Emotional Hyper Sensitivity - Good or Bad?

India
August 10, 2011 4:57am CST
Even at this matured age of past midway of my life, my eyes get wet if I see a pathetic case even in a movie, knowing very well that is is all a fiction. This is what I am - hyper-sensitive person. Now, I have a beloved even more hyper-sensitive than me. On a minor matter, she begins weeping and is so stubborn that she does not stop shedding her tears even on my repeated requests and pleasing efforts. She takes a long time to calm down. Once, she made me to weep with her. I fail to understand whether such a hyper-sensitivity is good or bad. What is your opinion.
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@umabharti (3976)
• India
11 Aug 11
yes some are just like that even knowing that those are all fake things ,just the actors do what they are said by the director,i think such a person is to be taken to the place where the shooting is done ,and make them see everything in real for few years so that they can stop crying seeing movies.
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• India
20 Sep 11
Emotions just work in their own ways.
@umabharti (3976)
• India
21 Sep 11
Everything works in its own way.
@lydiab (33)
• United States
11 Aug 11
Maybe she is depressed about something else and does not realize it. I have heard of women going through menopause going through emotional spells similar to pregnant women. Something about hormone in balances. Has she seen a physician to start with? If nothing is going on physically then therapy could be the next step.
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• India
20 Sep 11
Her problem came to be that she is a little nymphomaniac. This makes her insecured of losing a chance to love, displayed through emotional outbursts.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
10 Aug 11
Being emotional is good but going overboard is unacceptable.People who are emotional generally are good hearted ones because they view things from their heart. But it can also have an adverse effect on them when they are not able to control their emotions.
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@mjcookie (2274)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
I think it's a bad thing if it's too much. It's too much if it hurts or at least disturbs people around. Maybe it's a disorder if it goes too far. You can help her by having her checked.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Aug 11
It's normal for her, but it would probably drive me a little crazy.
@vandana7 (67758)
• India
13 Aug 11
Why so? I mean if she were constantly at it, then perhaps. But if she felt touched about something, or hurt about something..then too? I think many times they dont know how to express their feelings exactly, or are unable to express themselves at the right time. I am kind of..though I have learnt how to step back a bit. However, some issues can bring back those feelings. I now think of the things clinically I think.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
14 Aug 11
Just if it were all the time. Once in a while is no big deal, and probably more normal than my constant placid demeanor.
@vandana7 (67758)
• India
14 Aug 11
I like your placid demeanor, as you put it. :) I wish I had it. But I condone myself considering that we have had different circumstances in our lives. By the way, can you not hold on to your house for some more time? As of now, the condition in the US is not conducive to selling properties. How much you would be accumulating by working next three or four years, you would be losing in terms of property value I think. Wanted to tell you that somewhere..couldnt locate the response. Of course, you are the best judge of the situation, and if it sounds like bad manners, I am sorry.
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@pickwick (858)
• India
14 Aug 11
Hi Rambansal, Do not think with emotions, use your emotions to think.
• India
20 Sep 11
Just a jargon of words. In fact, the two things amount to same.
@pickwick (858)
• India
21 Sep 11
No Rambansal they are not just jargon with words.When you think with emotions you are just left thinking with the feelings.But when you use your emotions to think that leads to compassion and you come up with something creative.The great poets and artists have used their emotions to think.
@Hatley (164484)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Aug 11
hi rambansal I think its just part of compassion to weep at sad parts in a movie but in real life the one who must respond to emergency is the calm cool person who cannot cry as that impedes the need to know that the hell you are doing. Being too emotional then can risk an ill person's life.As a nurse's aide I often went home and cried about a very ill person but never ever while caring for that very ill person. tears have their place but not in the work place.
• India
20 Sep 11
Emotional tears know nothing of the place - home or office. They work the same way. Of course, being cool all the time is desirable.
@vandana7 (67758)
• India
10 Aug 11
Good that you brought it up. I think it is not so nice to be hyper sensitive. I am like that so I am going to enumerate where it went wrong for me. We, i.e., hypersensitive people tend to be careful with the way we talk or express feelings. We try to avoid hurting others and in the process bend backwards on issues where we are not really willing to compromise. Somewhere the resentment builds up. When people who are not as sensitive talk without thinking we are hurt very deeply and we recall all that resentment, and pour it all out at the wrong time. In a nut shell, it wont earn us friends.
• India
20 Sep 11
Yes, you are right, and people take undue advantages of one's sublime nature of not hurting the other. Now, that love affair has ended in a disaster for me, finding that she is a sort of nymphomaniac, looking for not one but many lovers. Your first advice comes to my mind now, how right you had been then. But I was blind in her love, so did not heed to your words. I appreciate your judgement capability.
@pickwick (858)
• India
14 Aug 11
Hi Rambansal, Do not use your think with emotions, use your emotions to think.
@iamsummer (192)
11 Aug 11
I think there is nothing wrong to become a hyper sensitivity.When watching a moving movies,she must find something she pathetic then she will cry.I am one of these people,i am involved into the movies plot,then when i notice mercy experience of the leading role toward the rival ,it makes me weep.I am moved by their moral,tolerant,and gentle.
@varier (5699)
• Indonesia
11 Aug 11
As long as it doesn't bother most people, then I guess it is can't be a bad thing B-) Actually it is better than person that can't crying at all even in the saddest situation. And as for me, in my opinion, I like people that can easily crying because of pathetic case. For me, it is because he/she should have a caring and sincere heart :)
• Southend-On-Sea, England
10 Aug 11
I think it's a good thing because it shows you care! If only more people in the world were sensitive to the degree that you are, it would be a far gentler, happier place. As for your wife's sensitivity levels, I can understand that it might make you feel uncomfortable if she gets so tearful and would it be something you could both discuss together to see if a compromise could be reached?
@JoyfulOne (6242)
• United States
10 Aug 11
I don't think there's anything really wrong about being hyper-sensitive. In many instances, I would rather deal with a hyper-sensitive than with a person who has no (or low) sensitivity. A sensitive person has compassion, and cares about things. Sure, maybe they care a little more than the average person, but they do care. People with no sensitivities don't care at all about others, or the consequences of their actions. As for women, I think on some levels we show more sensitivity than most men. We are typically 'the nurturers', and from that standpoint, we cry when we're happy, sad, hurt. And, being more prone to caring about others feelings, we tend to understand where somebody is coming from. We are sensitive, and even cry tears of happiness when our friends child excels at something, or our friend gets a raise, or gets hurt. Whether man OR woman, a hyper-sensitive person can feel others pain or joy, and empathize with them, and show compassion. I do not view a hyper-sensitivity as a negative thing, rather as one with a deeper depth of human compassion and understanding for others.
@QeeGood (1214)
• Sweden
10 Aug 11
I value a developed sensitivity quality as a good ability to experience much along with having empathy for other people in a more understanding manner. You can feel with other people in their different emotional states. As I've developed my sensitivity I'm more receptive for other peoples emotional energies and even pick up thoughts from human beings and animals. There are times when I discipline my emotional expressions, by using the willpower of my mind to think of other things while there is something that is painful or sad.
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
Somehow it is bad to be too much emotional. If that's your problem, then stop watching very emotional movies. Watch movies that are enjoyable not sad.
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
hello ram, I cry with movies too, I cry for small things like seeing street children dirty and hungry. I cry when I can't do anything or help a certain people because I am not in any position to do so,or my capacity is limited. I cry when I am hungry (anyone can laugh at me- hahaha) well,yah,because I seldom eat so,when I feel hungry that means I am hungry (hmnnn) Now,when it comes to love..or loving someone,I still cry when things went wrong. And that's what I am always afraid of,because..once my tears stopped to fall for that person...it means that love fades as well. have a good day jaiho®