Conflict with supervisor

Malaysia
August 7, 2011 11:52am CST
This started with her approach to know my name. So I told her my name is Wendy. But she kept on forgetting and calling me "ooi" instead. That's rude and then big thing happen. We argue. I want to stay on the job but she wanted me to leave. I asked why but she couldn't get me an answer. I said it was prejudice, right? She then told me I was a mother f***ker. What a malay lady!
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18 responses
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
8 Aug 11
Actually you don't need to argue with her since she can't remember your name, if she keep calling you oii, you should pretend that you never heard anything until she call you name correctly. At least she need to respect you when she call you even though you are her subordinate. Some time, they though they are boss but actually they are only work with someone. and does she have right to terminate you? I don't think so...
• Malaysia
8 Aug 11
With the power and good talking mouth she had, I think most probably bosses will trust an upper staff more than a lower staff. She wins and I don't care. Life is not a bed of roses.
@Maryr817 (58)
• United States
8 Aug 11
That was RUDE! I hope she was not suppose to be your supervisor with a attitude like that. If so here social skills suck! I don't blame you I would have corrected here in a heart beat if I wanted my name change I would do it myself ;) Start lookin just in case but in the mean time silence kills :)
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@lydiab (33)
• United States
8 Aug 11
Well the mf comment is way over the top. Have you filed a grievance with upper management. Even if you think the head office won't do anything file a grievance, keep a copy and document when you sent it in. If you haven't already document to the best of your memory all the times this supervisor has mistreated you. Write down the dates and times. You can take this to your area employment board if there is one where you live. I don't know where you live but see if you can sue her for verbal abuse. Know your rights as an employee don't sit around waiting for someone to take your job from you. When a supervisor get's away with abusing an employee usually it will get worse if nothing is done. I wish you the best with this issue
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@surekharathi (14134)
• India
8 Aug 11
Ohhh no really the hopeless women. She not knows how can speak with a person. But friend leave it because we faced this problem more time. We are good but others is not good.
@Jlyn10 (10919)
• Malaysia
8 Aug 11
Do you think you will still be happy working there with her around? Whatever it is, she doesn't have the right to ask you to leave as she's only the superior. Just talk to your Boss about her and see what he says about it.
• Malaysia
8 Aug 11
She said want to fires her but I request not to as everyone have to have a job to survive. I request my senior supervisor to let her change her attitude. Meanwhile I will go look another job because I wouldn't want to face her everyday at the office. It seems like I am sacrificing myself but I would want everything as it is when I have not work there yet.
@Jlyn10 (10919)
• Malaysia
9 Aug 11
Ok, it seems like a good choice. But leave only when you have found another job. At least now you know that the senior supervisor is on your side and not hers.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 11
Oh please Choi yee..Even if you feel very bad please mind the other malay members here.... Anyway may I know is it the new workplace that your friend introduced you in your previous discussion??? She is indeed not a good woman...A supervisor should not do that to her co-worker. Can you report it to your boss???
• Malaysia
8 Aug 11
Yes I do care about other malay members. I told my senior supervisor already about her behaviour and request her to promise not to fired the supervisor. But to change her attitude.
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@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
9 Aug 11
I thought everyone in your office are bad seems they always make and gives problems to you but your senior supervisor respond make me think that there are still good people in there.So don't feel so frustrated about your job.
@KrauseHome (35507)
• United States
22 Aug 11
Wow!! This is unreal. Is she your Boss, or just a Supervisor? Personally I would think that this type of reaction is VERY uncalled for, and should be worth reporting to your Boss, and hoping something Good can come from this. Is this a company with a lot of turn overs? Sounds like this woman has a low self esteem and should not be in the position she is.
• Malaysia
23 Aug 11
Yes. Upper management often lay off level down employees. I don't think I should be the one though. I did nothing wrong.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
11 Aug 11
Wow, is there a way that you can file harassment charges against that woman because calling you that while you are on the job is something that is completely unacceptible. In fact, if my supervisor was to ever call me something like that, they would never see my face in that place of employment again. I understand that you'd like to stay on the job so that you have the money that you would have been earning, but you don't have to put up with being treated like that.
• Malaysia
11 Aug 11
Yes I have to make money in order to survive. And she made my life miserable.
@garson (886)
• United States
19 Aug 11
I remember that she called you 'stupid'. I don't know how often, but I don't think this place would work well for you. Did she really say that you are a m f? I know it's easy to say, but it's better you move on to other places.
• United States
12 Aug 11
That doesn't sound like much of a person nonetheless a supervisor. What's wrong with her simply saying something like "I'm sorry what is your name again?" We have alot of employees by me and they are hiring more all the time and if someone doesn't have their name tag on I have to ask them what their name is as it takes a while to learn names if you don't work with the same people that often. And in most places that kind of language is not acceptable in the work place. I would perhaps discuss things with your human resources person or their supervisors boss.
@skysuccess (8881)
• Singapore
8 Aug 11
wongchoiyee, To be fair and honest, I really could not say if you've erred on your part since you are only disclosing the argument part. We need to understand the circumstances that led to the conflict between the both of you. However, let me say that she is wrong for not remembering your name and addressing you by it. She has no right to bid you with some "oohs" and "aah" where some form of good manners and etiquette would be using a simple "excuse me" or "pardon me". On your part, I feel you should not have a direct outburst with her and I am saying this for the morale for the office and your position as her staff. You should be calm and collected at all times because you have your responsibilities to fulfill. Her misconduct can be documented and even videoed to build your case when you are being reported or would like to raise a formal complaint against her. I am sure you are aware how your office works and what to do when you are being unfairly dealt or treated. Every office have their own system and your office is no exception. Just be wary on how to go about building and reporting your case. Last of all, please do not feel bad and resign for anyone's sake. You need to remember that it is your right and if you are in the right, you should never cower to anyone's intimidation(s). Take care and have a nice day.
@janevi (889)
• Philippines
8 Aug 11
There's no way but to leave that bad mouthed boss of yours before she destroys your sanity.:-D With what she has done, she has not ability in managing people under her. I'm sure you can find another fulfilling job. Good luck. Life is too short to feel bad .Say from people who could bring unhappiness in your life.
@madden12 (81)
• United States
8 Aug 11
Wow, that is harsh. You shouldn't have to put up with that kind of attitude from a boss no matter where you are. Hopefully you were able to vent to someone when you got home because that is not OK no matter who you are. Ironically, I also had a manager who couldn't remember people's names, but we mostly just laughed at him for it.
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
8 Aug 11
Since you mentioned on your discussion title that she is only a supervisor, then there should be a more senior person like, your boss in your company. If she still unable to control her mouth and keep calling you that way, yo should have the right to report this matter to your boss. Each staff have the right to report a badmouthing or even an abusing situation to their boss. Let your boss handle this situation and see how is the outcome. Hope the situation will be alright soon, so you can continue stay in this job.
@Shankerj (241)
• India
7 Aug 11
Sometimes we have no way out and we have to work with such persons, any way keep your cool, talk with some higher management, if there is an option to do so. keep looking for new job, and you will land into a good job with a good supervisor.
• Philippines
7 Aug 11
You boss is just too rude. She doesn't deserve to be called a boss, she's unprofessional and she doesn't even have the proper courtesy. You would be better off without her.
@TeamCholent (2843)
• United States
7 Aug 11
If that is the case you should just go right up to the boss and bypass your supervisor and discuss the issues you guys have. There is no way you can function when there are harsh feelings out there. Best to discuss and resolve and move forward.
@francesca5 (1344)
7 Aug 11
she sounds very rude, is there anyone you can complain to, about her? swearing at you is totally unacceptable. or is it not the sort of place were you can complain?