Do you think before you respond???

@sjvg1976 (18407)
Delhi, India
August 3, 2011 11:43pm CST
Hello MYLOTTERS, Sometimes when i read discussion it seems interesting but when i just try to respond on it i don't find words to write down and go to the next discussion.DOES IT HAPPEN WITH YOU?? Or do you write whatever comes in your mind??? I read many discussions daily but when it comes to responding i could manage to respond to only 40% of those.DO YOU ALSO FEEL SO??? Or you always respond to the discussion you read?.
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• Bangladesh
4 Aug 11
Same thing happened to me.I tried to response whatever I read,but its really hard to response sometime for myself.I could not find the sentences to express. So,I keep myself just for reading. Same thing happened when I got response from others.I could find reply words and I feel same that I could response him.
@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
4 Aug 11
Hello Dabang, This happens but i feel to read discussions is also not a bad thing at least we can have FUN by reading those. Yes it happens with me too when i get responses on my discussion it sometimes become difficult to comment back.
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• Bangladesh
4 Aug 11
Sometime I can not comment because I do not understand native english. Ya,I used to read post and responses and learnt a lot from those and searched on different topics though it was posted 6 0r 7 months ago. As I am new,I tried to learn how to make a post interesting and reading is the best way to capable off
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
4 Aug 11
Hello dabang, Don't worry as ENGLISH is also not my first language but you will develop writing skills from MYLOT if you get involved in the discussions. You will definitely go up on MYLOT as i can see the potential in you.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
4 Aug 11
hello sjvg, I happens to me too. The topic and it's content is good enough and also caught my interest. But when I start typing for my response,suddenly it is caught in mid-air and I just don't know what to type next So,I ended up leaving the page and goes to next Maybe,I am just too excited that words come rushing to my mind and I can't trap everything to write on (hehehee) have a good day jaiho®
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
4 Aug 11
Hi di Search for a response from someone close and resopnd in a playful way as mostly you do... dont stress that small box called brain... it may short circuit
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
4 Aug 11
hey sids Absolutely, that why I cannot respond well to any topic that content some seriousness. Because I am use to response with a playful mind your Di is getting older yet kiddie in mind uh uh (hahahaa)
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
4 Aug 11
Hello Jaiho, But i like your way to respond to the discussion as these are lighter & makes feel good. @ Thesids i do that sometimes when don't find words i check out the responses and then get some clue to respond to it.
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• United States
4 Aug 11
I always try my best to leave a response that has been completely thought out. There is nothing I hate more than when I start a discussion and get a response such as "good topic". Sometimes I skip over a discussion because I can't think of a relevant response, and sometimes it is because I really don't understand what the person is trying to say and/or ask. Therefore, I usually read many more discussions than I respond to.
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@rog0322 (2834)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
4 Aug 11
Hi rmore, Same here. I always read around to get the flow of the discussions. From there, I always get the idea and thoughts all around. I find it more easy to read discussions than to start one. After a while, I always learn something good.
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
4 Aug 11
Hello rmorefield & rog0322, I also find it difficult to respond to almost all the discussion i read.But sometime responses which are posted by others also help to respond to the discussion.I also basically read discussions & i feel its always not necessary to respond to all discussions. Reading discussions also gives pleasure & fun.
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• Philippines
4 Aug 11
Yes, this happens too to me. I usually let the flow of information into my mind and start from there. Whenever I processed the information from a discussion my mind will go to work, creating what I would respond to in this case. I experienced just getting into the processing stage then my mind didn't functioned for the creation stage. I do notice that it happens to me whenever I was previously busy before mylotting or whenever I had many things in my mind at the same time. I don't respond to all the discussions I read because some discussions happen to be more interesting or make me inclined to reading it rather than commenting to it.
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
4 Aug 11
Hello Agent, I also find it interesting to read discussions & responses as main motive here on MYLOT is fun for me and i do get it by reading also not necessarily i need to respond it. Definitely it happens when we are not focussed we tend to loose thoughts/ideas while responding discussions.
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• Philippines
4 Aug 11
Yes it did happen to me also. When i find the post title interesting and wanted to respond to it but unfortunately no words will come out on my mind. I just then go to another post. But if ever i know hw to respond it i definitely going to look for that post so i cna respond.
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
4 Aug 11
Hello igatiful_badass, Sometimes it also happens that the thing which i have in my mind is responded by some else before me then also it becomes difficult for me to respond on that particular discussion.
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@isloooboy (1740)
• United Arab Emirates
4 Aug 11
Well without reading no one can reply which is natural thing. Once I complete the reading and get understanding what the topic is about than I don't think hard to make a reply, I just go with my thoughts and its natural flow. I never try to make some extra, heavy, thoughts but just go with my nature. But sometimes when topic is related to some serious and thoughtful matter than Yes I think before replying.
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@isloooboy (1740)
• United Arab Emirates
4 Aug 11
Hi Sunny, well Ramzan bring peace of mind for me, Sure why not get ready for it :D
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
4 Aug 11
@ isloooboy Hmmm... but i beleive we should be thoughtful as it should contribute to the discussion.
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@isloooboy (1740)
• United Arab Emirates
4 Aug 11
Yes it must contain some thinking process and some times nice question raising which can take discussion to further knowledge :D
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@akp100 (13325)
• India
6 Aug 11
HI It happens with me too. After reading and writing some words for response I just skip the discussion and go for the next one. Its just like you mentioned, that not finding proper words. May be its a common thing for all.
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
7 Aug 11
Hello AKP, After long time i have been seeing you were you busy with offline work???? When i was starting this discussion i thought as if i am alone who thinks like this but when i saw the responses i came to know that most of the people think like this and its just a normal feeling. But now i have started book marking those discussions and now i come back again to those discussions as now after some time gap new ideas come in my mind so that i can respond.
@akp100 (13325)
• India
7 Aug 11
Best way.. Yes I was busy with my offline stuff. And wasn't at home since more than week. But now I am back to home again..
@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
7 Aug 11
Did you go out of station due to some offline Job work.
@GardenGerty (102534)
• United States
5 Aug 11
Some days I feel that way a lot. Or sometimes it is just the same old thing, and I do not want to respond. I think if I am tired that is a problem as my mind is not as sharp and I really want to be appropriate and I definitely do not want to be rude or unhelpful.
@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
6 Aug 11
Hello GG, It happens with me also that i want to be relevant to the topic thats why when i see that my response is not contributing i just delete it and move on to the other discussion.And its good that i do not write a response than to have a bad response.
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@GardenGerty (102534)
• United States
6 Aug 11
I really enjoy participating in meaningful discussions, so most of the time there is something for me to respond to here at MyLot.
@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
7 Aug 11
As i have few interests so i have less number of discussions available for me to respond to.
• United States
12 Aug 11
Hi there, Many times as soon as I read the topic my fingers and brain are in sync and I can respond immediately. There are times I read a full topic and the responses and not respond, especially if I don't want to duplicate then I won't respond. There are many topics that I can read specifically to read and be informed and not respond to daily. Really depends on the interest and or if I really have anything useful to respond with.
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
12 Aug 11
Hello HWG, Thats true when i also see it that there is little scope for me to write in response i also feel its better not to respond.I always prefer not to respond to topic which are not of my interest.Sometimes it happens when i am not in a mood to write i simply read discussions and responses.
@anurag3786 (6275)
• India
5 Aug 11
I think it is a very good discussion. Because there are many person who always think before posting any discussion or before posting any response. If I talk about me then sometimes I think when I find any really good discussion. But mostly time I never think before posting any discussion or before posting any response.
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
6 Aug 11
Hello Anurag, Before starting discussion i was in doubt whether i use to think a lot while responding but after reading responses of most of the MYLOTTERS i am sure that i am not alone there are lot of people like me & its a normal feeling. But it seems you are different & thats also good thing because when you don't think there are chances that you put true response but when you think a lot there are chances that you manipulate response.
@vivamir (673)
5 Aug 11
Hi sjvg1976, Its funny that you bring up this particular topic, as when Im reading through the discussions I feel like I have something to say on the post, but when it actually comes to typing it.. Its like, should I say that?. Or the most popular (*with me*) is, thats not the right kind of opinion..so then I skip to the next discussion.. LoL Now..I just respond to what I feel comfortable typing back to..otherwise there is no point in commenting if I dont feel like my words are not suitable. (",)
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
7 Aug 11
Hello vivamir, Thats right always i also try to respond to those discussions only on which i feel myself comfortable to respond otherwise i leave that discussion & try to see it later as after some time span i may get some ideas to share with people.
@webgirl01 (693)
• United States
5 Aug 11
Hi there! how are you? Yeah, sometimes its hard to find the words we write down. it has happened to me, i guess I'll go back to the discussion if i can't find anything to say yet. I also write whatever I know comes to my mind. Sometimes I respond to the discussion that I read. I guess we are in discussion block if we can't think of what to write about on discussion or how to respond to it. Move to the next one and then go back to the other one when you get the chance to respond.
@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
7 Aug 11
Hello Webgirl, I am fine dear. Yes its always better to book mark those and come back to those discussions later on as then we may have words to respond to those.
@APSC_girl (119)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
i know exactly what you feel on your first statement. It happens to me always. Sometimes I just write and write whatever it is that comes off ym mind without thinking at all if I have the right spelling or grammar, I just need to let out all my ideas before they disappear. But there are times that I think first before I respond. Sometimes, there are days that whatever discussion I read, I just respond and respond and just saying whatever it is that I think about the topic. It just really depends on my mood.
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
7 Aug 11
Hello APSC_girl, Welcome to MYLOT Family. When i was new to MYLOT i also don't use to think a lot whatever used to come in my mind i used to write as response but lately i have developed this habit to check my response before posting it.And i also think sometimes it depends on my mood.
@SIMPLYD (83173)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
As i read the discussion, i already have answers in my mind. But before putting them into writing, i would still ponder on it for a moment to see if my answer is appropriate to what is really being discussed.
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
7 Aug 11
Hello SIMPLYD, Thats always happen when i don't read the discussion properly to avoid such moments i try to read discussion thoroughly but the problem is that i don't find words when i try to respond to it.
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
Yes I do. I have to make sure I make the most sensible response as much as possible and avoid coming out stupid. It is embarrassing to make unnecessary mistakes.
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
7 Aug 11
Hello Larena, Welcome to MYLOT Family. It is better to not to respond than to respond irrelevant.I always do that if i see that my response is not good enough for the discussion i simply close the tab and move on to the next interesting disc.
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
This happens to me a lot as well. Though, before I usually try to respond I already think about how I'm going to start the response. I usually think about the first two lines and then just go from there, though there are really times when I just get a blank and instead of posting the response, I instead just delete it altogether. I am guilty of not really reading through the discussion as well if the topic sentence already gives me some ideas on what I could comment about it. I also don't really all of the discussion of the author if the discussion is very long. I guess there are times when we just have a blank and could no longer go on with our line of thought after a while. Which is why I tend to type really fast in order that I could express my thoughts. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
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@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
It is only fair for the one who post the question to think before we comment on them. I do think before I type, I also find difficult questions to answer, but I make sure I answer something before I leave that question.
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
6 Aug 11
Hello pbbsra, Thats right we always should think before we type our response and there should not be like that you ask questions you should give answers to the questions asked by the discussion starter.
4 Aug 11
i only respond to those topic that i do understand, but like you sometimes i dont know what to respond because i cant put my thoughts into words, maybe because im not that fluent in english, thats why... well i just hope they understand everything i wrote.
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
5 Aug 11
Hello flowerfest, Participating in discussions here on MYLOT will surely improve your language as am i also getting benefited by it.
@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Aug 11
hi sjvg I usually do but it does depend on the discussion I read and if I know the topic so I can respond with some intelligence or not. If its a family issue and I am familiar with it and have some helpful ideas then yes I will respond.I do think first as writing down just whatever comes into my mind is not a great idea. think always before writing anything.
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
5 Aug 11
Hello Mrs hatley, Thats good to think before we write.Always i also select the discussions which i feel by responding i can contribute else i read it and go on to the next discussion but sometimes i know that i can contribute to the discussion but still we cannot words to write.
@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
4 Aug 11
Yes I do think before responding. I mean whilst reading the discussion, the response comes to my automatically. But then again there are times when I have absolutely no idea what I'm writing LOL happens most of the time when I'm beat.
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
4 Aug 11
Hello Thatgirl, Thats right it happens when you are not in good mood or focussed at particular time but it becomes normal with the experience as you tend to select only those discussions which you feel you can respond with ease.