My friends ex husband....

@asyria51 (2870)
United States
July 12, 2011 2:27pm CST
he is bringing her to court over the money she made at a garage sale. He is claiming it is income and therefore since she made that money he should not have to pay as much child support. Really???? He is spending 100's on his lawyer because she made a few hundred at a yard sale. Does that really make sense? Luckily, her sister is her lawyer so she is not having to spend money on this vindictive gesture. Would it be worth it in your mind to sue over a few hundred bucks?
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@Shellyann36 (11283)
• United States
13 Jul 11
Oh this is rich.... I hope they increase his child support payments for him being so stupid! My ex hauled me to court once to get his payments decreased ( he owed several thousand in back child support for years of not paying) and the judge actually told him that he was not paying enough to me. The judge was going to increase his monthly payment but I told him that I just wanted my ex to make the payments each month and on time. The judge dismissed his case and we left the courtroom and the judge actually sent the bailiff out of the courtroom to chase after me asking did I realize that I could be getting more money. I was not trying to be money hungry and he is the one who brought me to court but I knew at that time he was having some financial difficulties and I was thoughtful.... there were times later after this that I wished I had said oh yes bring on more money!
@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
13 Jul 11
When the divorce first went through, the ex thought it was okay to pay anytime during the month, that was something that was overlooked in the divorce settlement the exact day it needed to be paid. That got ironed out and half is paid on the first and the other half is paid on the 15th. If this ends up in court, she is going to ask for him to pay the state and the state pay her because he has bounced checks on her as well.
@Shellyann36 (11283)
• United States
13 Jul 11
I am glad she is going to do that. I had to chase my ex down for cs and go through the local child support services agency. By doing that it is considered court/state ordered here and he has to comply or they can throw him in jail. It took me over 3 years to get him into court and get cs started. He was in the military at the time and stationed overseas and I could not touch him. As soon as he returned state side and called me at home wanting to see the kids (that he had not seen, talked to, written to or anything in 3 years) I did a reverse look up of his phone number via AT&T and got the whole paperwork process started. I find parents who would neglect the well being of their children not worthy of much. The best of luck to your friend.
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@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
19 Jul 11
luckily, when she went in today, the court sided with her. He will still have to keep paying the amount he is paying monthly. If he does not pay on time he will be thrown in jail.
@LadyMarissa (12161)
• United States
12 Jul 11
He's doing that just to irritate her; & if i were her, I sure would NOT let him know I was upset with him. I used to date a guy whose ex pulled a similar thing on him. She kept requesting her child support be increased. His lawyer kept a record of ALL the frivolous times she had caused him to take off work & come to court to complain that he wasn't paying her enough. Not only did the judge rule against her, he decreased the payment, ordered her to pay his court cost & reimburse him for time spent away from work...that was the LAST time she took him to court!!!
@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
12 Jul 11
I hope that the reverse is true for my friend and that the judge orders that the child support be increased. I have no idea how she is making ends meet. I am sure the garage sale was to pay late bills. She wanted to become a consultant of some kind, but is afraid he will take her to court again over it.
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@LadyMarissa (12161)
• United States
12 Jul 11
The judge had given my friend's ex a high amount every month to begin with. She earned more money than he did & I think the judge lowered it & made her pay the extra just to get her attention & to make her STOP wasting the court's time!!! Here, the amount of money the Mother makes has NOTHING to do with what the Father has to pay!!! Child support is there to cover the child...not necessarily the Mother. His ex was using the child support to go out & party!!! He was working 3 jobs in order to pay what the judge had said was fair plus cover his own bills & she still wanted more. He also paid on time every month & he bought shoes, clothes & toys for his kids on top of the child support. Then when it was his time to have them, she'd say they were sick or they had plans with a friend. So she expected him to write a check & NEVER see his children. Then she wanted to take him to court because she didn't like the judge's order!!! If your friend wants to become a consultant, she should just do it. If she's earning enough to not NEED his money, then she could make a deal to ask the judge to drop him paying child support in exchange for him never seeing the children again. He'd probably jump on that one & then he would have NO excuse to be harassing her!!!
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@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
19 Jul 11
My local court system tends to be pretty fair, while still slightly siding with the mother. They try not to bankrupt the father, especially if the mother is making enough to support herself and her children.
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@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
13 Jul 11
For me you find worst to it because they want to have it in not even your mind,money but your life too.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Jul 11
That's pretty pathetic...
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@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
12 Jul 11
She is only a teachers aid getting paid next to nothing, so low that she qualifies for the SNAP program. He tried claiming that was income as well. The judge pretty much laughed at that one. She did not eve ask for living expenses, just child support. I am pretty sure the judge is getting sick of his frivilous court appeals.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Jul 11
I really hope so. My cousin is living in family court hell (her ex is a family lawyer, and he files motions every 5 minutes, seems like), and I'd hate to see anybody else go through that.
@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
13 Jul 11
at one point she had to get a restraining order against him because he was calling her work and trying to get her fired. the last straw was when he showed up at work, not to see his child's teacher, but to argue with her in front of students. The principal called the police and they said that he was not to contact her between the hours of 8 and 4 when she was at work...right after he was released at 2:30 in the afternoon he called her cell phone and then the school. Real smart one there.
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@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
13 Jul 11
The husband is obviously super greedy. No one wants to get involved with anyone who counts every toothpick you use. I am glad your friend is finally coming to her senses. Her husband is really crazy.
@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
13 Jul 11
He was late in paying child support in May. His reason was that he bought a new Hummer. The huge full size thing, and he did not know the insurance was going to be so much, so he just could not pay his share to feed and clothe the boys.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
13 Jul 11
Hmph. Imagine that! I bought a Hummer so I cannot pay a paltry small several hundred dollars each to make sure my boys live in the lifestyle they are used to. I know that support payments can be anywhere from parentally arranged $50 a week to a court ordered several (or more) thousand a month PER child. It just depends on the situation. In some cases, the children suffer because the parent who physically takes care of them doesn't make enough without the support to cover the basic bills - ie the house, utilities, food, gas and transportation, so of course anything extra like a new jacket, toys, school supplies, entertainment, doctor visit etc wouldn't get taken care of.
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@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
19 Jul 11
If she could completely support her kids on her own she would, but she in financial turmoil right now. Once she is making enough money she is going to petition the court for limited visitation on her ex's part, mostly so the boys can still see their grandparents and cousins.
@RJlady1 (144)
• United States
12 Jul 11
Oh, good grief. Some people just can't go on with their lives, they hang onto their bitterness and harrass the ex till their dying breath. How ridiculous!
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@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
12 Jul 11
that is the funny thing. He is the one that left her to move in with the mistress he had had for several years. My friend handled it with amazing amounts of grace, especially since he is renting a house less than two blocks away from the house that they owned together(she got the house, along with the payments) in the original settlement.
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@RJlady1 (144)
• United States
12 Jul 11
So basically he's just your basic jackass, lol
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@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
12 Jul 11
he always has been. They only got married because she got pregnant. he has cheated off and on their whole marriage.
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@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
12 Jul 11
Wow the husband sure sounds childish. I mean he could have had a few hundreds on himself or the child considering how expensive lawyers are. I would never sue someone over a couple of hundreds!!
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@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
12 Jul 11
He doesnt want to be with the family, but they are not allowed to be happy either.
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• South Korea
12 Jul 11
So he's the one who broke up the family!! I don't know how people's heart can change so rapid and do stuffs like this to the one they once loved.
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@peavey (16856)
• United States
12 Jul 11
That's ridiculous. He is very vindictive, but it looks like things are on her side. Surely the judge will see it as it is.
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@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
12 Jul 11
So far the judge has sided with her in all but one thing, and that was trivial amounting to only about $50 a year out of her pocket. I am sure the judge will end up siding with her again. She is great with documenting his stupidity.
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@peavey (16856)
• United States
12 Jul 11
That's good!
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@Hatley (164524)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Jul 11
hi asyria no wonder hes her ex=husband as hes a jerk of the first water, lord what a specimen of disgustingness. He is wasting money and being bloody vindictive.No he is a genuine horse's rear end indeed. Shes lucky to have got rid of the man without going to jail for attempted murder of the bas.t.ar.d.No it makes no sense at all to me.[
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@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
19 Jul 11
she stayed with them, until the kids started making comments about the other women that there dad was spending all this time with. Followed by "why doesnt he come to our football games..etc." She knew it was time to end it.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
12 Jul 11
This is REALLY pathetic. First of all, he is going to spend more on the attorney than he is likely to get out of it, and if she is smart and SPENDS whatever she made from the yard sale before he can get his hands on whatever he thinks is his, there won't be any money to discuss after it's all said and done anyway. Honestly, nobody should ever even allow a case like that to be brought anywhere, even the attorneys ought to be ashamed of themselves. What a gigantic waste of time, money, and drama for nothing!
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@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
13 Jul 11
His lawyer is known to be pretty sleazy, but pretty good. It was only when he started looking bad in the community that he started to put up a stink...granted the stink is making him look even worse.
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@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
12 Jul 11
this guy has either too much time on his hands or too much money (because he is willing to pay the lawyer). will he really come ahead because of the money he is paying his lawyer as opposed to the money he will get from her. crazy.
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@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
12 Jul 11
he owns his own business and makes pretty good money with it, but i am still leaning towards crazy.
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• United States
12 Jul 11
GRRR.. how sad to stoop so low. I am assuming he just wants to cause more frustration and stress and thinks that way she will spend on the attorney fees. I am glad her sister is a lawyer and will help her with this. Gosh does he not realize the additional stress for the kids? I wish her all the best and am glad she will fight it in court. It is not a whole lot of money, too sad.
@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
12 Jul 11
according to him he never wanted kids, everything he has done to hurt the kids, they do not want to see him any more. They would rather just stay at their moms.
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
22 Nov 11
umm...no. it is his responsibilty to provide for his children and not worry over such petty things. If she earns money on a yard sale then his kids get a bit extra than normal. he should be happy for that.
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• United States
20 Nov 12
Wow. He sounds like a real winner. I'm not sure where you're from, but I'm in Indiana and the courts would not approve someone to use a family member or close friend as their attorney because it would be conflict of interest. Hopefully nothing happens due to this situation. It sounds like the ex-husband is just being a jerk and trying to do everything he can to lower his payments.