are you a transparent person?

@SIMPLYD (74827)
Philippines
July 22, 2011 8:33pm CST
I am. When I am sad, you can easily detect me. I may have a smile on my face, but they said my eyes belies it. I am silent when I am sad. You can tell, because I am basically a talkative and jolly person. When I am angry , I don’t smile at all. I don’t hide it when I am angry. I may not say any nasty word, but you will know because I don’t talk and my eyes and facial expression gives it away. However, at the office i try to hide it, but just can't very well. What about you my friend?
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10 responses
• India
23 Jul 11
If you are in a managerial position, transparent by choice is a good trait to have.Too much transparency means you can be easily manipulated. That has been my experience. But in personal relationship one should better be transparent but should express disappointments tactfully.
@SIMPLYD (74827)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
I agree with you that when it comes to personal relationship we should be transparent to our partners. We have to know if we have hurt our partner so we could correct it. Though yes, in expressing our disappointments, it has to be done with tactfulness and don't forget, in a loving manner.
• India
25 Jul 11
Absolutely. and that is the punch line-"in a loving manner". Thanks.
@SIMPLYD (74827)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
Yes, we should do it in a loving manner or else it will be received in a not nice manner.
@inertia4 (26896)
• United States
25 Jul 11
I am to transparent at all. I don;t let anyone know how I feel or what I am thinking. Ever. I have been told that I am a hard person to read. No one knows whats going on in that head of mine, and I like it that way. I am a private person and I don't see anything wrong with that.
@SIMPLYD (74827)
• Philippines
28 Jul 11
I think i will be scared of you if ever i give you a remark, because i may not be able to gauge if you take it well or not.
@inertia4 (26896)
• United States
28 Jul 11
Honestly? I don;t think you would know how I feel al all. I do not take every remark personal and I do not gauge people that way. I do like it that way though, that people cannot read me. It's better for me. Let me just correct the first line of my original response for a moment. I meant to say, I am Not transparent at all. Don't worry simplyd, I like you, I like all my MyLot friends.
• Philippines
23 Jul 11
There aren't too many transparent person, well atleast those that I know of. Their feelings are all well-hidden. I don't blame them for that because from what I understand, you learn as you grow.
@SIMPLYD (74827)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
Sometimes though, when it comes to being angry, i am transparent depending on the situation that made me angry. If it's something that was not intentional , i would usually just keep it to myself but put on a smirk on my face to the person concerned.
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
Yep, that's the right way to go. You don't wanna appear irate all the time or everyone will keep a mental note that you're always like that.
@Bannybanzie (1398)
• Philippines
23 Jul 11
Well, I must say it really depends on the situation. When I feel bad like I'm sick, it depends on how bad I feel. I remember when I was in a wedding and I'm one of the bridesmaids then I had stomach cramps, it's so obvious.. I can't even stand up.. But sometimes even if I feel bad and I'm w/ other people, I don't want them to see that sadness so I try my best to smile. When I'm happy though, I can't hide that happiness. I just glows from within.
@SIMPLYD (74827)
• Philippines
23 Jul 11
Yes, happiness cannot really be hidden . It really radiates in our face when we are happy. But i am trying to hide my anger now when i feel it. It's bad that others will see us angry. Don't you think so?
• Philippines
23 Jul 11
Hi! Yeah, when we are angry, we must try not to show it. And moreover, not to act based on that feeling.. because it'll do no good.
@maezee (26652)
• United States
28 Jul 11
To a degree! Of course when someone sees another person frown, we will assume they are sad. That's almost a given. I dont' wear my heart on my sleeve at all. I tend to keep things bottled up or at least only express what I'm feeling to the people who it matters to. If I'm angry at a friend, I will likely confront them if it's serious enough where I can't just brush it off. I don't make my feelings known to everyone in the world or all of my friends. I try to keep what's going on in my head private, and for the most part, it works.
@SIMPLYD (74827)
• Philippines
28 Jul 11
Well, you may not be that expressive, but at least you get to express it when it's very much needed already. Yes, it is important that we get to express our anger to the right person , so it could be settled and not be bottled up inside you until you explode, which is not good.
@bounce58 (17550)
• Canada
27 Jul 11
I am a cancer, so I also wear my heart out on my sleeve. Hard as I try to keep my feelings within me, people could readily figure out how I am feeling. Sometimes it is more of an effort for me to make sure that people don't notice how crappy I am feeling inside. I like people who are just like me though. They tend to be truthful, without a lot of BS.
@SIMPLYD (74827)
• Philippines
28 Jul 11
That's true. Because we are transparent, we don't have to be plastic of how we feel specially to a person who has so annoyed us. I , in particular, would really let the person see my displeasure if he/she offended me. If he/she asks me about it, i will tell her frankly. But if she/he will not ask, expect me not to be talking with him/her until she squirms in your seat.
• United States
27 Jul 11
We are exactly the same way, I try to hide my emotions but unfortunately I don't do a good job at it. When I am normally sad or in one of my depressed moods, no matter how much I try to smile and hide I can't. And when I am angry and/or fraustrated it gets even more difficult to cover up my emotion, most of the times I try to keep to myself in order to avoid any further problems, but it gets to point in which I need to vent because if not I started taking it out on everyone that surrounds me.
@SIMPLYD (74827)
• Philippines
28 Jul 11
It's really difficult to fully cover what we feel deep inside. In one way or another, it will radiate, in our action and in our eyes mostly.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
23 Jul 11
i don't think that i have ever considered myself to be a transparent person. i can keep my true feelings to myself and always show how i really feel. when i am angry or happy or sad, i can be more revealing than i usually am.
@SIMPLYD (74827)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
The way i understand your post, you are a transparent person too. Keep it up. As long as our transparency will not hurt others, then we are on the right track.
• Vietnam
23 Jul 11
I don't known myself. I am a basiccally person. When I am sad, I silient or listen a song I like. And I laugh when i happy. I can't deetect me. that is bad because sometime I agry at my friend.
@SIMPLYD (74827)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
It's not good to bottle up feelings. It has a bad effect on health too. Sometimes, we have to be able to express ourselves. But it has to be in a way, that we wouldn't be hurting people in the process. Maybe you can just express your happiness. Happiness, is also contagious.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
23 Jul 11
Transparent as water. When i feel something great like when me and hubby fight and i became sad, it really shows. Even my officemates can tell that i am bothered or something is bothering me. Or when i am happy, it also shows because i cannot help but smile all day long
@SIMPLYD (74827)
• Philippines
23 Jul 11
Would you agree if i say, that most transparent people are basically happy people too?