August 4, 2011 6:01am CST
hi i want to ask some advise from you guyz... i have a boyfriend..at first i don't know that he is married already..i didn't notice it.. until i got pregnant and he don't want to marry me until i found out that he is already married. by this..he and his wife got separated and choose to stay with me. i accepted him not because i still love him but to the fact that i need him to stay to support my daughter... my conscience kept on bothering me because her wife and first child was neglected already. what i am going to do? please help..
4 Aug 11
Considering that he chose to stay with you, that means he's concerned about you. However, the fact that he didn't tell you about his first wife means that he was not 100% serious about your relationship. I'm not saying that he doesn't love you, but would you really be able to love someone outside your marriage? But, also think about this: there has to be a reason why he involved himself in a prohibited kind of relationship. I dunno, probably there could be some conflicts in their marriage. While it's true that you have to consider your child's welfare, for now, the best that you could do is to be a good mother and a partner (if you're married, a wife), and that try to make something positive out of your situation. That way, whatever happens in your relationship, you'll still have your child, with whom you'll have a positive vibe with. With that kind of communication between you and your daughter, even if it's only gonna be the two of you, you'll still be happy together. And she'll be happy with you.
5 Aug 11
But you didn't know about it, right? While it's true that you did something wrong, it's not like you intended to do it, right? If you knew about it before, then you would probably have left him (with a broken heart, of course. You loved him anyway).
5 Aug 11
I understand how difficult this situation is for you, it would be best to think about your present situation and let your partner deal with his past. I know that this is difficult to do but he chose to stay with you and you are having a baby. Thinking about these things might affect your pregnancy, it would be best clear out of any stress inducing situations until the baby is safe.