being me

@verolop29 (1096)
United States
July 29, 2011 10:59am CST
I can't wait until school starts for my daughter, she will be going to kindergarden again and I think she's ready this time! We all felt it was in her best interest to retake the kinder level again because of several factors one being she can't speak right and she's slow which isn't bad but for her to go to 1st grade in that condition was just not fair. Now she has made progress! I have always been with her I have never allowed her to be in day care of go to play groups. In a small way i now think that I have somehow deprived her of something important. Did I? I always believed that with me being a new mom and new to motherhood and everything I thought that I had to raise her. It's not anyone's else responsibility but my own. Being someone who cares for siblings is very different from caring for your very own child, I think! I look back to what my in laws' family and my family and what they're doing and i shake my head sadly thinking (to myself) how sad for them to not be there for their own child. Some really dont have a choice but for those that do have the choice to stay home and care for the little one they dont want that choice. Y? I know one person that couldn't stand to be home and take care of her own kid, it's not about affording to its just that she didn't want to? And Im saddened by that. She missed a lot by doing that and sometimes she tells me how could I do what I do. and to me it's simple. I just do. I loved staying home and teaching my kids everything in life. I mean no disrespect to anyone. If u want to work by all means work! But dont complain about not being there when she utters her first word, takes her 1st step ect. and u know, if u cant be there then have whoever is caring for ur little guy/girl, have them make a small video clip or something so they can show u what u missed! But we are all differnt and that's what makes us unique! For anyone who has been in this kind of situation i give u kudos! that means i give u a thumbs up! and if anyone wants to add to this(u know ur own experience) feel free!
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
29 Jul 11
I am not yet a mother, but when I become one I want to be there for my child. I want to be able to take care of my child and be there for their first steps, their first words, every first they have. I understand some mothers have to work, my sister does, she wanted to find something she could do online but never did and so she works. She works hard too. Her kids are 5 and 11 though so are in school / starting school this next year coming up. I don't understand those mothers who don't want to be there at all, it's like, why have the kid to begin with? Why not put it up for adoption after giving birth to the child?
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
29 Jul 11
Your not a mother yet?! U could've fooled me lol! with the way you think u'd make an excellent mother! My sister had to work hard too. Shes a single mother of 3; 7,11,and 13 somewhere around there! I dont get her though! She now thinks her kids dont need her because they're all grown...i told her they still need her but she dont seem to take heed to my warning. She works 4 days outta the week and she has the rest off so she spends that time drinking instead of spending time with her kids. I remember having them over for the sumer one year and we did everything together and Ariel my neice told me something that tore me. She said'mom doesn't love me, does she..and she went on to say how they fight and argue all the time about the way she is...she told me she wished i were her mother because she thinks of my husband as her father. It tore my heart apart. Gabby gets mad when i try to speak to her about it. shes like veronica u dont know what its like and all this stuff and im like thinking to myself..then y put urself in a position to disapoint urself? she made that choice and there are consiquences to EVERYTHING WE DO! I apoligize for being too personal, i hope u dont mind..
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
30 Jul 11
For me yes it is your choice so be good to be what you are because Jehovah God will gave you more blessing to his holy spirit.