Why people dont understand the simple meaning of No

India
July 26, 2011 5:56am CST
I always think that anyone force me for some work or anything. If I feel not comfortable with that then I say strictly no to them. I cant understand why people not want to understand the meaning of No. They always force us to listen them and do what they want. Share your views what should I do to escape.
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11 responses
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
Some just wouldn't understand it even if you say "No" too many times already. I think it's because it's playing in their minds that they need you to say "Yes" that they start hearing "Yes" instead of "No" from you.
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
Yeah, we feel punished that way but we can avoid it by just explaining to them why we said "no".
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
Yeah, we feel punished that way but we can avoid it by just explaining to them why we said "no".
• India
26 Jul 11
Yes you are right they want to listen yes only .but we feel punished in that situation. thanks for your view ,i also feel like you.your opinion is very correct.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
27 Jul 11
Hi Bholebaba, I understand its annoying sometime, but I would say you never say No. Rather show it in actions, killing someone in silence is best way. You turn deaf ears and the attitude will let them know. Just practise it you will find its working.
• India
27 Jul 11
wow great thought but practically it is very hard. Thanks for response.
@brew2x (3094)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
Some people are persistent especially if they are required to. Like for those people who are selling things, they have to try to convince others to buy because they are relying on their jobs for the money.
• India
27 Jul 11
yes your opinion is true.but i talk about our nearone's. thanks for your opnion next time i make my discussion more discriptive.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
Because some friends or other people think that they right and they want us to listen and follow their advice. Well,just listen and never say a word,esp if they are your friends. Though sometimes it is so hard to control our feelings and we tend to say a word that might hurt them. jaiho®
• India
26 Jul 11
yes you are right we do yes and then feel regreting .and when we get out of control we hurt them.but i try to make it easy . thanks for your comment.i think your friends are lucky because youthink about them.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
26 Jul 11
Great discussion really people not understand the meaning of no and the reason behind this why we are saying no. They wants to force to do the work which they want even our heart is not ready for doing this. If this situation is happening in between with you and your family then no chance to say no but if your friends or other than family member someone is forcing you then you can say I dont want to do then why I will do.
• India
27 Jul 11
yes you are right. I also adjust with this type of situation but i feel people has to understand others situation or view.
@macayadann (1235)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
You have the right to say no most especially it is against your will. If they do not understand you and it is their opinion that they want to be obeyed then just give your side in a manner of not arguing and leave them alone after that so as for them to think for themselves what you have reasoned out. If you do believe that you are right and have the right then you will be given the option and that is if their pride is not too high. Do not insist if they are really closed to positive opinion because they are really acting that deaf and blind stand.
• India
28 Jul 11
Yes friend you are right I also try to manage the situation but after that leave on them.thanks for your response.have a nice day...............
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@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
26 Jul 11
ugh I am always tied up to situations like this. Mostly because I can't say no to anyone, I feel bad. And partly because like you said people just won't stop! I don't know what part of No they don't get!! Me, I seldom give the NO but still it's unheard of
• India
26 Jul 11
thanks for your commemt, my situation is just like you .I also dont say no and then regrete myself.
@waflay (2737)
• Nairobi, Kenya
27 Jul 11
It always happen when your are YES! person and any deviation from normal causes this misunderstanding. This was my order in my life, growing up in a village that expected every child of someone to be a property of relatives. I used to loyal to them, jumping to their calls and working my muscles to the ground...but when I refused to, they expected me to give a reason for that. If you train people to use you, then they will make sure they exploit your humbleness
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
It depends on who you say no to. If you say no to your parents and they think you're not doing the right then they will not accept no for an answer... If you know you are right, then you have to defend yourself... if you find yourself unfair then you have to accept they are right.
• India
27 Jul 11
hi friend , you are right that if your parentsare right we accept but my view is they also understand our feeling and we should also think about our parents. thanks for your opinion that you share with me.
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
11 Aug 11
I know what you mean _
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
14 Aug 11
Nice discussion friend yes I also not know why people not understand the meaning of no.. My husband always give me work to do and force me to do that but never thinks that I am busy in other household or I am tired. Then I feel much disappointed.