"I LOVE YOU" is a statement, not a question.

Philippines
July 26, 2011 7:55am CST
I love you is a statement not a question, don't expect an answer, it doesn't EXIST! I accidentally read that quote while surfing the net, and i want to share it to you guys.. people often ask for replies when they say i love you. but i want to wake you up.. it is not a question, it is a statement which you gave, hoping that a positive feedback will come. people are getting anxious over statements.. like.. "what if i tell her/him i love him/her but she/he wouldn't response to it".. what the!? why are you even expecting a reply when it's not a question! Do you love him/her? a simple question, but when you read it.. someone was in your mind.. ^_^
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15 responses
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
I admit it is not a question but if someone who close to you telling you that phrase, you owe to him/her a response even though it is not a question. It is a statement but full of power to get your attention and push your feeling to response to it. I think no problem to reply or not but best thing is to reply...
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
I guess there's a lot of people thinking that i love you is a statement i agree to what you said.. that it's a statement full of power to get your attention and push your feelings to respond.. i created this discussion in hoping to waken some of the people who are on cloud 9 when they see their crushes, they tend to be blind, and unconsciously demand a reply to a feeling expressed.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
I observe same specially girls pretending nothing heard and even moving her head unable to give,they ignore the power of the word love who spoken to them.
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
true.. some girls are like that, especially if they don't like the person, and they don't know how to respond to them verbally, i guess their response was their gesture of "not interested".. it's a harsh response though.
• United States
26 Jul 11
This can be both a statement and a question because if you ask yourself or the person you love then its a question but if you say that you love that person then its a statement which is justify as logical...
• United States
26 Jul 11
It depends on the way you look at things and observing it through your mind...think things over and you will see for yourself that it can be a mystery to solve...!!!
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
In reality it is a phrase but require or asking you a response because get your attention - once you move your head towards the concern that is considered response even though it is not a question.. depends on you to response or not
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
yes flagaz.. clarify things to her.. to baby girl: you should read what flagaz wrote.. it will help you..
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
Absolutely! Saying those 3 words is not asking or waiting to be acknowledge. If someone we love responses and say the same word...that's a bonus. But expressing those 3 words is our free will,without expecting an answer or reply. jaiho®
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
A simple reply, but goes straight to any readers emotion.. best response so far.. :D
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
@ Vidh, When i hug and tell my kids " i love you" I am not waiting for an answer. Yes,their hugs and kisses are bonus...and will always be the best reply than words.
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
@ KnightMare, thanks for the br mark and appreciating my response jaiho®
@jemzchix (116)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
but people so love to hear back an "iloveyou too"... so, automatically, it's not a question, but it needs to be answered.. one of the many cases of phrases that needs answers, even without it being delivered by the person as question.... and on vice versa, even the person who said that would expect for an answer, right? how would you even feel saying those words without any answer???
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
this discussion was started because to clarify to those people who expects an answer if they say i love you.. if you were to ask me. expressing my feelings comes first like saying i love you.. and if get a positive gesture or the sort.. then i will ask "do you love me?". my point is. the question comes after the statement, so the statement itself is not a question. i love you is quite a powerful statement that it makes the receiver wanna respond, be it good or bad.. but it is not a question. so therefore, if you say i love you, do not expect a response.. why?.. `coz there is no ? on the last part of your sentence.. :D
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
Possible my friend Knightmare question first before the statement like this, you have relationship with somebody in one situation you ask "do you really love me?" then you can say next statement me, I love you, even the other concern not yet answer to your question - but the posibility was there..
@koperty3 (1877)
26 Jul 11
Before I said to my current partner that I love him it took me all year. My previous relationship wasn't happy at all and I was scared to make any statement. First time I said that I love my partner when he was very sick and I was scared that I will loose him and he will never know what I feel. That was very scary but very magical moment :)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
hi koperty3, thank you for sharing your experience.. yes the statement i love you is not as easy to say if you're the one saying it.. it's like a sweet poison killing you silently if you don't let it out. sweet because whenever you think of a situation on ways of saying it to him, you find yourself giggling and having butterflies in your stomach.. truly.. that 3 words which came from your mouth.. which your partner first heard from you.. was the one that saved him.. "I Love You".. a simple statement which resonates the soul of an individual and uplifts the feelings of others.. A truly magical Words.
@koperty3 (1877)
26 Jul 11
Oh my... you are really talented. Did you think about writing poetry? You seams to understand feelings quite well :)
@jonahh08 (261)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
I remember someone told me those 3 words and was looking at me like I was some coke in a vending machine ready to drop. I just said "well, thank you", after that he left and didn't even walk me home. Haha.
• Philippines
28 Jul 11
hahahaha.. he should be here and read this discussion.. poor guy.. tsk tsk tsk.. hahahahaha
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
Hmmm ya its a statement not a question. Next time i will not expect to hve a respond when i say that magic word. Thanks :-)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
hahaha.. Glad to help.. you should read the other's response.. it's nice
• India
27 Jul 11
I love you is not a question to be answered by the loved one but rather it is a deepest expression of one's heart. For this the boy or a girl need not respond compulsarly as if it is a very serious thing to be note of, rather, think of the greatness of love and its values where the feeling of love just takes you to the heavens. Today the expressions of love have taken many wrong paths and going to the extent of spoiling the boy or a girl.
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
YES!.. i totally agree with anything you said.. can't say or argue anymore, since you also agreed with me.
@diala84 (139)
• United States
27 Jul 11
I think we expect an answer because to say "I love you" is very personal and can potentially change a relationship for better or for worse. Even though it is technically not a question it would be like telling your best friend a very deep, emotional, sad story that you haven't told anyone else about your childhood and they don't respond at all. You would feel very vulnerable and would wonder why you told them in the first place. You wanted feedback, you wanted affirmation and acceptance. You never asked "What do you think about such and such?" but it is implied. And the same goes with "I love you" it is implied that you give some response if you feel the same way. At least the first time you say "I love you" to someone you want some recognition and some sense of how they feel as well some confirmation to make sure you are on that same page and the relationship is equal. Even if the answer isn't "I love you,too" as a response at least a hug, kiss, smile, or simply saying "I'm not sure" is a hell of a lot better than standing there with no response at all. In everyday speech we imply a question all the time without saying a question. When someone says "thank you" you reply "your welcome". When someone says "my boyfriend just dumped me" you console your friend with kind words. That is what you do for the people you care for you read between the lines and answer the questions that are asked as well as the questions that are implied.
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
just like what i told some of the mylotters who responded here.. it is not a question but a statement. you should not expect a reply.. but you can hope. i agree.. what's bad in saying i love you is the after effects. if you say i love you to someone, your relation will either nourish or fall apart, it is a gambling statement. usually if someone tells you that, you will respond, as to it is a simple yet very powerful statement which will trigger your emotions, and send you flying if you don't confirm something. but like what i said.. not a question.. but a statement, which others are instead of hoping.. "EXPECTING" a reply. the bad about expecting is, when you expect a reply and don't get it, you will feel sad and down. that's why this discussion is created in helping others realize what needs a reply, and what needs time.
@jdex_143 (1094)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
Yeah.. It's not a question though but it needs a reply, I guess. When someone tells a person "I love you", he/she hopes for an answer. I think, there are sentences or phrases that may not sound like a question but it needs a reply. How about when somebody tells you, "come on, let's eat!" It's not a question, right? But it does need an answer. Anyway, if someone says "I love you" to you, you can answer it with whatever that goes to your mind.. But of course, as humans, we are considering the others feelings. So, we better be careful of our responses. :) Have a nice day! :)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
i agree with you with a statement, that needs an answer.. just wanna clear it though.. please don't demand an answer.. XD.. yes as human we really do consider others feelings, but there are others that just isn't human, their emotions was.. hmm.. how should i say this.. was that of a zombie, not considering other's emotion. aside from dumping my friend, she also belittle him in public.. tsk.. But don't get me wrong.. i agree with you on you reply.
• United States
26 Jul 11
"I love you" is a statement, but I think some people expect an answer because if there is no response to that statement it's awkward. The person starts to wonder if the other person feels the same way about them. If there is no response then people tend to assume that the other person does not feel the same way. It's hard to put yourself out there and I guess it hurts when you don't get a response after professing your love for someone. A response doesn't necessarily have to be a verbal answer, but I'm sure there will be a response regardless. It could be a pause, awkward silence, a kiss, or the person saying I love you back, or I don't feel the same way. All of these are responses to the statement, and they all can be interpreted different ways.
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
i think it's the effect of modernization, people or most guys nowadays are very impatient, and tend to make a gesture demanding a reply. some people are scared of losing their face. yes it's a statement that "demands" a reply without being asked. but people should know that it is just a mere statement and nothing more.. all i want to emphasize in this discussion is that people mistakenly think that it "NEEDS" a response because it is a "QUESTION". but if you're thinking that way, i can't argue with you.. you know what i meant.. :)
@lgpc92 (3)
26 Jul 11
Hi Knight! I had a mixed reaction to this. On one hand, for me, "I love you" is a statement; you're putting your emotions out there. But another part of me believes that saying "I love you" would mean expecting a response (just like any other form of communication). I don't know, that's just me putting my opinion out... :)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
Hi Lg.. expecting a response is different from asking, asking is in terms of science is physical, where as expecting is just within you.. first.. when you say i love you to a person.. it's just a plain statement.. no question marks involve.. a sentence is not a question if you don't put question mark on it.. do you agree?.. secondly.. as what visavis is trying to tell all of us.. I LOVE YOU is a statement, full of power, emotions or feelings, that it thrives the receiver to respond.. make them (receiver) responsible to respond to it.. but it is not a question..
@QeeGood (1214)
• Sweden
27 Jul 11
"I LOVE YOU" is a very encourage statement meaning different things for each individual human being. Love can be interpreted in as many ways as there are human being living on Planet Earth.
@zerd87 (301)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
yes I agree with that. I love you is a statement. it is not a question that needs to be answered. Maybe you should ask first when saying I love you if you don't know the answer.
• India
26 Jul 11
Yes. it is a statement of your position.