It's a serious problem

By eM
@eLsMarie (4148)
Philippines
July 13, 2011 2:22am CST
I know that some people might think of me as a "playa" or a play girl, but I'm not. The thing is, I easily get attracted to guys. I don't intentionally do it; it just happens. Situation: I met a guy. We were assigned to do some stuffs in school. Because of that stuffs, we became close with each other and from there, I find myself liking the guy. I understand the fact that my feeling's going to end right away, but I can't stand it already. Am I normal? Help me guys!
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9 responses
@jazeera (93)
• Philippines
13 Jul 11
Well it is normal for a girl to get attracted to a guy so i think you are normal. And you tend to get attracted usually if you always see the guy and you're pretty much always together that's why you develop some feelings for him, which may or may not fade away.
1 person likes this
• Philippines
13 Jul 11
got it right jazeera! :)
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
I hope it'll just fade instantly, because I have a boyfriend. Thanks for sharing jazeera and thanks for agreeing nurseclare!
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
no problem :)
@jdex_143 (1094)
• Philippines
16 Jul 11
To get attracted to an opposite s*x is just normal but if ever you have a boyfriend already, I think, you must be careful of your feelings to the one you're attracted with. Try to control yourself for perhaps, if your boyfriend finds out that you're disloyal, you might lose his love and trust and may lose your relationship with him. Try to focus your attention to your boyfriend only if you don't want to lose your relationship with him. :) Good luck and be a good girlfriend always! ")
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@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
16 Jul 11
Okay jdex_143... I don't wanna lose him. I'll try to control my feelings. Thank you very much for posting.
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
jdex, you are so right girl! Thank you so much for being so active here in mylot! hahaha :)
@nurseclare (2210)
• Philippines
13 Jul 11
That's a normal feelings fro some girls. At my age I don[t get attracted to someone even if we're always together. But younger age always feel that way. Just let it go, you'll changed when you got older. :)
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
If you don't mind me asking, how old are you now? I'm 21. I'm no longer a teen.
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
I'm 22..hahaha! You're taken right? So just try to control yourself, you might regret that in the end.
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
16 Jul 11
Yeah, don't worry, it's normal. I had a friend just like that in college. We'd call her polaroid because she falls for a guy so quickly that it takes her lesser time to fall than for a photo film to be developed. I think what matters here is the fact that most guys don't really like flirts. Most especially if the flirts are loud people who let everyone know that they like the guy. It's just awkward because most of these guys don't find the flirt attractive the the first place. Perhaps you should just stop yourself from thinking too much of the person. Perhaps you should just think that your mind is just playing tricks on you. Don't let everyone know that you like the person, and if it's possible steer clear of the person you like so that it won't be obvious. Nobody will say you're a "player" if you don't show it. You wouldn't like to be called 'shallow' don't you? Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
16 Jul 11
I never knew that there was a term for ladies who's like me. "Polariod," I'll remember that... Thanks for the word laydee! I wouldn't want to be called a player laydee. Thanks for spreading some light! Now, I'm convinced that I should forget my feelings for him.
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
it is very normal if you were attractive. know your not alone same from me in married but i easily keep in touch with but for me its normal but its a friendly things...no hurt feelings cause im open minded....
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
Open minded, in what sense preciousfel? I wanna know so that maybe I can easily handle stuffs like you do.
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
It's a right of a woman, whoever she might be to have feelings for others especially of their opposite. However, thing will not always go the same ways. And most of the time, this leads to a broken-heart and unfulfilled expectation. Try to concentrate yourself on other things if you don't want t easily fall for someone. Divert your attention or find ways not to focus yourself to a guy or someone else. There's no problem about you. You just need to learn how to control things.
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
Indeed, leahjane0122. I must learn how to control myself.
• United States
13 Jul 11
I think your normal being this happens all the time. I would not think your anything other than just being you.
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
Thanks giftsandbagscom. I miss receiving posts from you. It's been awhile. hmmm...
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
13 Jul 11
It's normal to get attracted and admire opposite gender. My definition with playgirl is...someone who is having affairs with different guys. As long as you never get into relationship,it's not considered as "play girl". You are only admiring someone...i also admire and got crushes to say that i am getting old (hehehe) just be yourself and enjoy being young...
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
Okay jaiho2009! I'm happy that I don't belong to the groups of "playa."
@bouncybug (615)
• South Africa
13 Jul 11
It is definitely normal to get attracted to guys - don't worry. The thing about physical attraction is that its something that you just can't help - its not really a choice to be attracted to someone!
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
Yah... Thanks bouncybug. I'm glad that I'm normal! At least I can say that I'm not alone.