should i?

@cormiera (278)
United States
July 12, 2011 5:08am CST
my boyfriend and me are trying to exsplore new things he wants to have a threesome and im not really sure im always up for new things but as any women fears her being better and him cheating i mean it could be fun and i should trust him alil more but should i do it if im that scared he says he wont but the thing is should i beleave him? and should i do it?/try it
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@jdex_143 (1094)
• Philippines
13 Jul 11
Hi, cormiera! I don't think that your boyfriends' idea will result a good thing for your relationship. Try to think if you'll let that happen, maybe he'll gonna ask for that situation again and again and I don't think that it won't hurt your feelings. Maybe you should talk to him about it.
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@cormiera (278)
• United States
13 Jul 11
lol idk i might just let it slide and not say anything about it and he will drop the idea totally lol men are like that sometimes
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@ddaguno (3110)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
Im not the adventurous and if my boyfriend asks me this I might even feel offended. but i guess every person has his/her level of understanding.
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@cormiera (278)
• United States
12 Jul 11
yes kinda dissappointed that he would want to try with another person but idk kinda makes me feel sad that i might not be good enought the way i am he has to bring someone else into it
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@cormiera (278)
• United States
12 Jul 11
and to the rest of it lol understanding is very important and trust is another but idk it might work out for the best because i have done some not alot some crazy stuff in my day lol so why not try another right? but then again licking door knobs in china is illegal so...
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@sjvg1976 (13761)
• Delhi, India
13 Jul 11
Hello cormiera, I won't advise you to do it rest depends on you. I think every man would like to do it but won't ever think of it when he is in serious relationship.There are chances that you will be cheated as he may find that woman be better than you as she may be new for him.
@cormiera (278)
• United States
13 Jul 11
always a chance
@sjvg1976 (13761)
• Delhi, India
13 Jul 11
But chance should be taken for good things dear cormiera just for fun taking chances i don't think is a good attempt.
@cormiera (278)
• United States
13 Jul 11
yes but its life and ur always gonna take chances on everything u gamble with life not live it
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
Well, it's probably every guys dream, including mine. I know my girlfriend will never be up for it though, so I am okay not having to try it, but if given the chance, I would probably take it, as long as it includes my girlfriend and another female. It would be your personal preference though, but you should really think about it because feelings can get messy during or after it and there's really no going back, or you could take it as a one-night stand thing. Everything will still be up to you. It's nice to know that you are even thinking about it and open to the idea. It's rare for females, only those that I personally know, to actually even just think about it. Good luck on your choice, and if you ever get to do it then I hope you guys have fun.
@cormiera (278)
• United States
12 Jul 11
well ty ty and yes see there is the thing if it was with another guy i would be totally fine with it but the whole female part bothers me and what gets me i also think that he is fine with it and i guess i will see if he will go with another guy first it would be easier on my mind but we shall see
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
13 Jul 11
I don't think he would be fine with another guy though. Are you really up for DP?
@cormiera (278)
• United States
14 Jul 11
dp?
@bouncybug (615)
• South Africa
12 Jul 11
Obviously this decision can only be up to you. But I personally don't think that having a threesome is a good idea. I can't even imagine how I would feel watching him being with another woman while you are right there as well! I think that this is every guy's dream but it is unfair of your boyfriend to expect you to go along with it. There are many risks involved - how do you think you will feel watching your boyfriend with some other girl? I know it would drive me crazy and definitely can ruin a relationship. So just think very carefully before you go through with this.
@cormiera (278)
• United States
12 Jul 11
most def that would drive me crazy too but i want to please him in everyway shape and or form kinda wrong on my part *easily played* or would make it seem that way but yes i guess it will all depend on my trust in him is what im comming down to would def like to try though maybe it will even make our bond stronger knowin i can trust him that well and he can trust me idk lol still thinkin bout it but he isnt really pushing it on me and i repect him for that
@cormiera (278)
• United States
12 Jul 11
respect*
@Bannybanzie (1398)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
No don't do it. Leave him. He does not love you nor respect you. Why would he need another person??? In doing such thing which should actually be a private one??? That's so unfair for you and so wrong. He does not love you dear. It may hurt you but sorry, that's the truth.
@flzmlady (419)
• China
13 Jul 11
I agree with Bannybanzie. I do not think it's a good idea and you said he loves you. If he really do, why would he be not satisfied with you alone?
@cormiera (278)
• United States
14 Jul 11
true but idk im still thinkin bout it so but i def do satisfy him enought lol but idk like i have said im pretty much open to everythin and will try anything once
• Bulgaria
29 Jan 12
Hi this is interesting step in your relationship.You should have unlimited sure in each other.There is no bad in threesome doing but you should know more about that activity.Take a look at this article and find the most interesting facts about how to do it correct! http://socyberty.com/sexuality/threesome-in-bed/ Have a nice day!
@cormiera (278)
• United States
2 Jul 12
thank you that website was very interesting but idk he doesnt fully trust me and i dont fully trust him i guess its just a female thing
@LittleMel (14059)
• Canada
14 Jul 11
whichever you feel comfortable to if you don't trust him, you are just not ready for that yet, you don't want to then tell him No A friend of mine is adventurous and her bf gives the impression he doesn't like it so she has been holding it back and out of the blue we found her bf on a dating site inviting women for all kinds of se xual activity they broke up, obviously the bf said she is fooling around but who cares, let his other women deal with more lies of his it's kind of funny to me but I know it's not to anyone else experiencing this
@cormiera (278)
• United States
18 Jul 11
yes it always winds up in a break up and thats not whaat im trying to do so i think its safe to just say no and if he loves me he will respect my decision and get over it
@ybong007 (6659)
• Philippines
13 Jul 11
Your man is just being honest with you, a lot of guys fantasized of having a threesome. It would still be up to you if you are open to the idea or not. If you're not comfortable with it you can just say no. I'm sure there are other ways to explore and trying new things so you could probably start with the less stressful once.
@cormiera (278)
• United States
13 Jul 11
def agree lol