You make me so happy

@savypat (20247)
United States
July 25, 2011 2:41pm CST
You make me so happy. What is wrong with this statement? The truth is only you can make yourself happy, no matter what another does, it's your reaction that makes you happy. This is why it is so wrong to blame our unhappiness or happiness on another.
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@cher913 (25893)
• Canada
25 Jul 11
you are right. you have to learn how to make yourself happy. others just either add or take away to that happiness.
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@dragon54u (31605)
• United States
25 Jul 11
Cher, remember that nobody has the power to make you unhappy or take away from your happiness. You are the one that gives them that power! No one can make you feel happy or sad, you allow them to.
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
29 Jul 11
You are completely right that we are the ones that are in charge of our own happiness. With that said, I think that the relationships that we have with other people do contribute a lot toward our happiness, but it is not that alone that gives us our happiness. I don't think that a person that doesn't have any interpersonal realtionships can really be happy because in the absence of relationships, there is a significant deficit in our lives.
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@savypat (20247)
• United States
30 Jul 11
I don't know, the lives of the spiritual masters show them to be happy and yet they keep their human relationship outside of their personal lives. It has been my fortune to know a couple of these people well and though their love of humanity clearly showed, you were alway aware that their minds were somewhat removed from our shallow lives. These were the happiest people I have ever met, always ready with a beautiful smile or a great laugh. They viewed life from a different place then the rest of us. They saw the play of God
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
26 Jul 11
This concept reminds me of Dr Wayne Dyer’s book ‘Your Erroneous Zones’. In it he discusses at length the fact that all of us are responsible for our own feelings and blaming or attributing someone else is futile. He goes as far to say that we also choose our feelings as we alone are in charge of them. So it is very true no one else can make me happy except myself! A better way of putting it would be, "I make myself happy when I am around you..."
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@savypat (20247)
• United States
26 Jul 11
You are so right.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
26 Jul 11
Hi savypat, Most of us spend almost an entire lifetime before realizing this, and some never do in this lifetime. That is why some people are happy, though they may be living on the street, while happiness eludes so many others. We can all be happy right now if we decide to be. We can only BE happy and it has to be now, because it's the only time we have. Blessings.
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@inertia4 (27605)
• United States
26 Jul 11
I guess you're right. But what makes me happy these days is seeing my children happy. You know, I can see what you mean, yes we do make ourselves happy or unhappy by our own actions.
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@rameshchow (5284)
• India
26 Jul 11
It is mainly comes in between couple. Commonly the lovers can use this word, to highlight the importance of their loved ones role in their life. But, it may go wrong, time can change their opinions as negative. They have to stand on it always.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
26 Jul 11
We are our own special individuals. NO ONE can play our role better than ourselves. It is we who create our own emotional rhythms.
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@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
hello pat, being happy has reasons, or unhappiness for that matter. your emotion will depend on something, so when you feel happy about someone giving you something (be it a thing, an object or anything of value to you) then you blurt the words out. i guess to inform that the gesture or the person is appreciated. ann
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• Philippines
25 Jul 11
I do agree that no one can make me happy except myself. For many years now, i have been living alone, although there are family and friends, and my son, but they are far away. Literally I am alone, but not lonely. What makes me happy is that I have job, although I can not get rich with this job hehehe, and I have family to mingle, friends to laugh with, and my son who inspires me.
@GardenGerty (98100)
• United States
25 Jul 11
I feel happy when I am with you, though, because it is what I feel, not what you do. We do get the things we say really twisted from time to time. We choose how we feel and whom we feel it for.
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
25 Jul 11
Yes, our happiness depends on us.When couples break up, they often blame their partners for ruining their lives and say phrases like:"You made me the unhappiest person in the world".It's spiritual immaturity.Like the most popular lie:"I'll promise ,I'll make you happy." We need to take the responsibility for our happiness and stop blaming others for things they can't control.Bravo, Pat. Good observation.
25 Jul 11
Right on the money with this statement! too many people play the blame game these days
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@dragon54u (31605)
• United States
25 Jul 11
It took me so long to find this out! I was in my 40's before I discovered that I can't rely on anyone to make me happy, not my children or my husband or my friends. Once I realized that my life got so much better!
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