I'm a better writer than a speaker

Philippines
July 25, 2011 9:50am CST
Why is it that I feel like I do better in writing than speaking? Does it mean I'm quiet, shy and conservative type of person? It's just that, when I'm writing I'm more confident. Simply because when writing, I get to process what I want to say in my mind first before actually putting them on a paper. And maybe the fact that writings can be edited or erased makes me feel more relaxed and safe. Speaking, on the other hand, cannot be undone. When you say it out loud, it's already there. You can't undo it, you can't erase it. So if you say something wrong, or make a grammatical error or mispronounce some words then so be it. Let the humiliation begin. :) I want to be a better speaker though. It's always been my problem: public speaking. I get mental blocked and I start not knowing what to say. Are you a better writer or a better speaker?
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@lucas5 (459)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
25 Jul 11
Well, I am a better writer than a speaker too, but I think that it is because English is my second language, so, I use word or another software to help me to write without mistakes in spelling, but I still have problems with words and grammar, but MyLot is helping me a lot with that, here I can read and "talk" in English, that helps me a lot to be fluently, at least in writing. thank you and have a nice day.
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• India
25 Jul 11
I too think as I am a better writer than a speaker.
@himzey (1321)
• India
30 Jul 11
Absolutely. A lot of people are. You feel more confident when you can process, edit or even strike off the entire line while you write. There is a sense of playing it safe, while presenting ones thoughts in written form as you can always give it a second thought before making it public. But its totally different in the case of speaking. You have to choose the exact words to describe any situation, cause once delivered, they are not going to return; while you can still expect a shoe of a rotten egg. There is no margin for error or any second though. An effective public speaker is made by contribution of a lot of hard work, preparation, presentation, stressing on important points, and confidence, along with the appropriate knowledge regarding the subject. I suggest you should read Harry Lorraine's "Secrets of Mind Power" and also watch the movie "King's Speech". It surely will fill you with enthusiasm and give you confidence to face a crowd.
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@jdex_143 (1094)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
Hi, pinkpiglet! I think, we have the same thoughts about ourselves. I'm a better writer than a speaker. I feel like I can successfully express my thoughts through writing rather than verbally expressing myself. I find this negative. I really wanted to be good at speaking. I hope I could develop myself in order for me speak effectively in front of others. :)
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@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
26 Jul 11
Hi PP! I don't know!LOL....I think I am good in both. Especially in my own language. It is good to think first before we speak or write in. When we need to do some public speaking task we need a preparation first then just go with the flow. Back to my college time whenever I am done with the preparation I just speak the way I want it to as the points are already in my head I just need to elaborate in my own way. It is simple for me to say things which are already prepared. If they simply want me to give an instant ideas or opinions I will likely give open views rather than the specific points as I can elaborate and give explanation more while with the facts I need to find and do more research about it. If I need to speak in English for example, yes I admit that I am still not good in English as it is just my second language,I will feel a little shy to speak in English if it was me ten years ago. Now, since I know nobody perfect and we can say as long as you can understand me, then I just say whatever I like. That is already enough for me but I still polish and get improve my English so it can be better in the future.(^^)
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@mantis36 (4238)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
were both the same.... it is because when you write, there is no one looking at you, yet you are not shy but the adrenaline that slowly distributed to other parts of the body but not totally, it keeps us uncomfortable to speech.... that is the reason why it is easy to write than to speak.... i know it because this is what i experienced it.....
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@thetis74 (1525)
25 Jul 11
I am a better writer too than a speaker. And I speak better when my eyes are closed and think of better things to say if I have some to prepare for a certain situation. I don't even understand it myself. I don't think it is the shyness. Somehow I think we can concentrate better expressing our ideas when our mouths are closed.
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@kingparker (9698)
• United States
25 Jul 11
I am a better writer than I am a speaker. The same deal here, I am worse at speaking than in writing. You pointed out right, maybe I afraid the humiliation, and I didn't train to be a good speaker myself. I would rather be a writer, since I can edit or start over a whole writing again. I think I also start a discussion like that a week ago.
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@Rick1950 (1565)
• Lima, Peru
25 Jul 11
I'm a better writer too and I agree with you because by writing you have more time to respond as by speaking. You can take plenty of time to give a response. There are people who have innate abilities to talk and the rethoric. Others need to learn and practice it.
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Jul 11
pinkpiglet I love your avatar really cute looks like my beanie baby pig. anyway I am just the same way. I can write much easier then I can speak as I am not shy writing and can edit it for errors before I hit post.But when I speak, and make an error it just hangs there for all to hear,no edit button to make it correct. I am a shy person too which does not help in speaking. I am pretty o kay among close friends but others I do get up tight.
@QeeGood (1214)
• Sweden
25 Jul 11
I'm a better speaker than a writer. The words comes in a flow easily. However I always try to think before I speak to say good things. When I lose patience after a whole bunch of failures there are words that should be not said. But I try to blow my horn when nobody hears me. Think before you speak is good. It's like you think before you write your words.
@GemmaR (8526)
25 Jul 11
I have started blogging, because I know that I have a lot of interesting things that I could tell to people but I too am much better at writing things than I am at getting my point across any other way. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. In theory, it should be easier to write anyway, as you can say exactly what you want to and edit it as much as you like before it goes public. When you're speaking, you only get one chance of saying what you need to say and not everyone can think on the spur of the moment like that.
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• United States
25 Jul 11
I think I'm also a better writer.I have more self confidence in writing my feelings down on paper.
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@rappeter13 (5298)
• Romania
17 Aug 11
I am just like you. I hate speaking in public, especially if it is an official thing. If I have to write, I am more secure of myself and I think that I do some quality work there. I wish I could control my nerves whenever I speak in public, but I cannot.
@suni51 (2991)
• India
5 Jul 12
Actually I cannot afford to hate speaking in public because that is my profession being a senior marketing professional, but as I do not get much chance to write being mostly in field job that creates some problem for me when it comes to writing.
@suni51 (2991)
• India
5 Jul 12
Oh I am just the opposite as I am good at speaking but while it comes to writing I make many mistakes. What I feel that I lack two basic things, namely lack of confidence and knowledge of grammar. But god willing I shall work hard to over come every problem. Thanks for your nice discussion.
@nat1_ong (150)
• Guam
5 Feb 12
If you ask me if I were a better writer or a speaker, I would say definitely I am a better writer. Like you, I am also get the feeling of anxiety when speaking in front of many person. I even don't have an eye contact because of my shyness. When writing, yes you could do the editing part so that you could mean really what you have wwrote. Unlike speaking, fast speed of thinking and the right usage of words are needed to employ a good speech.
@ktmatunog (914)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
You are probably way better than me in conversations and small talks. I really don't know how to start one. I am the quiet, lonely person you can find in a group. But still, I am glad that I have some friends who can understand my silence.hehe when it comes to writing, I agree with you. Confidence is a factor. I am so shy to express my thoughts - especially when I am in a strange place or meeting a strange person. That is why I love writing than speaking. But I too would like to ba a better speaker.
@dodo19 (32869)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
27 Jul 11
I have to admit that I too find that I'm a better writer than speaker. I just have an easier time writing things down than speaking them. I'm not sure why I'm like that, but it's just the way that I've been, for one reason or another.
@cupkitties (7158)
• United States
26 Jul 11
Better at writing when compared to speaking to strangers because I do get a little nervous, and shy around them. When it comes to people that I've become comfortable with they both kind of equal out.
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
My dream is to become a dj. But unfortunately, I'm not a good speaker specially in english because that is not my mother tongue. But, i can say that i'm good when it comes to writing because it does not require you to speak continuously and you can edit some errors
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
I am a better writer, I also express myself more through writing and I dont like public speaking either. I used to be like that. But I did my best to conquer my shyness and I am able to. I still think I am a better writer though. Public speaking is not my thing. I dont like to stand on the crowd with all eyes on me. I also noticed that during conversation, i am not a good conversation starter either.