My dad is cheating and my mom doesn't know it.

@jonahh08 (261)
Philippines
July 26, 2011 7:53am CST
My parents have been married for 25 years and I don't want to ruin it by telling my mother about my father's infidelity. But I did talk to my father, I told him that if he don't leave her mistress I will tell mom. He said it's over between him and the woman but I don't if I'll believe him.
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@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
26 Jul 11
Hi, First at all, I'm sorry to Hear That. This is really a difficult situation for you, I feel what you feel. But however life must continue. I hope you can find a solution to your problem with your father. Family problem is a complicated issue for us to discuss, but at least, a lot of advice will you be able to be tackled immediately. I think what the natural father is already common in long marriages. Maybe that second puberty. I can only give support to you to continue struggling to cope with your father. But keep this from your mother. Do not let your mother hurt. Good luck friend
@jonahh08 (261)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
Thanks Gengeni. Im trying to keep this from my mother because I care about her and I don't want anything to happen to her.
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@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
28 Jul 11
Yup, we all care about your mother. Good luck
• United States
26 Jul 11
I hate to say this but you were wrong to do that. You should have stayed out of it now you know something your mother does not know. I would have told my mother before anything. Now you took her choices away from her. she could have chose to set him free. How do you know your mother would not be better off without a cheater in her life. I feel bad for her now knowing she was put in this position.
@jonahh08 (261)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
I don't want to have a broken family. I love this family. That's the reason why I'm doing this. My father swore that what happened between him and the woman was just mere flirting. I gave him the benefit of the doubt. He promised not to do anything like that ever again. Well, everybody deserve a second chance.
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• United States
26 Jul 11
That is true but I love my mother all that much and would never keep that from her. she deserves better. I would never think about myself and what I could lose. But that does not mean you should I am like a sister to my mother and she is my very best friend. so this is why I say this. Take care.
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
You did the right thing. Now,if you feel that your father is still having an affair,you can also talk with the mistress. And if ever you will confirmed that you father is still having connection with the mistress,at least him a last warning. I am sure your mother will be devastated if she ever comes to know this. Be strong...your mother needs you. jaiho®
@jonahh08 (261)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
Thank you Jaiho. I'm praying for the best. Whatever happens, I'm always on my mother's side.
@celticeagle (118255)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Jul 11
It is rightfully your father's place to your mother such a thing. But if you know imagine how many others probably know and if it were you wouldn't you want to know? I certainly would! There comes a time in a man's life when he wonders and goes through a change of life.
@rameshchow (5284)
• India
26 Jul 11
You mother have great patience. You have to support her. And clearly explain to her.
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
This is very sad. Temptation is really hard to resist. 25 years being together was not enough to ward away temptation. Well, you must confirm your hunch first before you make your action. It is a disaster if your father was truly repented and the burst out the story to your mother. Tainted trust is hard to clean you know. Better be sure than sorry. If in case you proved once again that your father was doing the did again, I believe your mother has the right to know. It's up to you how you will tell her the news but please be sensible. Good luck.
@ddaguno (3110)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
My goodness! If I am in your spot I wouldnt know what to do. My dad is so deoted to my mom and I would be devastated if i find out that he has a mistress. I would probably keep my mom in the dark too but i might not be able to forgive my dad ever.
@vivamir (673)
26 Jul 11
That is a right old position your in.. Im sorry your in the middle.. But if your Dad isnt happy..he should be man enough and talk to your Mum- I mean 25 years and he disrespects her like that!