How do you explain a miscarriage to a 5 year old?

United States
August 1, 2011 2:04pm CST
When a 5 year old little girl is looking forward to her new baby bro or sis.. then their is a miscarriage... how do you explain it in their terms? ... thanks for your input please take a moment to look at my spanish/english christian videos on my website God bless..
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• United States
2 Aug 11
My sister went through a few miscarriages before she had her first baby, so she never had to tell a child about it. But it's still a very hard situation and my heart goes out to anyone who experiences one. I think the best thing to tell a 5 year old is that their little baby brother or sister went up to Heaven. Maybe tell them God saw the baby and loved it so much that he wanted it.
• United States
2 Aug 11
Ooo that's so sad. You could tell her that God wants her to stay with her family, because he has a lot of plans for her. And that God might some day give you guys another baby.
• United States
2 Aug 11
Good answer ....thank you. I am concerned because she wants to be an angel to be with the baby. Does this mean I have to die? So you see my dilema...
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
3 Aug 11
Miscarriage is heartbraking for a lady and her husband. Her five year old son or daughter would know mom has a baby that will be born in a number of months. Explaining that the baby is now an angel in heaven would be the best thing to say. The little girl could have a baby female doll to soften the blow of this awful news. A baby boy could have a male doll and a blue toy buggy to push. Then he or she would get some practice before the lady successfully gives him or her a baby sister or baby brother. The lady might feel really depressed after having a miscarriage. She would have to make sure the 5 year old child feels happy and is not too upset by the terrible news.
• United States
3 Aug 11
Thank you for your comment. I like the buggy to push that is a really great idea. Something to look forward in the future...
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
That's just sad. All the more sad because the 5-year old is expecting and excited to meet her new sibling. Anyhow, perhaps you could just tell the little girl that the baby is so very special that God wants to spend more time making him/her to be perfect. I know it's a white lie, but I can't tolerate disappointment twice (miscarriage and now breaking the news to the little girl). All will be well. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
• United States
2 Aug 11
Thank you yes...it difficult to be disappointed especially in a child eyes... she was looking so forward to the baby but I guess it was not meant to be.
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
1 Aug 11
I actually had a friend go through this same thing. I agree with what everybody else is saying. Tell the little girl that God needed the baby right now because the baby wasnt ready to be here. It's a very difficult situation to try to explain to such a young child what's going on when they are looking forward to something. My heart and prayers go out the the family involved. Try keeping her distracted with some other activites and just guide her attention away from it when she brings it up.
• United States
2 Aug 11
Thank you that is a very good idea...trying to get her active ...once in a while especially when she prays" take of the baby in mommy's tummy" sometimes I am lost for words.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
2 Aug 11
Oh this is very sad I'm sorry for what happened to you. I think that talk with your child. Tell him that now the baby can not come will come later after a year or two. just talk to him even if there are children who mogta you understand. must own ancestors because each child is different. I wish you success and forth. nice day!
• United States
2 Aug 11
Thank you very much...yes every child truly is different .
• India
2 Aug 11
Iam very sorry for you.Though i did not go through such an experience but can really understand your feelings.Explaining some things to children is such a difficult task that we need to put all our creativity to do.Tell your baby that God had some special plan made for they both so he would give the child when he has done all the arrangements ready for they both to enjoy that special plan.Gift her with some pretty things so that she gets engaged with them and I hope she would soon forget about this mishap.
• United States
2 Aug 11
Thank you..Yes trying to keep her busy. For the most time she forgets, but now and then she remembers and it breaks my heart to see the tear in her eyes.