searching for happiness.

India
July 15, 2011 2:53am CST
I m very busy with my kids and managing my home. I m a homemaker. I chose being a homemaker myself instead of being a working woman. But sometime i feel very dissatisfied. May be because I do not get much time for myself. I want to do lots of things but do not know exactly what i want. Is this happens to you also? Please suggest me so that i find the happiness which i m searching for long time.
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@Dominique25 (9475)
• United States
16 Jul 11
Remember that what you are doing is wonderful. You are taking care of your family and that is very important. Even so you have to make time for yourself and set goals that you want to achieve. This will help you to find satisfaction in your life and feel proud of yourself as well. Even if you have to save to be able to do some of the things that you want to do then work on that. There are a lot of things that I want to do for myself. I'm helping my husband start his own business and supporting his effort to go to college. I also am making plans for the things i want to do as well. Right now my goal is to earn a certain amount everyday to help support my family. My husband at times feels that earning online is a waste of time and that i'm not making very much. But for me it's a goal that i'm continually working on for myself not for anyone else. It doesn't provide a lot but i'm not prideful in thinking that a certain amount is beneath me. We have to do what we have to. Maybe taking some kind of recreational class will make you feel better. Trying doing something once a week that is just for you. It's not saying that you don't care for your family but in order to care for your family effectively it's important that you are satisfied. If your family appreciates you they will understand that this is what you need and they will be supportive. Make a list of some of the things that you've always wanted to do or achieve. Work on completing that list. You are very important and I want you to find the happiness that you are looking for.
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• India
16 Jul 11
Thanx a lot Dominique. U r simply great. As you helps your husband and try to make some money also. Ur suggestions are really great. I will also try to make a list and try to achieve them.
• Pamplona, Spain
16 Jul 11
Hiya meena, To get ahead in anything you want to do you have to find a space for you in your Home and do what you want to do. I am not sure at all what you want to do exactly but I do know this that you have to find that space and if you are looking to work online or something like that prepare for it beforehand see it as being done already see your goal as being already there. Because meena if we are forever listening to the whims and fancies of other Family members we will never be able to do anything. It´s a question of cutting yourself off from them for about half an hour a Day to be able to concentrate on what you want to do. What I mean is to give yourself some space, some time to yourself you are entitled to it after all. I went through that syndrome as well that I was only there for everyone else and I had to see to them all but now that has changed. I started putting time aside for myself and having space for myself it does not go down very well with them lots of times but they are having to accept it that I need and deserve as much as what they have got. xxxx I still have not decided what I want to do but I have lots of fun deciding anyway and you will be much happier too with more peace and quiet. Go for it meena remember you deserve it.xxx
• Pamplona, Spain
16 Jul 11
Me again, If you feel that you cannot concentrate in the House and you have the chance to go to the Shops go the long way round. Take a long walk look around you and if you can sit down for a while somewhere and know that you can be what you want to be. Just get out there away from the House if needs be and start recovering back some of what you want. It does not work overnight but you will get there. I would also go along sith Siva and Dominique they are right you are not doing anything wrong by thinking about yourself more. In fact your Family can get to benefit from it too.xxx
• India
18 Jul 11
U are absolutely right. If i m at peace my family will surely get benefited by it. Yes you are right that i want to do some online work. Basic thing is that i want to earn money and meanwhile does not want to leave my place or go out for work because my kids are very young and i do not want to leave them with anyone.
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• Pamplona, Spain
18 Jul 11
Hiya meena, Got it now I understand you more as well. Most of us Girls have been in that plight and similar situations. That is a very intelligent outlook on the World you have there because you don´t want to leave them with anyone either. You know yesterday coming back through a Village there was a sign outside on a House it said just simply said Honey for Sale. A lot of People are starting to go back to eating and using Honey the way it was and they are probably selling it raw you know without packaging and all that. It made me think that sometimes the old fashioned ways are stil the best because if you make things from home and sell them from around your Home you don´t really have to go anywhere. You can still work online too whatever you do you will surely make money. I also saw a very small Shop where one brave girl is selling ordinary Clothes yes ordinary for us other Girls the one that don´t have a perfect figure long may she reign doing that. She has a lovely little Shop that is very inviting to go into but it was Sunday so all was closed up and the boards were there because the Bulls were running through the Street they were in Fiestas (Holiday Celebrations). Those are two things I came across in one small Village. Just goes to show that us Girls can do what we want more or less anyway. Love to your Babies I hope you find something that earns you lots and that you love doing it too. So many things that you could do. I just wish that I knew how to sew like they did before. Now I can sew much better than what I did at School as the Teacher was always shouting at us for being clumsy (grin). Wishing you luck meena.xxx
@allknowing (73147)
• India
15 Jul 11
The only way you can remain happy is by searching for it in you day to day activities. It is not how much we have but what we make of what we have is the true root to happiness. For me even if my dog eats well gives me happiness and there are so many such little things around me that each day I am overloaded with happiness. Try it and you too will find loads of it around you.
• India
15 Jul 11
Thanx. As per your saying today i m happy because my younger son didn't cry when he goes to school and he is smiling when he comes back. Good points to remember to be happy.
@allknowing (73147)
• India
15 Jul 11
There you are. I am so happy that you found your happiness!
@Graceekwenx (3163)
• Philippines
15 Jul 11
Welcome to Mylot Meena! I have officemate moms and they all wished that they were staying at home with the kids. They feel guilty whenever they come home late and the kids would have to wait on them to tutor them on their homework. Apart from being exhausted, they also feel that they are bad and inefficient mothers. At this present time, they couldnt afford not to work because of the expenses that they have to put up with. Admittedly, their spouses couldnt do it alone.
• India
15 Jul 11
Somehow u r right. they have to do double work as beside working at office they have to manage home also. Hats off to them. I want to give my kids full attention that's why i choose to be a homemaker. But I have to adjust with the extra money which i could earn being a working women.
@SIMPLYD (86530)
• Philippines
15 Jul 11
Maybe you are already burnt out by the household chores and caring for your children. Perhaps ,you can ask your husband during his free day, to pitch in for yourself in taking care of the children and have a day off to pamper yourself. You can have a haircut, pedicure and manicure or buy a new thing for yourself. Learn how you can be happy amidst your works at home. Maybe when the kids are napping you can watch your most wanted program. Or you can choose for a program , that you can watch everyday, so that you can something to look forward to each day.
• India
15 Jul 11
Thanx a lot simplyd. Your suggesstions are simply great. I m Sure they are helpful.