Why is it so hard to live life?...

@cathzuya (187)
Philippines
August 3, 2011 6:48am CST
I just want a normal life. my life is typically normal. i don't wanna get rich and all like that but why is that life is so damn difficult?... we have just had a pretty hot discussion here in our house. a fight that is. let me tell you about me, i'm 27, turning 28 i still don't look like my age though, i guess. i'm single for more than a while now. i don't know if i ever get to have a relationship in the future coz, come on, in my age now, that i don't have one? what more if i get too old, right. i don't even understand why. suddenly it gets to this. i'm a loner, deep within me. like when i'm with everyone else, its as if i don't mind whats gonna be of me in the near future or if i even encounter a problem in life. i'm still staying with my parents. my job is not promising so i have to wisely spend my moeny. and that i need to support my family.. if i will think of today, the present, i guess this is more like i want to. but when i'm thinking, "what about the future?..." i suddenly felt a burden on my shoulder. that i feel like i'm alone.... sorry for sharing this. just... this downfall feeling... whatever.
5 responses
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
3 Aug 11
idk but to me it sounds as if ur depressed. when i feel that way i just keep busy so i dont have to think that way sure im married but it feels as if im alone. my advise to u is dont look for love, it'll find u. trust me dont do anything that ull regret. i have had numerouse times when i wanted to mess up u know like do something that is TOTALLY NOT ME and i ask myself y do it now whats it gonna change? sometimes u just have to change, u know?!
@cathzuya (187)
• Philippines
7 Aug 11
that's my problem. i can't help but those thought haunts me whenever i'm alone. well yeah, i guess that's being depressed... and about the marriage thing, my parents often asked me, 'when will you get married?' even i don;t want to think about it, it just being at my age here in our country, people expect that i should already a married woman now. hahaha.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
7 Aug 11
haha thats not funny! ur so mean! i mean that in a nice way! dont u think ur friends or parents want u to be happy! just be like ok im looking for mr perfect he just havent stoped by..yaade yaade ya! u know?! just be glad they arnt trying to hook u up with a man who didn't like girls! my mom was glad i didn't listen to her!
@cathzuya (187)
• Philippines
7 Aug 11
ehehehe. well, if they would try to introduce me with a man whom i wouldn't know whether he'll be interested in me or the other way around, that i think will be interesting. we might end up being friends.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
3 Aug 11
I understand what's you means, if you don't want to get rich, then it is impossible for you to have a typical normal life, that is why you are feeling life is so hard to live, all you need to do now is try to be live rich and cheer up, then every thing is start to make sense for all these miserable event happen to you.
@cathzuya (187)
• Philippines
7 Aug 11
i mean not being rich like having tons of money to spend. i don't really like that. i have lots of friends around me, its just that whenever i'm with them my thoughts suddenly diverted to whatever. the thought of worrying about something else is being vanished and i know that good. at least there were times like that. but when i'm alone, i suddenly gets to think about the future of mine which is like blurry at the moment... well, i still think its pretty normal. thanx for dropping by.
3 Aug 11
hey cheer up, we all have our dawnfall moments. :) I can see that you are experiencing the quarter-life crisis where in you are torn in a transition between being an actual adult and being the child of your parents. The real world would dictate you to go out there and start your own thing, earn your own money and yes, it is somehow a necessity. However, you do not have to push yourself to do it. If by anyway, it would feel wrong, stop immediately for it will not help you in any way. What field are you really good at? If you hone your skills and develop more of your interest, I believe you can find a better job, something that you passionate about. :) At for the moment, please do not rush. Hurrying will only bring you disappointments and frustrations. Take your time on everything: doing your work, sleeping, waking up in the morning, taking a shower or eating your cereal. :) Tell me more of how it goes, Good Luck and God Bless. :) xx, ria, batteries not included.
@cathzuya (187)
• Philippines
3 Aug 11
yeah, thanks. but its not that i don't want to be separated with my parents and start a new life as an individual, its just that, life here in our country is more difficult. labor is in crisis, any types of field i can get to will always be this way. unless i became the boss. we're just renting our house. if i'll do my own and start looking for my own pad, cost will be higher., y'know. bills will get doubled so better stay here. and its common here to stay with the parents even you're old enough to separate.
• Philippines
4 Aug 11
Dear, don't be so EMO! Being 28 and single is awesome! I mean, sure you don't have someone to share things with at the moment, and you're missing the "growing up" part of relationships. But when you think about it, you don't have to be with anybody. Furthermore, love never stopped at a certain age. It's not like wearing little kids clothes where it's no longer appropriate at your age. Or even going trick or treating where it's a little too late to be doing at your age. And inappropriate! ;-) Love isn't like that at all. You can fall in love any time. That is, if you want to, and if you're willing. Believe it or not, you will have a relationship with someone in the future. Instead of feeling down, think about the good stuff that's happened in your life. Friends that you hang out with. Outings that you've been to in the past. Secrets that you shared with friends. All the good stuff. There has to be something that you've done in your life that made you smile. And if that's true, then it only means there's more to come. Don't worry about what you don't have. Be thankful for what you DO have. A place to stay, time to spend to yourself. You have a lot of opportunity to be creative, to paint a picture, to see a movie, to mix a recording of you singing your favorite song, to write in a blog and make money off of it. there are so many things you could be doing. And you know it!
@bettydeng5 (1709)
• China
4 Aug 11
Life is realistic, some rich people are very richer, however the poor people are very poor, though they still work hard and do overtime job, that's unfair. We should have a positive and considerable mental life, with full of energy, and feel the life is beautiful, don't be upset. You will be better if you have a good mood to face life. Support you!