Would you still pursue a person you like even if he/she is already attached?

@chiyosan (30206)
Philippines
July 29, 2011 10:51am CST
By attached, i mean that the person is currently in a relationship.. but of course not married. I mean i have heard quite a lot of third party reasons for break up and i wonder why would this happen if people who knew that someone being attached, why would still a third party relationship occur? Or do you believe that there are just people who are not giving respects to others and would just only think about how they feel and not consider other people's feelings too and would even go out of their way to be happy no matter what... and break relationships? thank you! =)
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13 responses
@bouncybug (615)
• South Africa
30 Jul 11
I would definitely not go after someone knowing that they are already with someone else, no matter what the situation. Having been cheated on myself, I know what it is feels like to have that done to you, and I would not wish that one anyone! So if I had feelings for someone who was attached, I would try my best to not act on those feelings until he became unattached, or else I would continue to look elsewhere for a relationship.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
17 Jan 13
Great to see you in the discussion! I hope to see you around, thanks for your response and see you around the site, have a nice day! =)
• United States
30 Jul 11
Some people pride themselves on being "homewreckers" with no sense of others feelings. Sometimes a person just can't help it. You can't help who your heart loves. I think that as long as your not exclusive in a relationship and everyone is aware of each other this is ok. There should never be a point in which your hiding anything in a relationship. It always ends bad if your a liar!
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
17 Jan 13
Great to see you in the discussion! I hope to see you around, thanks for your response and see you around the site, have a nice day! =)
@chiwasaki (4661)
• Philippines
30 Jul 11
I would not pursue a person I like if he is already committed. If he is happy with someone else, I'll definitely let him go. I don't want to ruin a relationship. And I don't want that to happen to me.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
17 Jan 13
Appreciate your response to the discussion, im happy that most of us here are not after their own happiness. thank you very much and have a nice day! see you around the site! =P
@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
30 Jul 11
Hi chiyosan! I would never pursue a guy that is already in a relationship! I don't have the heart and I don't have the guts. I have a shame. If I put myself in the position of the guy's girlfriend, I would be definitely angry to the girl who is still pursuing my boyfriend even if she knows he is already attached. And I don't want anyone to get angry at me just because of a guy. And it would feel like I'm bringing down my pride for pursuing someone who is already taken. I mean, there are lots of other fishes in the sea, why would I waste my energy on trying to ruin a relationship? I don't think I would do that. Those who do it probably have their own reasons. I am not judging them. They might really love the person and they don't want to have regrets in their life if they don't pursue their feelings.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
17 Jan 13
Its great to have you in the discussion SECRETBEAR, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=)
• Philippines
30 Jul 11
Hello chiyosan,I will never intervene if their relationsship is going well. I respect the guy of course. But by the time their engagement turn to bad because the of the guy's linking with others and I feel for the woman that's the time to move. Thank you and happy weekend.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
17 Jan 13
Hello there! thanks for your time in your response to the discussion. appreciate your sharing this to us... hope to see you around and have a happy mylotting day!
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
30 Jul 11
Hi chiyosan, Since there is no such thing as true love so if i want someone badly , i would try to reason with my heart dont go over board and since the other person is in relationship, then dont try anything funny and get in to problems. So no i wont like to break any relationship but i might wait for them to break on themselves.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
17 Jan 13
hehe thanks for that response, i mean it is sure a good feeling to know that there are like you people here in mylot that would purposely break someones relationship.
• United States
30 Jul 11
As far as the third person goes, it is pure selfishness! You wouldn't want someone pursuing your boyfriend/girlfriend right? So, why would you do it to someone else? A phrase to always remember in this situation is, "If he/she will leave the one they are with for you, they will leave you for someone else" or "if he/she cheats with you, he/she will cheat on you" As far as the attached person goes, again selfishness! You wouldn't want your spouse doing it to you, so why do it to them? Then again, if you are not happy in your current relationship, end it and move on to the next. You can not be pursued by another, unless you have made yourself to be available to be pursued.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
17 Jan 13
Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
I wouldn't want to force myself to other people. The thing is if they don't want me then that's fine, I'll just look for someone else. I got dumped like a thousand times before but that didn't stop me and I found my current girlfriend. I'm so happy being with her right now.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
17 Jan 13
that is quite good thinking of you, same as mine and i really think we should never really deliberately or purposely hurt someone so we can get our way. Thank you for your time to reply to the discussion. appreciate your effort in this. have a great day and see you around the site! :)
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
29 Jul 11
Being in a relationship is a non committal affair. Though it is inappropriate to lure a person away from his/her partner but nobody can stop the heart from falling in love with someone's else partner. But if the person to be pursued does not respond to the enticement of the other guy then nothing will happen. The worse scenario is for the attached person to show a positive reaction when she knows that she is being pursued. Then there will be a a love triangle where the best man wins.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
17 Jan 13
he he oh there will be love triangle if all would allow them to be such. Great to see you in the discussion! I hope to see you around, thanks for your response and see you around the site, have a nice day! =)
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
Sad to say there is a person who do like that and they are inconsiderate coz only they know is their own feelings. But what they can do? they are just human who feel the love but in a wrong time... they are also has the right to be happy, the thing that go wrong was the situation of both. One is taken already and the other one is being inlove but still single. What can do? sorry for them and let the love they feel waste by time and try to sob for tears until the time for them has end? Anyway this is just a question in this situation only.. Let us think if we are in these scenario and we are the one who are in love but as i said they are not free.. what can we feel... we also take this as heart broken. If I am asking.. i prefer to let my feelings go for it at least i feel in love and happy with him for the meantime then after that i will let him free and wait for my time to be with the Lord. Or if we can arrange i will still at the back of him supporting him in the very best as i can... until my time has ended. Still loving him is my happiness!
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
17 Jan 13
that's true, i have known quite a lot of girls and women who finds it challenging to engage in such and come in between relationships. Great to see you in the discussion! I hope to see you around, thanks for your response and see you around the site, have a nice day! =)
• South Korea
29 Jul 11
As long as two people really love each other I dont think they could even think about of their situation..even though they dont wanna hurt anybody.. sometimes it just happen.. I think if the feeling is mutual..why not try to fight for it..as long as that person is not married..lol
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
17 Jan 13
Thank you for your time to reply to the discussion. appreciate your effort in this. have a great day and see you around the site! :)
@petersum (4525)
• United States
29 Jul 11
All is fair in love and war, so goes the saying. You have to tread carefully but if you feel the person is worth the effort, and perhaps you can stand a little aggravation, then sure - go ahead. It's a standard hunting instinct. We always feel that we are better than the other party, so there is no harm in trying to prove it.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
17 Jan 13
haha, then i guess it should be at our best effort to try to keep our relationship. Appreciate your response to the discussion, thank you very much and have a nice day! see you around the site! =P
@cupkitties (7493)
• United States
29 Jul 11
No. Its all on the nature of the relationship. If they're not dating each other exclusively and no promises to each other then I think its safe to go for it. Those are just my opinion though. Some people are of the mind that if you aren't married you're still on the market.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
17 Jan 13
oh well, depends on all of us then. thank you for your response! :D have a great day!!