Feeling Safe and Secured On myLot

I rant in mylot because it's the only site that my husband is not into. And close friends and relatives aren't here as well so they wouldn't know what i'm talking about here. Like you i feel safe and secured in mylot. I can share personal things i don't have the courage to share with people around me. I can gain confidence in sharing my opinion without being judged by those close to me.

Who is 'she' and 'her' that you speak about? Your wife? I usually rant on here but not on Facebook or any others like that. If you want to be heard by more people and have more friends on Facebook than on Mylot then go that way. Don't you have a local friend you can talk face to face with there?

Hi neil! That's a really sad predicament you're experiencing now. I don't know about raising kids because I don't have one but I can imagine how hard it is especially with the generation of youngsters today! They are really different with my generation. Anyway, there are indeed topics that I feel safe and secure to talk about here in myLot than in Facebook. Particularly because I don't have my friends here even my family. And in Facebook, all my friends are there as well as some members of my family. And just recently, I ranted something about a bad incident that happened among my friends. I couldn't talk about it in Facebook so I ranted about it here. It's good to be a member of a site where you don't know anyone.

You have explained very greatly and neatly about my lot importance. According to me my lot is for good society, face book is for time waste...

Personally I don't see it as a rant, I see it more that you are a caring father. She is your step daughter but you care about her and kids always feel that parents are nagging when in fact they are caring. Yes I too would use myLot to vent if I did not want others to see it on Facebook. I was told early on in my first few days by GG that myLot is a good place to vent as many are always willing to hear and place humble advise. This was great to hear from her and she is right because I am one who does enjoy chatting and or applying humble advice. For the same reason you mentioned, as I see Facebook more where many want to simply post simple phrased updates and not really caring a conversation and or being all that helpful. I wish you well and know that with time, and yes it does happen more often then not where children actually later in life appreciate all you have done for them.

I do some ranting here myself. Facebook is just to public. At least in mylot only few people get to read and those who read are those who are interested only. Yes I feel safe here.

Do you know the reason for such dreadful behaviour or is it just her nature? Was she very spoiled as a young child? I tend not to rant at all or only in a very small way. I tend to be really nervous about the openness of Facebook just as you described. I'm not really too comfortable in that regard on myLot either.

I used to neildc but not much any more. As for your step daughter, maybe if she paid for her own college classes, she might have a change in attitude. Sometimes drastic measures have to be taken to make one understand that money doesn't grow on trees. She could get a job and pay for her own schooling and learn a few things in the process. It'll be a good learning lesson for her while she's still young.

There comes a time when raising children that you must just let them go. If they have a bad attitude rarely can their parents change that, but life has a way of giving lessons that even the most hard headed of us have to learn. I am glad you said that mylot was safe, I use it that way also and say many things I would never bring up to my family, because I know thay cannot accept how I feel about those things.

I feel the same way you do. I would never post what I do here on Facebook. Almost my entire family is on Facebook and there is no way I would share some of my feelings with all of them! I like it here and I too feel free to open up and share. It is one of the reasons I have not encouraged any members of my family and friends to join. I feel this is MY space and all of yours of course!

hello neil, I feel sad reading about this. And i know you know what i mean,were having same problem. But i guess your situation is a bit worst than mine because she's a girl/lady which is very peculiar having such kind of attitude. Unlike with my situation...it's my son,which is more acceptable and prone in the society. Sometimes we really don't know where we've done our mistakes. Is giving/providing them too much love and understanding is the cause of these? I don't know either. I stopped asking why,and i stopped hoping as well. If they will learn their lesson,good,if they don't let it be. I am damn tired of talking and giving my advice. Sometimes i even feel tired of giving love and understanding. There was a time i want him out in the house...yes i did,i really begged him to go away and vanished. but still he knows he cannot managed by himself...but he never changed at all. I am not talking with my son for many days now dear brother... this is really sad... and people making judgment...okay...let them discipline my son,they're good parents anyway Let GOD's plan works...and let GOD discipline them,we've done our part,and God knows dear brother.

Hi sweetie. Maybe whipping is too late though. One thing you can try. Leave her be. She have to learn on her own then. The hard way. You can bring a horse to the waterhole, but you cannot make it drink. Sorry, you have so much trouble with her. She can be damn glad she doesn't know me. I don't rant here or on fb, i normally keep things to myself, lately.

I hope your daughter will straighten out soon. I do same as you. Very few people on FB know about my mylot and I want to keep it that way. I do not like to write about others, but sometimes I do and try to do it in such a way that if anyone should know me, they would have difficulty knowing who I am talking about. I don't know if I do a good job, but mylot is a secret to most of my friends.

I feel safer and secured here in mylot. I have all the freedom here. Unlike in facebook where its too public. If you want to complain or rant you just can't because some of your friends and relatives would react right away not only on you facebook wall but will also visit or call you personal and ask ans scrutinize. At least in mylot I'm am free to impart my view and opinions even though I really have not known personally the people here.

I believe each and over one has to go on their way, one day she will realize the things she makes the mistakes. It's sad that she's confused to the point of rebelling a lot of things that has happened to every teenagers. I did rant on facebook though even though people notices it and cares for my problems. .

Would have been easier to rant if no one knows me personally but i guess that can't be helped. yes, it's easy to complain here because my family won't notice and saying it to them would be too painful, not to mention it can give them a negative impression again. I am heard a lot more by the people of mylot and mypage5 other than facebook.

I think as long as you have a good reason to rant, you are always safe on mylot. ON THE OTHER HAND, I ONLY GO INTO FACEBOOK IF I WANT TO SEE MY GRAND DAUGHTER'S PICTURES....... I don't know why I can't convince my daughter in law to send them TO ME at my email address...........but no! Oh welllllllll............... I was hacked in Face book and almost lost my whole computer. By the way, attitudes with step kids are never good. Just remember, you are doing things that are good for her and if she doesn't appreciate them now, she will in the future when she gets out on her own. Don't take her too personally. When this ranting comes, do it on mylot and let it all hang out ! We all here on mylot do the same thing. We love each other here and there is room for ranting as long as the language is ok and we are not hurting a mylot member. You seem like a good sort to me, so just rant away ! hugs, quita

There could still be users here who you may know but have not revealed their identity to you. It would be better that there is some reserve than baring it all!

I do feel mylot is safer than any other social networking sites.. Because in mylot, no one really knows you, unless of course, they are already a close friend. I also rant about my problems here in mylot, and never in facebook nor in twitter. Problems are always a secret to me..

I feel much secured ranting or saying what i have in mind here in Mylot. At Facebook, a lot of people could look at what you have ranted. It could backlash on you too, if some people will find it offensive.