Bingo..

United States
August 7, 2011 9:53am CST
If you paid for someone else to play a game of bingo, would you expect to share their winnings? Here's the scenario. We have a 'girl's night' every so often with me, my daughter, my mom, and my sister. Generally we go to bingo, then a restaurant afterwards for snacks and drinks. Last year we did this almost monthly, but this year we've only been twice. Well I'd been craving a bingo night for the past few weeks, and this past Friday was my mom's birthday, so I thought Saturday would be a great bingo night. My mom told me she was too broke to go though, so I offered to pay her way so she could still enjoy her night out. She promised to pay me back. So, we go to bingo, I spent about $90 to get the 4 of us our cards and some drinks etc. Then, on the very first game I won $30. After I won I told my mother she did not need to pay me back. I was happy that I'd won some of my money back. Later in the game she won $75. So we got to the restaurant and she gave me her winnings. This was her paying me back. I told her she did not need to give it all to me. But she did anyways, and I used all of it to pay for our food and drinks at the restaurant. So in the end my mother went home with nothing, but technically did not spend any money and still had a nice night out. All in all I spent about $60 and also had a nice night out.. and didn't spend quite as much as I thought I would. I feel bad that my mother could not keep her winnings.. but she would have repaid me for what I spent on her had we not won anything.. even if I refused to let her.
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@lilybug (21148)
• United States
7 Aug 11
I would not expect someone to share their winnings with me and I would not expect someone else to expect me to share. I guess you could look at it this way. You paid for everyone to get into Bingo and your mom paid for the restaurant afterwards. I am glad you were able to have a girls night out and have some fun. You have seemed pretty stressed out lately, so I am glad you were able to relax for at least one night.
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• United States
8 Aug 11
I have been really stressed. I can't figure out why. It could be a combination of everything.. probably is. Worried about my grades, the kids all home and driving me nuts, worried about money still, and then the job that I'm starting to hate and the hunt for a new one. I suppose all of that together could drive anyone nuts! LOL.
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
8 Aug 11
I am pretty sure people have gone crazy under less pressure than you are currently under.
@bunnybon7 (36551)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Aug 11
ooohh your mother is just a very nice thoughtful person and very just and then some. it shows that she has raised you to be generous. she knows you dont have a lot to spend and appreciates that you wanted to be generous anyway. how sweet.
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• Philippines
7 Aug 11
That's a nice way to put it. At least your mother still had a great time even though she did not receive any winnings. I think it's a better way, though, if we share the winnings to them. If that ever happened to me, I'd still want a part of the winnings even though I wasn't the one who played it.
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@GreenMoo (11842)
9 Aug 11
I wouldn't expect someone to pay me a share of their winnings, but it would be a really nice gesture. I think the way that your Mum dealt with it with you was just perfect. Everyone benefited and you all had a nice evening out.
• United States
9 Aug 11
The last time we'd gone out to bingo was in February when I still had some of my tax return money. I treated my mom because she was broke. She won $40 and so did my daughter, I didn't win anything. I let my mom keep her $40 and I paid for the drinks afterwards. I also let my daughter keep her $40 and spend it however she wanted. This time money was a bit tighter for me, so I didn't hesitate too much to take my mom's offering.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Aug 11
I would not expect to share in their winnings, but if they offered the way your mother did, I wouldn't turn it down either.
• United States
9 Aug 11
If we hadn't won, I would have been dipping into our savings to cover the snacks and drinks. But hubby told me not to care about money and just go have fun.. so I did.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
8 Aug 11
Hi kats! Congrats! I never win anything!lol I am happy that you and your mom are getting along and are able to spend time together now and enjoy yourselves. I think that alone is worth alot. I wish I could enjoy being with my mom, but she is to bitter and mean and only cares about throwing the past (and present) up in my face! I was supposed to go to Florida to see her, but she decided she didn't want me to come. Be happy that you can have fun with your family. I think it was really nice of you to pay for everyone and even better that you all won some money and enjoy yourselves even more!
• United States
8 Aug 11
Sorry to hear about your mom. My mom and I only get along in small doses really.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
8 Aug 11
There is no need for you to feel bad about this. If I was your mother I would have been happy to pay for the snacks and drinks etc and I believe that she was happy too. I am glad that you all had a good night out
• United States
8 Aug 11
Yeah, I need nights out more often, LOL.
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
12 Aug 11
When I grow older, I would wish my kids would also take me out for a night-out once in a while. And when they do, I would also try to repay them back for whatever amount they spend on me. If I win something, I would also give it all back to them. Just like a good parent, just like what your mom did.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
11 Aug 11
Though this hasn't ever been the case when I've gone to bingo because everyone always has their own money when we go to bingo. However, when one person buys lottery tickets and lets another person scratch them off, if the card is a winner, beyond the amount that was paid for the ticket, the winnings are split between the person that bought the ticket and the person that scratched off the ticket. We've done this in our family since before I was old enough to buy lottery tickets.
9 Aug 11
It depends as usuaully we all pay for our own tickets but, as I have been taking my mum out a lot lately (as she cannot drive) she pays for our tickets and then we split the money 50/50 that we win. In fact we also had a small win the other day. I won £50 on a table game and then on the books my mum won seventy so we each got £60 which meant my mum broke even but, I had a bit more than I started with! In fact we are going out again today and will probably go to bingo at the end of the evening!
@minx267 (14570)
• Hartford, Connecticut
9 Aug 11
I Think I would have only taken back the money she would've paid you back.. especially as it was her birthday.. she should have gone home with some money... Maybe you can put it in a card and gift it back to her.
@Maryr817 (58)
• United States
8 Aug 11
I think that everything turned out well. Sometimes you meet people who only care about money money money. In this case all I see is sharing and love. Everyone had fun and enjoyed there self and both of you even Bingo! I never get a Bingo so I would have been extra excited. Glad to hear ya'll ladies had a blast!
@TrvlArrngr (4058)
• United States
8 Aug 11
That's what families do. lol. She doesn't want to take your money. Mom's are happy just to get invited out by their kids. You did well!
• United States
8 Aug 11
It was really nice of you to pay for her and then to spend the winnings on more things for her. Believe me, the fun time she had with her family was worth a lot more than te 75 dollars she won. I think in any situation that involves something like this it would be very important for the friends or family members to establish BEFORE anything is paid for, whether or not the payer expects to get some of the winnings. Personally, if I found myself in your situation I would expect to be at leats paid back what I had spent (unless of course, like for you, it was a friends or family members birthday). I'm glad you all had fun!!!
@Rosa26 (2620)
• United States
7 Aug 11
I think I would expect they share with me if they win, everybody else but my mom, because there is no way that my mom own me something, she gave me her life, her proction, all what I am is because of her effort, but anyway you know the mothers are she gave the money to you, because that is the way the mothers are their happines is just to see their daughters and sons happy.Blesses.
@margeryann (1853)
• United States
7 Aug 11
I give my son money sometimes when we go to the casino. We don't go very much and we only gamble $10- $20 at the most. Sometimes he has his own money and sometimes doesn't so I give him $10. I don't ask him to give it back to me though if he wins since I offered to give it to him and didn't ask him to give it back to me but maybe if he worked I might want my money back if he won and he could keep the winnings but I don't know since I haven't been there before. Your mom is a real sweet person. It sounds like she was thinking about how much fun she had more so then how much money she made and felt that you deserved to have the money.
@jillhill (37384)
• United States
7 Aug 11
She did what made her happy...and yes she got to enjoy a great night out on the town at no expense! It was so nice of you to invite her...pay etc.
@miller1978 (1104)
• United States
7 Aug 11
A friend of mine & I do this quite frequently. However, it's usually me paying, because she doesn't make as much so it's easier that way. The last time we went I had told her I would like to split if either of us won anything (even though I paid) & we both ended up winning. I told her to keep her winnings & I would keep mine. I don't remember the exact amounts, because it's been so long (again). I think what your mom did is very generous. She most likely appreciated that you took them all out for Bingo and then to the Restaurant. I agree with an earlier poster to look at is as if your mom paid for the trip to the Restaurant. And it seems that you were brought up very well to have a good time together & share.
@GemmaR (8526)
7 Aug 11
I played bingo for the first time online just one week ago. I saw a promotion in a magazine that offered £20 when you made a deposit of £10 into your account, so I chose to take advantage of that. When I was playing the game, I only won twice. Once for £22 in one line and then also won the jackpot in the same game, which was £180. So, altogether, I made a profit that day of almost £200. I withdrew this amount into my account and am now saving it along with the other money that I'm saving for the deposit on my house. It just goes to show that even the most "normal" of games can surprise you when you least expect it.
@pumpkinjam (5774)
• United Kingdom
7 Aug 11
You shouldn't feel bad if you know your Mom would have repaid you anyway. You didn't ask for it and you didn't expect it. It was kind of you to do what you did and your Mom obviously appreciated that so you should feel good that you were able to pay for her to go out, not bad for taking the money off her.