide you to take the worst decisions, to say the things you don't really feel, it will make you want to hurt a person and do things that in normal circumstances you won't do. ALVARO
@ravisivan (14051)
• India
11 Jul 11
Anger will make u things which u may not do in the normal circumstances and most of it cannot be retrieved or rectified.
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