Public display of Affection makes me sick!

Philippines
August 9, 2011 9:22am CST
I hate seeing someone who are not disciplined to show their love and affection in appropriate time and place just like my classmates were doing inside our classroom everyday. I would like to scold them that it's not proper for them to show what they've got to everyone in the class though we all know that they are lovers. We, as an individual we have our responsibility not only in ourselves, not only in our partners but to everyone who surrounds us. We should be sensitive enough to what other people might say to us. This is Philippines and it's a very conservative country though I know that we're already in the 21st century and we all evolved... grrr!!It sucks.. I hate to see them seating in just one chair and the other clings so tight feeling that they are the only people in the room.
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13 responses
@Lamar30 (19)
• United States
9 Aug 11
I personally don't have a problem with people that are in loving relationships showing affection that is appropriate in public. As a matter of fact, I think certain types of affection like holding hands, sitting close to each other, a little kiss, should be seen because the world has a twisted view of genuine affection and love anyway. Please don't take this the wrong way, but there is something within you that causes you to view it as a problem. You have to find out why simple affection bothers you so much. It is all about what is appropiate...
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• United States
9 Aug 11
I agree. I find it sad that seeing two people in love offends you,Mitchikoy0305.But if I'm wrong and this is just the way you are , I can and do respect that.
• Philippines
9 Aug 11
Loving a person is normal for me. I'm a lady if you would me call me like that hehe..but I've also had a boyfriend before but I see to it that everyone can respect us and we can show our love in simple ways like other said-holding hands while walking, kissing the cheeks, hugging her/him, or even putting your hands on his shoulder or putting your hands in her waist. some simple gestures like that is ok with me..but going beyond that is not nice in the eyes...
@oXAquaXo (607)
• United States
9 Aug 11
I agree with Lamar30. Simple displays of affection are appropriate in public, because they really do display two partners' love for another. I see it all the time, and it never bothers me. Going too far does a little, but it doesn't make me sick or anything. But there are people who are sensitive to these things, so I do understand.
@janevi (889)
• Philippines
9 Aug 11
It is really annoying to see couples doing that in public. Its even degrading and demoralzing on the part of the girl who allows her boyfriend to do it to her in public. If the boy respects her enough he will have a decency to wait until they get married. It also shows that she herself allows to be de-moralized by him. Its lack of self respect.
• Philippines
9 Aug 11
oh my!the girl doesn't think of that, but the boy he's a gentleman.. he shows some distance when all our eyes are looking at their way but the girl, she's not ashamed, who clings to the boy too much even when scooping or hugging the boy at the back and her face sticks at the neck of the guy!it made me really sick and shy on what she's doing...
@janevi (889)
• Philippines
9 Aug 11
well in that case, its the girl who needs a real spanking. she is a total disgrace to the women and as a filipina. i would suggest that you can report that to your guidance office as it is a distraction in the class and a very indecent attitude of a girl in public places Perhaps what you can do it to look the other way when you see them because in the end it's you who is bothered. Don't allow that to happen to you, ok? Just study well and reach your goals in life.
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
My professor keeps on ignoring them, but all of us want to say to them that we are not against on their relationship and showing some signs that they love each other but they should know their limitations and know their stand where they are and whom they are with. they need to show some respect to others for us to respect them.
• United States
9 Aug 11
Maybe because I'm here in America where expressions are freer but I love to see lovers hold hands , walk arm and arm , or even give each other a kiss. I don't mean a long French kiss but a short one! I think that true love is so rare and if they are lucky enough to have it , they should be able to show it.
• United States
9 Aug 11
Wow, we have some of the same views. Read my post that I responded with above. World really needs to see genuine affection..
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• United States
9 Aug 11
Great minds think alike, Lamar30!
@maclanis (2017)
• Belgium
9 Aug 11
I don't really mind public display of affection as long as it's not too much. But then again, I live in Europe, and it's just normal here. I certainly disagree with the people who say that it's degrading for the girl. I'm sorry, but that just sounds a little sexist to me... It's not degrading for anyone. But people should get a room when it gets out of hand.
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
I know, we all have different point of views when it comes to public display of affection, loving and having someone with us. But wherever or whenever we are in the other place that is beyond our comfort zone, we must think always that we respect ourselves for others respect us... I'm not against with them having their relationship, but since that we are in school they should act as a normal couple and not a loud one..
@jerikjames (1043)
• Philippines
9 Aug 11
I'm also a filipino and I really don't have any problems when it comes to openly showing your affection to your significant other. But if it gets out of hand, it doesn't matter which country you're from or what you culture you grew up in, I think it would be time to get a room. If you find it offending though, I think you should tell them so but not in a I-want-to-scold-you way. You just have to tell them that it makes you and others uncomfortable. If they didn't acknowledge what you said, I think you better just steer clear from and just ignore them as best as you could so as to avoid misunderstandings. I just want to point out that it's out of the question whether Philippines is a conservative country. I think the issue is about respect. This is slightly off the topic but if you think about it, don't you think that that hinders us from exploring possibilities just because we're conservative? Just my two centavos worth. :)
• Philippines
9 Aug 11
I really don't mind what they up to and sorry for pointing out in what country are we. It's just that, yes I agree all I need to see is the respect we deserved. Me, my classmates and my prof.We already talked to them but they act as if we don't remind them. Anyways, it's their life not mine. My point is that, they can show their love to each other but not too much display of affection. It's not the measurement of showing how you love that person so much. It is how you respect her/him in front of other people and with her alone..God bless
@hexebella (1138)
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
You are a filipino and you are in the Philippines...that's why. It is because of the cultural and mind settings of that country that makes the people criticize PDA. It was in Europe that I felt some kind of freedom to express myself and PDA is not an issue. Now I am in a gulf country which is stricter than the Philippines, but it doesn't affect me as I am not in a relationship here. :)
@koperty3 (1877)
11 Aug 11
You have right that class room is not appropriate place to display feelings. They can do it at home. I'm not strict person but I can not imagine myself in such situation. I like to hug my partner in public places but we don't do anything above that. Every situation got proper place to display feeling and class room is not that place.
@Triple0 (1907)
• Australia
10 Aug 11
I don't really mind public affection as long as it doesn't go too far. Holding hands, small cute affections are alright but those where the couple is like all over each other is a big no no for me. I know someone who goes to university and she was doing her work on the computer. Right next to her was a couple in which the girl was clinging to the guy and they were full on kissing and making out. My friend said that she was really uncomfortable being right next to them and it's just inappropriate to do that during a class. There's always a time and place for everything!
@allknowing (78915)
• India
10 Aug 11
I think it is a pretty sight specially when two seniors walk hand in hand or for that matter even if youngsters go about that way. I agree with you, necking for example and such other displays should be private.
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
If you feel that way, and considering they're in class, why don't you tell them to get a room? Seriously. I guess it depends on what kind of affection they're showing each other. I really don't mind if people are snuggling with each other, canoodling with each other, I would just ignore them. However, if people are actually making out, and in class, too, that's something you could get trouble for. And in a classroom of students, it's so easy to be mixed up in that kind of trouble even if you're not the one doing the PDA. In any case, since you're a classmate, you have some sort of responsibility to remind your peers that there are appropriate places to share that sort of affection, and the classroom is not it. Throw them a meaningful joke by telling them that they could save the hooking up for later, when they can actually do what they want to do. After all, do they really enjoy teasing each other knowing full well they can't continue their snuggle session with the prof comes in? That would get them thinking.
@jmay1226 (97)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
Since we are a conservative country we usually hate to see PDA or the Public Display of Affection. Nowadays, this situation is very common and sometimes accepted sometimes not. Although your given case is not good and yeah, somebody should scold them because they are not in the proper place to cling and seat in one chair. They are in school and this is the place where everyone should learn a moral and good character. Although we cannot blame them coz we are different individual and even if we are a conservative country but Philippines is a democratic country also...
@oXAquaXo (607)
• United States
9 Aug 11
I'm Chinese and am from a relatively conservative family, but I usually have no problems with people openly showing affection. Showing affection in a public place is a sign for partners that they are willing to let the whole world know about their love. Obviously, I do have a problem if it gets out of hand. We have a very populated high school, well over 2000 students. So, you can probably guess that there are tons of couples walking around in the hallways. I occasionally see some make out, and that's fine. But sometimes they add a little too much to their session and it gets a little TMI. Essentially, public displays of affection are a part of life.
@thatgirl13 (7306)
• South Korea
9 Aug 11
I don't really mind public affection but it does have a limit, and then it gets on my nerves too.