wow ... that looks so amazing...

@eshaan (6193)
India
July 13, 2011 8:49am CST
Well what i am going to mention always happens with everyone... When someone makes some sort of beautiful handicrafts or anything you simply say its very amazing and you like it but when it happens to be ugly you cant say that its bad because if you will do so many people will think you are not good or they will feel heart broken... so you have to say that its amazing.... well there are exceptions... i am surely not talking about your family because if that is your family you may say that what is good or what is not.... but when it comes to someone outside its very difficult to face such situation... what are your reviews on this...
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@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
13 Jul 11
Well I'm not really good at telling the truth when i completely don't like some thing. But I just lie coz I think they'll feel bad if I tell them the truth. But anyway if its for my family or my close friends, I give them the real truth
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@eshaan (6193)
• India
21 Jul 11
yes for family members we can say truth though it may be a bit bitter for them...but for others we have to hide the truth...isn't it?
• United States
13 Jul 11
I hate to hurt anyones feelings.I love crafts and I have respect for anyone who can do something like that well.If I do not like a item though I will simply just say its nice without any big smiles.I try to let them down easy.
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@eshaan (6193)
• India
20 Jul 11
yes..u r right its not good to hurt anyone specially after he/she has done their best efforts....
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
Hi eshaan, it is really difficult to tell someone honestly of your opinion but we can always say it in a nice way and constructive way. Maybe if it is about an object or a piece of art i think i have to tell honestly how it looks like, or what i really feel about it so that it can be improved. Maybe i will say like " wow that is really nice but that will look nicer if we could ......" you know, something like that. If she is close to me then i will tell her honestly.
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@eshaan (6193)
• India
21 Jul 11
Yes...true friends say bitter or sweet ..but that is always to improve her friend...i agree with u ..i too can dare to say the truth if its my real good friend..
@bouncybug (615)
• South Africa
14 Jul 11
Yes - its definitely very difficult to tell the truth to someone when it is not something that they want to hear. I think that there is no point in saying something horrible to someone about something that they have made, even if it is how you really feel, because nothing constructive can come of it - rather just be neutral! You don't have to rave about it and say how amazing it is but maybe point out the parts you do like, so you can always say something like - 'I really like the colour you used, its beautiful. Next time why don't you try that same colour and maybe change this and this..' or something like that. But I also don't think you have a right to criticise if the person is doing something that you would not be able to do at all!
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@eshaan (6193)
• India
21 Jul 11
i feel that if a person wants to learn something....he/she must be ready to accept the criticism...such people who learn from criticism become perfect in their art....
@shibham (17025)
• India
14 Jul 11
Hi Eshaan.. I never hurt anyone by commenting negative. There is a way to comment to an ugly one like.... if you remake or reshape it this way, then i hope it will look smarter....... now let him/her evaluate where s/he is wrong. Have a nice day.
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@eshaan (6193)
• India
21 Jul 11
yes shibham... i will try this turning of words...thanx
@Hatley (164484)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Jul 11
hi eshaan oh when its family or a really close friend if you wish to keep that friend do not say oh my G thats ugly as thats going to hurt someone who worked hard onthat craft. You can say oh how different or how unique as unique could well cover goshugly well. You must be decent to people as beauty indeed is in the eyes of the beholder and some beholder may think that ugly handicraft is downright gorgeous. so there. just be king.And let me clue you in eshaan some f amily members are more touch than your best friends so do not say thats ugly or that stinks or ouch what the heckis that? just smile and say its very unusual. that should satisfy.
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@eshaan (6193)
• India
21 Jul 11
thanks hatley for the good way of expression...
@ozarkcat (43)
• United States
14 Jul 11
One lesson I learned early on was to cushion what you don't like with something you do. "Well, I'm really not crazy about crocheted doll dresses in general, but I really love the color combination you used! Have you thought about using a similar pattern/color in an afghan or pillows?" or thereabouts.
• India
14 Jul 11
Hello my friend eshaan Ji, Well, I have very frank views on such occasion, you remember, I am still waiting OK from your side that I wanted to meet you with my daughter at your place, one year you had been to Mumbai for Chriosmas celebrations, next, I viisted in April-11, and then again I am due next month, what is frankly to be told. I know, even KASAB's birthday marked Mumbai again BLAST yesterday, still Kasab will be praised , after his life comes to end. Opposition is always at daggers drawn, but on some body's passing away, we all feel, known OR unknown. This is life. Thanks. May God bless You and have a great time.
• United States
25 Oct 11
well i have always said what i really think about things like that but people that know me know that i am not trying to be mean or hurt anyones feelings but that is just my personality i would rather straight up tell the person that it looks terrable than to lie and tell them it looks great because chances are that somewhere down the road someone is going to out and say the truth and then after i said it looks great people are going to think i either have bad taste or they will think that i am a dishonest person
@jugsjugs (13045)
14 Aug 11
I also hate to hurt peoples feelings, but i will say that some times if people really want your honest opinion, then i will tell them with out hurting them, i would say perhaps a different colour, or suggest something that i also thing would help, i would hate for a person to say something i had done was nice and then found out different by another person.I think that there are a lot of people with very different tastes as well.
@neededhope (1086)
• United States
14 Aug 11
You don't have to lie to them just say that piece looks rather interesting. Did it take you long? This way there feelings aren't hurt but your not lying to them either. WE all have different tastes in style and in our crafts. I say be honest it may hurt a little but it's better to be a good friend and tell the truth than lie to them and end up them giving it to you lol.