What would you do if you are a second one?
By wongchoiyee
@wongchoiyee (7413)
Malaysia
July 21, 2011 12:39pm CST
The boy loves you but he had already a girlfriend. Her girlfriend always critizises you but you just keep silent. You tired being scolded over jealousy. You are the middle one. You hated it. You always have to clear the situation. How to deal with this situation?
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8 responses
@Emerald20 (130)
• Philippines
21 Jul 11
For me, if i know that the guy loves me, I'll show him and let him feel that I love him too ( if that's you case). It is not unfair for the girlfriend, that given the fact that the guy loves is you. It would be more a betrayal if you will continue fixing them up, when you and the guy already knew that you have a mutual feeling. You can still decide, either to get off with their situation or fight for the guy. You do not need to be martyr when you know it is really yours..
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
21 Jul 11
I want to go off from this situation, but everytime I do that I got scolded by the girlfriend for being expensive. Actually I really want to give myself a break. I am tired of those arguments I had. I am a silent person. I don't like to argue.
@Emerald20 (130)
• Philippines
21 Jul 11
If that's your decision, it's fine. you really have to think what you really wanted because it's all about you after all. If you thinking fighting for the guy wouldn't be worth enough to cause you trouble like that, the get rid off them both. I am sure there's alot of guy who will love you. If the guy really loves you and is brave enough for you, he will let go of her girl to win your heart:)
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
21 Jul 11
Yes I do think if he really loves me then he should not hurt me heart.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
21 Jul 11
Is the relationship with the first girlfriend over and done with? If so you are the winner and there is no reason to even consider that girl. If he still keep the first girlfriend and you are just a fall back girlfriend then it's time to get out. You should have to much respect for yourself to put up with that. In this case make sure you do what is best for you.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
21 Jul 11
I am not sure what are the situation now with the girl but if he still keeps the girl then no reason I should stay on. But he went off to overseas to work last 6 years and do not contact me. When he knows that I am ill with depression, he came back and these bugging has been 2 years more. I really left out in the few years back so no point being together again.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
21 Jul 11
We dont have a choice if we become for the second [choice coz he has already his girlfriend when you came into his life. Anyway the bottom line is the love. Even though we are the choices but if we are the apple of the eye so no problem. If [we are the most love out of his girlfriend not bad and this is on my own opinion. So lucky if we are the most love even we are on number10! 
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
21 Jul 11
I came into his life and know that after he had a girlfriend. I was dissapointed and now day and night he interrupts me. I go off but he just keep on bugging me. I live with my parents and they don't know about this.
@SpikeTheLobster (6403)
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21 Jul 11
So the boy loves you but he's still with his girlfriend... then he doesn't love you. Sounds like he just wants a second girlfriend. Definitely a bad idea.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
21 Jul 11
Its kind of embarassing if we met coincidently on the streets. I would go hide. Definitely stay away from him. This kind of man doesn't deserve second chance.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
22 Jul 11
Hi Wongchoiyee, I would say there shouldn't be a third person in love between you both and should never have rights to critize or scold over. Talk to your lover about this clearly and a friend like her will always become a intruder between your both privacy. Make your lover understand this and get her out of your both way.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
22 Jul 11
Sometimes she just being there with my lover, and I am angry to hear those criticizing. I actually wanted to talk it over with my lover about respect but I have no courage.
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
21 Jul 11
I will try my best to tease the first one because for me it will be a fun :D
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
21 Jul 11
I am not so tongue wagging but the b**** keeps talking like a dog nonstop like a radio. Yes he lives nearby and the girl too. They spread the news to the neighbourhood and claim that I am the b***** one.
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
21 Jul 11
Although its very teasing to be called second one so being a human its natural to rebound because there is one famous saying's, "Everything is fair in Love and War"
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
24 Jul 11
No one is perfect in this world. If she is the second one to him, then she can asks him for being a good person with her, to give trust.
@thetis74 (1525)
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21 Jul 11
If I were in your situation, it would be really tiring to deal with. And if he does love you then he should be honest to that girl because it isn't fair on her part too. And we can't blame ourselves for getting jealous when it comes to this situation. So it is either you accept him despite all the troubles or you fight that he should let go of the other so you can have him happily. And it is really tiring why he is always scolding you for getting jealous when you are just being logical. And if he really does love you, I would only hope that he could fix everything himself without giving you all the troubles.
