I maybe a good samaritan but should I be generous with their daily needs?

Philippines
July 17, 2011 4:27am CST
I can give alms of support for the needy ones who are really needing financial support because their incomes are not sufficient enough for their daily needs.Some of them are actually milking me daily for their daily needs.It is not a very serious problem yet my only problem is that they are growing in numbers that I could not afford to sustain my daily activities because I am just helping them in the sense of my will to support them yet they are abusing my support.What should I do so that my previous people whom I know really needed my help can still avail my support. There are no one helping me with this project of mine.
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@Graceekwenx (3163)
• Philippines
17 Jul 11
Hmm.. Let me guess... are these people your relatives? Or hmmm... people you met in church? Berting... You and your family comes first. If you are running short, i think should learn how to say "no" to these people for the reason that... it has become an abusive relationship already. You are not a charitable institution Berting, you have a life of your own. Furthermore, it is not healthy to keep on supporting them because this would give them a reason to lax out more and expect that the Philanthropist Berting would always be there to rescue them. Instead of losing your financial resources in this project, why not teach this people to grow additional income on their own by being enterprising or starting a small business. You may want to assign some of these people to sell fishballs or squidballs. This doesnt require to much work but the income you get from this small mobile stall is indeed big. You cant do it on your own Berting,you have to teach these people to work for their own benefit or for the project.
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• United States
18 Jul 11
Great advice.
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• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Thank you very much for a wise advice.Your advice is good and I will make any changes in my coping with these guys yet I can not totally escape from them because we are like a community and the place is very small.I have suggested that before even if others have some sort of income as a sidecar driver but still it can not fully support a family cause most of them have many children to feed.In my own observation these people are not really my obligation because I just help them with their other expenses yet they are growing by the number that is why I am planning to evacuate from this place.
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@rosegardens (3044)
• United States
18 Jul 11
berting, it is commendable you are trying to help others. However, some of those folks who are taking advantage of you are not doing themselves nor you any good at all. Continue aiding those you know are in need, the others, tell them to get a job. Your responsibility is to your family first off. You also need to care for yourself so you can continue to work and provide for your family. God bless you my friend. You are a good and charitable person who no doubt will feel badly for turning someone away. Yet, it must be done for their own welfare. The certain ones need to learn to stand on their own. For some, the most charitable thing you can give them is not giving so they will seek out ways to earn their own way.
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• Philippines
18 Jul 11
I know I have a family to take good care of.It is just my passion to help others whom I think needs my help.It is very pleasant to hear their thank yous yet God also given me good health in return to all my good deeds.I have good family ties which is all I wanted and I have thank God for all my graces.
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• United States
18 Jul 11
It is nice to know people are grateful when they receive help of any sort. It is great you have a good family. I hope there are others who will extend some kindness towards those who are in need. Either that, or I hope that God will enlarge your pocket book to carry on. Either way is good.
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• Philippines
19 Jul 11
The truth is I am just having some follow up work and even if I am already finish others keep track on me that is why I am not turning my back to these needy persons in my neighborhood. The More I help the more I get some more work to do.That is why I always thank God for all my blessings and share some to others.
@allknowing (54665)
• India
18 Jul 11
There is an old saying - give them the fishing tackle but not the fish. Helping others to fend for themselves is far better than giving them their daily bread. There are many who can be independent if they want to but since they get their daily bread without working for it,the like it that way and this becomes a habit which should be discouraged at all costs.
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• Philippines
18 Jul 11
They are also striving to feed themselves yet their income are not suficient to their daily needs.They really neede some extra money so that they can achieve a better living condition.If you can just observe their situation it is really pittyful to see them just eating the same noodle soup with the rice.It is to their responsibility to aim high to had been given to them as help so that they can do whatever they can achieve.
@jdex_143 (1094)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
There's a famous bible saying that says "do not give them fish, instead teach them how to catch fish and they will not hunger anymore." I think, you're too generous that you forget yourself. You have to learn how to say "NO" to those persons. Sometimes, you have to disregard them not that you abandon them but for the sake of yourself. You also have to give for yourself. :) I hope they'll help you also when you're in need.
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• Philippines
18 Jul 11
I do not see any gestures from them just that they are always waiting till I come to their rescue.My only happiness is that God have already given more than enough that I must share it also to those less in life.