It's my responsibilty

@savypat (20216)
United States
July 19, 2011 3:38pm CST
Why is this so hard for us to say? What makes us be defensive first thing when a mistake happens? The whole world would be so much simpler if we would just stand up and say, yes I am responsible for what happened. So right now I want you to say out loud, I am responsible and then you can say but so is she and so is he. Isn't that the way the world goes round?
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@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
23 Jul 11
I think it's just a knee jerk reaction that we all say that. Lets face it, we all do not want to get into trouble. I do that sometimes, but I do admit if I did something wrong. My girl friend is like that, she will own whatever it is that she did, good or bad. She is a real person.
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
25 Jul 11
You have a total treasure in your girlfriend, treasure her.
@allknowing (130092)
• India
20 Jul 11
It is the repercussions that people are afraid of. If admitting ones mistakes leads to punishment and losses one would defend oneself no matter what.It is easier said than done. That is life.
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
20 Jul 11
love your avatar picture. The thing that happens when you don't stand up and face the music is that you lose your self respect and also the respect of others. People are not fooled for long by a person who passes the blame.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
20 Jul 11
Hi pat, this is a rare quality to confess own mistake. It is very astonishing when a super power defends its action of destroying a civilization. Peace will prevail when the world leaders would confess their misdoings.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
21 Jul 11
I could not agree with you more! The ego does not allow a lot of us to admit our errors take responsibility for them and own them. That is after all the only way to grow isn’t it? As Dr Phil puts it, “You cannot change what you do not acknowledge…”
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• United States
20 Jul 11
I have had to learn that I am responsible for my own life. It wasn't easy, when I wanted to blame everyone for my childhood and everything that happened post childhood. Now that I am an adult, it is my fault. Whatever does or does not happen for or to me, I play a direct role in that. I feel so proud I can say this now. I have seen lots of people who don't own up to their responsibility in things. This makes the situation more trying for the person involved. It would be so much better if we accepted our responsibilities as that and just moved on. I don't know why we don't do this more often. It would be a much better place if more of us did this.
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• United States
20 Jul 11
This is a good question. I think the reason people do this is because they do not want people to think that this person makes mistakes often and loses their trust. People want people to trust them, so they blame it on other people. It strikes a familiar question: how far will you go to save yourself?
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
20 Jul 11
The thing is that you are not saving yourself by this behavior, all you are doing is getting a reputation for not haveign the courage to stand up and take the blame. Goodness knows we all make mistakes
@KrauseHome (36449)
• United States
19 Jul 11
It is so sad that there continues to be so many people out there that are not wanting to take time to be responsible for themselves, and their situations. Makes you wonder who taught them while growing up and why do they continue to think that the world might owe them a living? I have worked with so many people in their 20s and 30s so wanting to never take responsibility for anything and always wanting to blame someone else that one day I hope something will open their eyes before they continue to self destruct.
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@QeeGood (1213)
• Sweden
20 Jul 11
I do not find it hard to stand up for what I have done or I'm doing. I admit my mistakes and wrongdoings or failures. It's my responsibility as a mature adult. It is better to turn wrong into right and to correct what was wrong into the appropriate. But it should also be that when someone do right, it should be appreciated as well as someone pinpointing out when someone do wrong. It should be a balance.
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Jul 11
It's not always young people that do this. I was raised in a household where adults did it all the time. @savypat: I do think more people need to take responsibility for the things they have done wrong. I hate when I make a mistake it bothers me to no end. I admit it to others though. It's just hard on myself. I am definitely my worst critic.