What are the signs to see in someone before to trust them?

@katie0 (5212)
Japan
July 16, 2011 4:48am CST
There are people that gives a chance to new people and others that don't. If you don't know the person, how can you know? What signs a trustworthy person shows in the outside, that you can check?
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• China
16 Jul 11
You had better make sure who he is associating with,if they get along with each other ,etc.Just as the saying is,"A man is known by the company he keeps."
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
19 Oct 11
Thank you! Yes, that is true. For example, it doesn't matter how naive a young guy is, again for example, if he hang outs with criminal, guys that steal and stuff, it doesn't matter how much he doesn't know, he will change company once he realize he's not like them. Company can really show one's carachter. There was this guy I dated once,we were really in love but man, then I met his friends: BOTH CHEATED. I really didn't know the girls cause I would tell them, I didn't care, but I didn't know those poor girls. What do you think I thought about the guy? We were friends for so long but I don't care if he was loyal, he had friends like this, I think he could have that inside of him and didn't know yet. Of course this was the major reason to get the hell away from him. Friends with cheaters? I thought when I learned this truth: "Are you kidding me?" No way. When there's bad company I don't think the person could be different. I mean how can we hang out with people that act like we don't agree upon?
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• China
19 Oct 11
Birds of a feather flock together.
@jdex_143 (1094)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
I consider trusting someone easily as one of my weaknesses. I've been fooled a lot of times. Now, I'm doing my best to get to know a person first before giving my full trust to them and I'm happy that I'm keeping it good. One way I could find out or one of my ways to make sure that a person is trustworthy is to know their backgrounds. Before I will have a transaction with them or even saying a confidential matter to him/her, I always see to it that he/she is trustworthy by asking his/her immediate friends and family about his/her attitude. There are many ways to know if a person is trustworthy. Mine is checking his/her background and the like. :) We must be careful on who to trust. :)
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
19 Oct 11
Thank you. You must be such a sweet person, be careful. You can't trust too much as even people that we know for long might not be exactly how we see them. Please be careful.
• Mexico
18 Jul 11
Hi katie: I think this is a very difficult question and you might be wrong just by judging someone by the first impression that comes to your mind. However, one of the first things I look in a person is teh way he/she smiles, what's he/she doing, the look in his/her eyes, what he/she wears and his/her attitude but I am sure this is not enough to be completely sure if you can trust in a person. ALVARO
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
19 Oct 11
Thank you! No I don't think it's enough but no, I don't judge by first impression. I even seek to talk to people that have been 'rumoured' this and that because I don't believe in rumours. I met amazing people that had a 'bad reputation' about this or that and time showed me that whoever started this 'reputation' and rumour was jealous of the girl, can you believe that? I don't trust gossip so I don't judge people even by what many believe they are. First I believe someone was jealous of the targeted person. Of course that ALSO half of the times the gossip was TRUE! hahahaha No dear friend, everyone deserves a chance. I've been a victim of gossip by jealous girls as well I know they might create the nasty things. But there are actions that for me are: the way they treat an elderly person, a child and an animal that says ALL. No one takes interest in elderly, children and animals to profit cause it's not possible to profit from them, so...if they are interested, I think that's where there's the magic.
• Nairobi, Kenya
16 Jul 11
Time is the best testing tool for any friendship or joint activity. Give them some time while you observe them and you will know who is genuine and who is not. Don't ever trust new people whom you have not seen.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
19 Oct 11
Thank you! Indeed I did it a thousand times, I can't trust anymore without seeing it. But I give everyone a chance, even people that sometimes are rumoured to have done something. I met the most amazing people that actually had a bad reputation here and there. I think that half of these people just have a very jealous enemy that wished to be her.
@gidz0518 (194)
• Philippines
16 Jul 11
Its not easy to trust someone whom you don't know. But it's better to give a chance to someone who is worthy. I think you should know the person more before putting your whole trust on him. Time can say if he is worthy on your trust. If that person is cares for you and concerns on you I think that person can be trusted.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
19 Oct 11
Thank you! Time can be a crachter revealing thing, but specially we can watch closely. For example I wouldn't want to be friends with girls that we go to the bathroom together and they ignore the cleaning lady, I don't think people like that are good people. Like I know it's her job but if she's cleaning my dirty mess, I should respect this lady, and she gets tired more easily than me so elderly need support. I don't know, it's just something that bothered me working in some places where I was beginign to befriend a colleague at work and she just ignored when the cleaning lady said hello or something you know, I don't befriend anymore after something like this. Poor cleaning ladies.