When emotional

United States
August 9, 2011 12:34pm CST
When you are going through the emotions of hurt you don't think about what you are doing because the pain that you feel the most hurts to bad for you to even care about what happens to the person who has done the hurting, why is it that the person who does the hurting expect you to deal with it and get over it, then when you react you are wrong for the hurt they cause you, but they feel no pressure from the hurt that they caused you,I feel that if someone hurt you on purpose and then you react out of hurt what ever you do to there stuff I don't think you should be sorry about what you do to thei items.
5 responses
@Awinds (2475)
• United States
9 Aug 11
Well I don't know an eye for an eye is the best policy. It seems to me that wrecking your abuser's stuff is only go to create more conflict and more hurt for you. Secondly, not managing emotions can come back to bite you. Self control is an art - and an important one at that. In some situations the person who hurt you won't care. They will indeed be insensitive and say "get over it!" It is always best to leave and separate yourself from that situation so you can cool down. A lot of people however will fell guilty about hurting another. Their pride may just prevent them from showing it for awhile. In that case it is best just to wait.
@Awinds (2475)
• United States
10 Aug 11
That is the best thing for booth of you. :)
@SIMPLYD (78119)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
When we are provoked to our limits, we really can be blinded by our fury to get even. However, its the after effect that will give a toll on you. You will never know what you can do when you are in a blinded fury. I guess it's best that when we are very provoked, we should go away from the scene and calm ourselves. It would also be best to say a prayer about it, when we are so angry. That way, cooler heads can prevail.
@webgirl01 (693)
• United States
10 Aug 11
I'm not sure why the person who does the hurting or hurts you in some way expects you to deal with it and get over it. Maybe the person who hurt you doesn't want to know his or her mistakes are. Some people are too boastful or don't have some sympathy for feelings of others that are hurt. I can't expect right away to hear a "just deal with it and get over it" response. The sound of that is like they aren't apologizing or they don't care at all. I guess I'll just let it go. Some people have too much pride when don't say sorry when they hurt someone. I know we have to deal and get over it sometime but i just hope the person that did the hurting will realize their mistakes...
@cal141 (3)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
You are simply escalating this into a confrontation. I take it you live with this person who hurt you. Than move out.
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
displacement is kinda good thing but in a right way, i mean hurting other people because your in pain is not a good thing to do, much life destroying the things of the person who hurt you.. displacement is a coping mechanism, and you should put it to good use.. like trying work hard at your job or spending more time with friends and family, or having a vacation, these are good displacement, instead of pouring your anger to things that will cause you bad.. why not focus on the positive nature of being happy to what life has to offer..