What Would You Say?

Philippines
July 17, 2011 8:02pm CST
So a guy apparently asked a big group of people. "If you were given the chance, would you marry the same person you have married?" This might be a big question for everyone. Not everyone would say yes, and not everyone would say no. I heard one man said "Yes, I would marry the same woman. Why? Because we've been together for 12+ years. We already knew each other well. If I would marry a new one, I would have to start dealing with a stranger all over again." I see his view clearly and he is indeed a good man. He really loves his wife.. What can you guys say? Do you share the same view as this man?
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16 responses
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
18 Jul 11
Yes I would marry the man I married almost 20 years ago again if given the chance. Although we have our ups and our downs, we still love each other very much. Right now I'm not too happy with him so it's one of our down times but I still love him with all of my heart and he loves me with all of his heart which is what matters most.
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• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Hi! I'm so happy to hear that from you. Not all married couples can withstand the downs of their relationships, but I'm happy that you and your husband have genuine and lasting love for each other! Thank you and more happiness in your life!
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
22 Jul 11
I am not a guy but I guess I would say: Yes. The reason is that given the same life and personality I would make the same choices and mistakes again. Unless I am re-born with a different circumstances and personality...
• Philippines
22 Jul 11
Well.. the question is not just for guys.. Yeah, I see your point.. So you mean the same decision of having that person..? Thanks and have a great day!
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
22 Jul 11
Yeah, what made us chose the person in the first place would always be the reason when I was given a chance again with the same circumstances.
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
18 Jul 11
yes. the answer is same because i know my partner. i will be saved of the botheration of getting myself used to a new person. good day.
• Philippines
22 Jul 11
Hi! Yeah, being with the same person is a lot better since you've mostly known everything about him/her.. but if you choose a new one, that would be another long process of trials and hardships.. but also.. love should be your reason, right?
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
22 Jul 11
obviously. only person who has accepted me as i am with all my weaknesses and strengths. we do have differences which are sorted out maximum within half a day. i give up or she gives up. that is life.
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
hello Banny, NO NO NO! Simply because he cheated me _th times and i don't love him anymore Like my father said..better live alone than hurting myself again and hurt by the same person.
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Oh dear.. sorry to hear that. Of course, if a person has hurt us too much already, if we are given the chance, what we would want is to eliminate them in our lives.. Well, I hope the best for you and always be happy!
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
@celticeagle (117727)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Jul 11
I think in this day and age that it really depends on the circumstances. I wouldn't marry any of the men I was married to previously. Oh, it was great in the beginning but things go steadily down hill from there. So, no I would not remarry and I not share the same view as this man.
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
HI! Yes, it really depends on the situation. Sometimes, people are just sweet and loving in the beginning. But as time goes by, their love is also going away.. Thank you for sharing!
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@celticeagle (117727)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Jul 11
People need to get to know the other before commiting to them.
@pahak627 (4198)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
I would really admire the person who will say that he or she will marry the same person again but i won't hate the person who will say no. The answer to this question will depend upon the life of the person with his/her spouse. For me, i would rather say that I would never marry if given a chance because married life is not for me. I have my own reason which i rather want to remain secret.
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Hi! Yes, it really depends on the situation of people. How much pain or happiness the marriage has caused them.. Thank you! We respect every opinion here and it really depends.. Now about your secret.. of course it's a secret. But feel free to tell your story once you're ready! Happy mylotting!
@pahak627 (4198)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
thanks. it's not really confidential but i'd rather not have it in public. somebody might not like what i'll say.
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
hello BB, The man has a point a very good point that is also what I am going to say If you have a good relationship why will you settle for someone and start all over again? I rather stick with the person I choose maybe he can't be perfect what matter most is I LOVE HIM happy mylotting
• Philippines
22 Jul 11
Hi! I'm happy to see another person who can see why he said that! And yeah, if the love is still there, why not? Thanks and happy day!
@jdex_143 (1094)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
If ever I'll get married and be asked, if ever I would get a chance to remarry and choose who to marry, I think, I would marry the same person I married. Same reason. If I'll look for another, We'll start knowing each other again and it would take a great effort and a lot of time just to know each other very well. :)
• Philippines
22 Jul 11
Hi! Yes, that's exactly that's man's point. It would be another years of struggling. Unlike if marry the same person specially if s/he has been a good and loving one even through trials, then it'll be better to marry the same person! Thanks and happy mylotting!
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
18 Jul 11
I think I would. It depends whether they mean we'd be starting all over again or whether it is the person we are with right now. We've both changed a lot over the last decade. And to be honest, sometimes it's been really hard. It's worth it, but if I had to do it all over I don't know if I would do it.
• Philippines
22 Jul 11
Hi! Yeah.. those are completely different situations.. to start all over again or to just marry that person again.. Thanks and happy mylotting!
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
18 Jul 11
why not? I've been married to the same man for 29 years and knows him in and out. Though he is a habitual drinker that often provoke my emotion and drive me nuts but he is not all that rotten. There is still a part of him that can be salvaged which I can tolerate and live with. It is better to live with the devil you know than the devil you don't know.
• Philippines
22 Jul 11
OH yeah honey.. that's right. You know him very well so it's better to be w/ him than to be with a stranger and struggle again understanding a new person, right? Happy day!
@ElicBxn (60825)
• United States
18 Jul 11
I think my mother would've said yes. I don't think my brother would've, since he divorced the gal he married... since I've never married... well, hard to say since I never did or even "shacked up" with a guy... I've made some mistakes that I wouldn't want to repeat, but on the whole, I could've made worse choices...
• Philippines
22 Jul 11
Hi! Yeah.. different situations, different answers.. I've never been married either so.. I really can't say. Thanks and hope the best for you!
18 Jul 11
I may sound like a woman for saying this, but that's a TERRIBLE thing to say about his partner. He's basically saying he'd only marry her again because it's easier, not because he's particularly in love with her. She's the safe option. Less effort required. As for me, yes I'd choose the same lady again and, despite the fact that I know life would be a LOT easier if I didn't (for a variety of reasons I won't go into here), she's worth every single difficult minute. Even knowing everything I know now, some 18 years after I first met her, I'd do it all again, exactly the same because without her, it'd all make much less sense.
• Philippines
22 Jul 11
Hi! Wow.. you sounded someone who's really in love with your wife.. and that love never faded with time.. so sweet.. Congratulations for both you and your wife! Hope more blessings in your marriage.. About what the guy said, yeah.. well I think you're the only person who thought like that.. everybody else thought he's sweet that he said that and he loves her.. but I see your point. She's so fortunate to have you! More happiness to your life!
@stanley777 (7177)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Yes,absolutely I will marry her again and again.We've been married for more + years now I will do it again to renew our vows sometime soon. Married life has it's ups and downs, disagreement between couples but that's part of putting two different individual in one roof, each having their own character traits and principles.AS a couple we have our own share too but that won't prevent me from marrying her again.
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Wow.. so far you're the only guy that has answered and I'm happy to hear those words.. Yes, married life is not as easy as most unmarried people thought. But if both sides strive to contribute to the good of the family, it is like magic.. Thank you and happy day!
@bingchen (1126)
• China
18 Jul 11
i have never met this problem.as for me.i think about actual problem.if i still love him.i would like to marry the same man.as the man said,i know each other for long time now and know how to deal with some problem between us.but if we could not adapt to live each other,i could not think about this problem which i marry the same person.
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Hi! Thank you for your response! Yeah.. if you still love the person of course you would marry him.. Thank you again!
@SIMPLYD (78751)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
I would say the same as the man. But not primarily because i don't have to start dealing with a stranger again, but because i love my husband very much. I would go all over again, even if it means going through the first early years of marriage where we always argue a lot.
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Well, they say the first year is the hardest as both are still struggling and adjusting.. Thank you for your response! I hope the best for your marriage!
@Hatley (164671)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Jul 11
hi bannybanzie of course as he was he first and maybe only person outside of my adult son who loved me as I was, not wanting me to be taller or shorter or heavier or slimmer or outgoing or shy,just accepted me the way I was ,he wanted no changes, he loved me for my good and bad points, he loved me. all of me. now even my parents had not done that.So yes I would marry him over in a flash. wow that would be lovely if it could happen lol lol
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Wow.. I'm so happy to hear a great love story of you.. I hope the best for both of you.. and yes, love is about acceptance. We can only say we love someone if we appreciate every part of him/her whether it is bad or good. Thanks and have a nice day!