Is it good to mix friendship and business?

@34momma (13896)
United States
August 1, 2011 4:32pm CST
My best friend introduced me to Herbalife. When i tried the products I fell in love with them. I knew that going into business with Herbalife was something I needed to do. She and I talked about in length and we both knew it was a great idea. I told her I was going to start looking for spaces. I don't know if she thought I was serious because it a few days I found a space for us to rent. I was making deals and getting things done. Yes things moved really fast, but I knew I was making the right moves. I noticed she was getting really nervous. So I just decided to back off of her and do things on my own. Right before I opened she came and signed a renters contract and was suppose to come give me the rent today. But of course this is the second time that she flaked out on me when it came to paying me. What do you think I should do.. Does friendship and business ever really work?
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@weasel81 (2502)
• Australia
1 Aug 11
Isn't herbalife a work from home product? I know it is in australia. It's a hard call on things, but sometimes it is better to do something by your self instead of risking the friendship. But then if you go with your gut instincts, on if you feel it is going to work out right. I work for someone, but dont have much to do with them. expect when it comes to work things. our kids go to school together as well.
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@34momma (13896)
• United States
1 Aug 11
Herbalife is a work from home program, but i decided to make a store front so people in the area can come in and get their meals and purchase products. It's only been 3 days and so far so good as far as people coming in to have meals and buy product. i know i was thinking if i should just tell her that we will just be friends and she does her own thing
@weasel81 (2502)
• Australia
1 Aug 11
good to see your going well then, it's a good product. i just cant stand the shakes, but would use everything else. it mite be for the best, you both do your own thing. maybe she can come in a help when you need it? then you can both have a good old chat and coffee. best of luck
@fannitia (2170)
• Bulgaria
1 Aug 11
Hi, 34momma, I'm not good in this and I've never done my own business so I have no experience. But I have witnessed a few stories around me. They are all about friends who decided to make a business together and ended with a fiasco. Some of those people broke their relationships, others are not friends anymore. I can't say if this is a rule but what I've seen points out that it's better to make business with a total stranger that with a close friend. And in your case things seem pretty clear. If you have the courage, you better do it alone and fingers crossed we'll see your success after some time!
@34momma (13896)
• United States
1 Aug 11
fannitia, i am praying that things work out. she is such a great person and not having her with me would be heart breaking. but this is something i am going to have to think about for sure
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
1 Aug 11
All businesses have risks... so whether you are alone or with a partner, the business has a risk of succeeding or failing. Business is about taking risks and its all in your hand to be able to succeed. But entering a business with a friend, is also risky. I am scared to enter in one. I can't risk the friendship. I think having a friend for a business partner will be difficult since you will be compromising a lot, you have the risk of doing that because you are friends... But it will also be worth a try. You just both have to put things professionally and put the friendship in a different box. You have to see each other as business partners when you are working.
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@34momma (13896)
• United States
1 Aug 11
you are right. we need to sit down and talk about this whole thing. My friendship with her is way to important to risk losing because of this business. I love her dearly and rather just be friends if it's going to cause a problem!
• United States
23 Aug 11
Hi Momma! Sorry for responding so late as I was away for a while and still going through email alerts. lol I have found that business and friendships at times do not work well. One can be friendly but ultimately business must come first. It can work if both are business minded and understand that there are not true hard feelings with decisions. This can only work if both are striving for a good thriving business and can put personal feelings aside when it comes to day to day business issues. I think that if it cannot be worked out then going off on your own would be the better route. Good luck as I know you are very diligent in having your own business and I am hoping you are very successful with it.
• United States
2 Aug 11
IN my opinion, I believe that in business, you will make friends and you will make enemies. Like a poster stated earlier, it is going to be a risk either way. HOWEVER, if you're starting a business with a friend... it's very important to have clear communication as to what your expectations are (on both sides). I believe that a lot of reasons friend-based businesses don't work is because they think business is laid back and light hearted and that they're still friends while in business. I would suggest making sure your friend is a real friend and then realize that while at work, you guys are to keep everything legal so no under the table business favors. that way, there is no confusion. hope i helped
@pahak627 (4198)
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
that's bad. if she's your friend then she won't fail giving what is due to you. In some, friendship and business work for them but for you it seems different. I guess you might have a talk with your friend so that there will be no misunderstanding in the future. that's only what i think.
• India
2 Aug 11
You are saying that you have recently taken the advice of your friend and seems you got a great change for yourself which made you get the idea of Herbalife right? Well as you mentioned that you have started implementing the products and now you have decided to get a seperate business profile for that. You should first talk more to your friend and ask her whats restraining her from helping you out. When you talk it out you would come out with many other scenarious also to find out what's the bets solution which botn of you are quite comfortable with. That way you will know her ideas and views and vice versa also. If things moved fast then no doubt your friend would be nervous. Better take it slow and steady as this maybe the first time that you doing this business. You should confide in her and when you didn't did u think about the fact that you might have hurt her? She obviously has some problems with paying the money because she thinks this might not be a good idea or maybe she can't afford it now. Talk to her. Make her feel comfortable with this idea. Then you will see that friendship and business would go hand in hand only! Cheers!
• India
2 Aug 11
I dont think that business and friendship should be mixed as both r different things and can make the relationship sour ,so better to keep both away from each other
2 Aug 11
i think it's better if friendship and business is seperate, some friendships are destroyed if they mixed it with money matters. like that if you're friend is your business partner how can you confront her about that that she will not get offended.
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
It's not all the time that these two collide in an unfortunate manner. There are also some times when friendship becomes the helpful factor in making the business a successful one. It all boils down to the attitude of the involved parties. Friendship should still be put aside when it comes to business, so that the attitude of each other toward business would be as professional as possible.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
2 Aug 11
Since the things are moving fast and on a positive note do not look back. Yes the risk and the friendship are at stake, but you can make it clear to your friend that she encouraged you and you both together can do well. The profits as well as the expenses need to be shared. Also firmly tell her she should also be making the payments and keep a record of it and later both of you can sit down and sort out. It is very difficult to handle the friends when they become business partners. My husband had a very bad experience as his friend will take the work out of my husband and never bothered to pay. Whenever he asks for it, a small percentage is handed over. Now that friend is not in India and my husband is on his own so even if the friend / partner is in or out, the show must go on.... best of luck.
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
I guess you just have to set the rules before you continue to make business with your friend to avoid further complications in the future. It's also good to discuss some rules ahead so this won't break your relationship as a friend. Good luck to your business and God Bless!
@maezee (31573)
• United States
2 Aug 11
I have a co-worker who used to sell those Herbalife things. I was slightly interested in it but it seemed expensive and I also wouldn't want to get my money involved with a co-worker. I think it's a scary idea to get business/money involved with friends. It can break friendships up. I hope your friend comes up with rent soon..
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
1 Aug 11
I would have to say no to this more chances than saying yes to the question. Friends become such a different person when it comes to work and money.