Are you agree with me? Online friends are more innocent than offline friends

India
August 7, 2011 12:24pm CST
I observed that now offline friends are selfish they makes the friendship with us and then leave it any time with any reason or some time without reason after completing their purpose. My one friend was staying my house for full 15 days and studied with me we both were sleeping in my bedroom and my husband was sleeping in the hall. I teach her first then I start my study till night 1 O'clock when I was doing MCM. She was weak in every subject like Java, Oracle, C and VB I was good in theory not in practical so I teach her very well. When result was declared she gots 74% and I got 64% then one day she called me and tell ohh now dont call me I make friend to you only for study purpose. I like online friends they are more clever because then never need anything with us. But ready to support us every time. Now I not make any offline friend if makes then never chance to close me. Share your views really this is true or this is my misunderstanding. You face this type of any situation with your friends.
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17 responses
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
8 Aug 11
At least she's being frank with you, that she only used you to get high mark.Now you have a lesson learned that you must choose who you are befriending with.There are lots of people who are opportunist so you must be careful on them. I have encountered some people who are like this too.Anyway, it's really hard to say if an individual is true on her/his motives.I think our friends here in our community are more sincere than most of our friends offline.Thanks for sharing my dear.
• Philippines
25 Aug 11
So, I guess you must be careful now to choose who you would like to befriend with.I hope you find real friends.
• India
8 Aug 11
Yes my dear friend you are right our online friends are more sincere and clever than offline friends. Now I hate online friends because I faced this type of incident is second time and now enough. Thanks for response
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
7 Aug 11
Surekha: People are different. Some are helpful. Some come to get help. It is not based on offline or online. However online friends - we do not meet -- we only exchange ideas -- even if we disagree with them it may not affect every day life. But in the case real friends whom we meet even if some difference of opinion as what u said occurs we feel bad. I had a person as friend for nearly 25 years. It was broken based on misunderstanding in less than 5 minutes. it happens. We should appreciate that girl for telling you openly.
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• India
26 Aug 11
Yes uncle you are right friendship will break with in 5 minutes even it is since long time. Even family relations are also break with in 5 minutes by misunderstanding. Thanks to share your view. Where are you and how are you? Please came back as early as possible I am missing you and your responses and discussions.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
26 Aug 11
Surekha: I am in USA now and will be reaching chennai in october first week. In fact I was not seeing your name in discussions for quite some time. I will participate in discussions on saturday and sunday--leave for paper preparation work.-- this is just to have change.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 11
Oh yes. Some of them asked me for a favour and after that, no more news again from them. And I remember they also bullied me or make me leave their group. It was hurtful as I thought they are nice and this teach me a lesson not to be a naive person anymore. Your friend is selfish and ugly. I don't like that.
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• India
26 Aug 11
Yes friend you are right she was selfish and used me and my teaching way. Now I hate friendship with girl because it is happening with me second time.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
8 Aug 11
sureka you are wrong. Offline friends are more reliable. Online friends are more dangerous. They act good and nice till they have what they want. Never get carried away by the good manners and courtesy of online friends. They are just waiting for a chance to exploit the gullible.Some are good and genuine
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• India
26 Aug 11
Ohhh friend pleas dont think about me I am a good friend not for you but for all mylotter because all mylotter is like my family members. I accept your view some time online friends are also danger because my rating system was decrease 93 to 91 then 91 to 89 so you are right but I know you are a good friend for me dear.
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 11
Not just offline friends but family members and people surrounding as well....I don't know why such thing happen. It seems that the world just have people with anger, hatred and madness. People in real world seems to greedy and to stressed in wealth and money..I can't see and hardly see the sincerity. They asked from us more than what they could give to us. And for anyone who thinks they are great they always look down others and do whatever they want and being insensitive to others.Like your friends that is what I called as ungrateful person.I don't want to make friends with such people.
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@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 11
But it does not mean I place my full heart and trust to online friends...There are too many shadows till I can't see and decide what kind of people they are.
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@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
8 Aug 11
Oh yes, there are good and bad friends and it's the friends that are physically with you who do the most damage. Online friends don't pose a threat compared to friends who are with you. The friend you just described is no friend. A true friend wouldn't use you like that and drop you off. Unfortunately, not everyone is perfect but we do need offline friends. We need those who are physically there to share our joy and sorrows.
• India
8 Aug 11
You are right we need offline friends also but we should not go near them means not close only hi hello etc. enough. Thanks for response.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 11
It is difficult to make judgments on friendships. It all depends on individual character. I don't have real world friends who only take advantage of me. Looks like you have met someone who doesn't treasure your good deeds. It is no difference with friends online. Since we only meet them occasionally here, I cannot make a conclusion of how sincere they are.
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• India
7 Aug 11
You are right friend really it is difficult to judgments on friendship. But no one can take benefit of our innocence. At least she should know she was staying in my house full 15 days. At least tell me the reason what wrong with me. I think she was selfish.
@jenni7202 (1598)
• United States
8 Aug 11
Not all friends offline are horrible people. Just like not all people online are innocent and carefree. You have to be very careful with who you talk to online and off. There are a lot of online predators out there that will tell you lots and lots of lies to make you comfortable, and then out of nowhere you could be meeting someone who wants to kill you or rape you. People on the outside world are the same way really, but you at least have the opportunity to give your first judgement from appearance and the expression when they talk.
• United States
7 Aug 11
At least she admitted that she only used you to get her grade. It's very sad though that people are like that. She probably has no very deep relationships with anyone since she goes in to it just for what she can get and not for what she can give. It's sad...but true!
• India
7 Aug 11
But friend this is not good at least she should remember that she was in my home till 15 days full day and night and I daily teach her. Really now I hate offline friends. thanks to share your view.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
11 Aug 11
I think that in the stage in my life that I am in right now, it is equally important to have online friends and to have offline friends. Yes, there have been people in my life that have used me because of the fact that I'm a very giving person, but there are also those few special friends that you make in your life that are there for you no matter what, those are the people that are the most important. However, online friends are very important as well because they are able to offer you emotional support when no one else can.
@anil02 (24688)
• India
8 Aug 11
Hello, You are talking here about a person to whom you say friend, indeed she was not you friend. She was a selfish person she is not deserve to be a friend. I have many friend offline they are my friend from my childhood, still we are friend. So here exception to everything is available,all offline friends are selfish. With online friend we have not face to face contacts, we don't about their nature, we have not too much contact with them.
• United States
13 Aug 11
Oh my sweet friend, This is terrible that she would say do not call her after you whole heartedly gave her all the help she needed. Sadly there are some people like this that use us for the advantage and then kick us to the curb when they are done with our assistance. She could have been honest in saying Surekha I only need you for your help and I am sure you would have helped her anyways. Sadly some people are sneaky like this and are not honest which as you experienced later becomes a painful situation. Yes I have observed the same as you and have actually had the same online too as there are all types of people in life, sadly.
• India
13 Aug 11
Really I cant forget that day my dear friend because we spend full 15 days day and night together and how she used me. But really my husband is understanding men he tell me forget her and next time be careful dont give such help to anybody but not anger on me. Friend whenever I remember that days still I cry because I feel our friendship is good or for long time I not know she is using my way of study or teaching way. So I like online friends more than offline friends at least they cant use us. Thanks for support me.
@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
7 Aug 11
I agree that online friends are usually more reliable than most of our offline friends because they don't want to take advantage of us,they just need to communicate with other people and share their knowledge and life experience without asking for anything in return.Of course,if we're lucky to have friends in real life who are supportive and helpul we can considered ourselves blessed,but it's obvious that such true friends in real life are very rare and very precious.
• India
8 Aug 11
Yes you are absolutely right online friends not take any advantage of us then only communicate with us without demanding anything. Thanks to share your nice view.
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
9 Aug 11
I am fully agree with you because I also face this problem my one friend do fraud with me. Now we not talk to each other. My child also like more online friends and she chat on facebook with her friends.
• India
10 Aug 11
Ohhh really some incidents are very painful and we never forget it. I also like only making online friendship not interested in offline friendship thanks for response.
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
8 Aug 11
surekharathi, I just like to add to all the posts here that there is a difference between online and offline friends where the former does not really have the real sense of attachment. So, you really do not feel as much as a real offline relationship. This bad experience is a sad but isolated case where it does not represent all of your real life friends especially those who are true. Just as real life (offline), there are just as many feigns and unfavorable ones online, so do be careful and on your guard before you get hurt yourself online. I believe we just need to be careful with who we befriend and as there is no way we can accurately read what's on the other person's mind, we will have to remind ourselves not to over commit or assume that things will be alright between the both of you especially when you rarely know the other party. In life, there's no such thing as a sure thing and we should never take things for granted. So, do what you are good and happy with - enjoy the company and if things does not turn out like this one, then learn to take it into stride and move on. These people are not what we would regard as friends but some worthless sand that will always be trodden upon and go where the winds of reality blows. Take care and have a nice day.
• India
7 Aug 11
One bad experience need not be the judgment on all friends. One needs offline friends also as they are available right in front of our eyes and many of them genuinely good. Online friends are good too and they offer valuable advice, sometimes solid gold, as you said because they don't need anything in return. With exposure to more people our perception about online and offline friends will come nearer to reality.
• Bulgaria
7 Aug 11
You're forgetting something. The Internet is a great way to hide your true identity. You can act cool and get away without facing the consequences. Only in real life you can see what kind of person (s)he really is.