do you think couples who broke up should force being friends?

@chiyosan (30184)
Philippines
August 13, 2011 6:14am CST
Is it necessary? what do you think? do you think that couples who break up should force themselves to forget about the indifferences, to forget about what ever happened in their past and opt to be friends for their own sake...
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16 responses
• Philippines
13 Aug 11
hi chiyosan, I think it is not necessary but atleast be civil with each other if ever they will see each other again, happy mylotting
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
well of course, no one should be forced to be friends with anyone... :D ex or not. Its great to see you in the discussion, its been a while since i came back to the discussion myself and sorry for this. Hope to see you around the site, happy mylotting.
@louie847 (350)
• Philippines
14 Aug 11
Well, I think they should not force themselves of becoming friends. They can either forget each other or give a space in their hearts to accept the fact that they can no longer be together but keep the friendship they have with honesty and no strings attached. In that way things will be better.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
Its great to see you in the discussion, its been a while since i came back to the discussion myself and sorry for this. Hope to see you around the site, happy mylotting.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
that is right, no one should force themselves to be friends with their ex right away - depending on how they broke up.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
25 Jan 12
I think they shouldn't force it. They should let the pain and hurt pass until they are both ready to be friends again. forcing it might only get things to worst and will only lead to enemies for life.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
Appreciate having you here with me in the discussion. Thank you so much for your time, God bless and see you around and happy mylotting!
19 Dec 11
Two situations. If there were just boyfriend(girlfriend) and broke up, it's a bad idea to being friends ,because his(her) new boyfriend(girlfriend) will care about that.(maybe you two guys had sleep together even). If there were married , maybe it's a reasonable idea to force being freiends.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=) Godbless you.
@globaldoc (858)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
I think there is a line that lies in between them in this cae. Usually, as husbands and wives, they would have to erase that line, and that is where trouble erupts. It is a sad fact, but if they do not end up as happy husbands and wives, then they are a failure. Well, since they would have to let go of the relationship, that does not mean that they also have to end up as strangers. They can still end up as friends, as long as they do not go into any intimacy at all. Or else, if they go into any intimacy, then they are hypocrites on their own. I think it is rather a choice of their own that they can remain as friends, and I do not see anything wrong with that.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
Appreciate having you here with me in the discussion. Thank you so much for your time, God bless and see you around and happy mylotting!
• Philippines
9 Feb 12
What do you mean a couple or married one. I know we dealt our past experienced. And there are some misunderstood events which couldn't handle better. After all we have to secure the friendship and be friend to your partners. It is the easiest way how to manage the unresolved conflict or whatever your past.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=) Godbless you.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
14 Aug 11
Hi Chiyosan! Couples who have broke up are not expected to be friends right away. Breaking up is a painful situation and it is expected that you keep distant to each other. When things are fine and you both moved on, then that is the time they can be friends. Healing takes time, so don't force yourselves to be friends right away.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
well yes, right away. :D no way they can be friends right away.. but there might be a chance that they will need more time! :D Its great to see you in the discussion, its been a while since i came back to the discussion myself and sorry for this. Hope to see you around the site, happy mylotting.
@youless (112096)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Aug 11
I think it is too difficult for couples to be friends after they broke up, unless you haven't loved each other before. It is not easy to forget the past and therefore it is tough to be friends again. As it may remind you the sad past since you can't be together. I love China
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
yes, it is going to be difficult for couples to stay as friends especially if it would mean they have to talk and relive the pain when they try to be friends.
@dodo19 (47034)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
13 Aug 11
I honestly don't think that it's necessary. If they do remain friends, then great! Good for them. But if they don't, I don't think that it's the end of the world. They shouldn't have to remain friends.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
Its great to see you in the discussion, its been a while since i came back to the discussion myself and sorry for this. Hope to see you around the site, happy mylotting.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
17 Aug 11
we cannot force one to be friends again with the ex. it all depends in the situation how and why they broke up. if they can be friends after, then good. but if not, we should not force each other.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
Its great to see you in the discussion, its been a while since i came back to the discussion myself and sorry for this. Hope to see you around the site, happy mylotting.
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 11
It depends to them. We usually see that most couples stay as friends when the break up but the truth it is just the couples who know well which I don't think they decide and treat each other as friends after that. For me myself if things as such happen to me I don't think I can accept him as my friends since I hardly can forgive and get along back with people who hurt my feeling. Most probably I will leave and try to forget about him.No point to be seen together again..(^^)
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
Its great to see you in the discussion, its been a while since i came back to the discussion myself and sorry for this. Hope to see you around the site, happy mylotting.
@koperty3 (1876)
13 Aug 11
No one should be force to be friends with anyone. Friendship isn't something you can be forced to. If you want to be friend with your ex that's fine. If your ex hurt you so many times and you can't stand seeing him so why you should force yourself? I believe in freedom of choice.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
Its great to see you in the discussion, its been a while since i came back to the discussion myself and sorry for this. Hope to see you around the site, happy mylotting.
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
14 Aug 11
It is better to be friends afterwards but it depends on the individual because some people don't like this idea and they find it really uncomfortable to be friends with their ex. It's like can you put up with seeing them everyday, knowing that you guys have been in a relationship? What about the emotions linked with the break up? Can you brush off those emotions and move on? A friend of mine broke up with her boyfriend and when they see each other, it's just really awkward.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
Appreciate having you here with me in the discussion. Thank you so much for your time, God bless and see you around and happy mylotting!
• Philippines
14 Aug 11
Seldom happened that couples who decided to broke up became friends. It depends on the reason why they decided to separate ways.Because sometimes we can't really tell. Some couples who broke up don't want to be friends anymore because they will just remember how bad their relationship was. But some couples who broke up became friends especially if they didn't have any bad reason why they broke up they just decided to broke up for a god reason.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
yeah quite a few of couples who broke up will ever become friends...Its great to see you in the discussion, its been a while since i came back to the discussion myself and sorry for this. Hope to see you around the site, happy mylotting.
• Philippines
13 Aug 11
I don't think so Chiyosan... forcing friendship is not a good idea for couples who already broke up. Being friend will happen between them at the right time...
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
yeah my thoughts as well. we should not really force ourselves to be friends with our exes when we are not ready. Its great to see you in the discussion, its been a while since i came back to the discussion myself and sorry for this. Hope to see you around the site, happy mylotting.
@GemmaR (8517)
13 Aug 11
I don't think that it's usually a good idea for a couple to remain friends after they've broken up unless the break up was mutual between them. For example, one guy who I was with was more like a friend to me and we both decided that we were better as friends than we had been as a couple so we became friends again with ease. The guy I'm with now broke up with me in January and we couldn't be friends because it was just too painful. Now, we're back together and much happier than ever before because we both wanted the same things in the end.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
well it is really not as easy as that when you are thinking of going to be friends with your ex, of course. Its great to see you in the discussion, its been a while since i came back to the discussion myself and sorry for this. Hope to see you around the site, happy mylotting.