Do you feel you've been cheated out of your life?

United States
August 13, 2011 12:10pm CST
Many people have this viewpoint that they have been cheated out of their life. That their lot in life as been unfair. Perhaps they do not have good health, the job or career they want, the spouse or partner, etc. Do you feel this way about your life? I don't feel that I have been cheated in my life. We have ill health because we inherited sin and death. Therefore we get sick, grow old, and die. If I don't have the job or career that I want then it's up to me to try to get it. To make the right decisions that lead me in that direction. We can't control our partner or spouse so we might as well not try. We have to find happiness within ourselves and not look to others to make us happy.
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@hafiz008 (450)
• India
13 Aug 11
yes, I feel I have been cheated in my life.I have in such a situation that I can`t explain because I don`t want reveal it. I hate myself, every one even God.Many friends met me they advised me and they said we have to wait for the good one to happen.I did not bother them. At last same happen to me and my family. One thing I understood that every one has problems in their life. My problem was so small as compared to my neighbor.So we must be patient to happen good in our life
• United States
14 Aug 11
I'm so sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time in your life. Please don't hate yourself. I'm sure that you are loved and deeply cared for by your family. I don't quit understand what is happening in your life because I'm not aware of the situation. But if you ever need anyone to talk with don't hesitate to talk with me. I like making new friends and helping out friends if I can. I do agree that it is important to have patience in our life. Let me know if you would like to talk where in away where it's not public to others about your situation.
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• United States
18 Nov 11
Hello Hafiz008, I feel bad for you that you have such a poor outlook on your life. You are right.. we all have problems. I have major depression disorder and not on any meds for the last 6 or 7 months due to finances.. but I try to keep a good attitude and find every day that I wake up on this side of the grave, I am blessed. As long as I can draw breath I am blessed. I'm very limited right now on what I can do due to my inability to think properly anymore... so I just do the best I can.
• Philippines
13 Aug 11
My outlook in life never including blaming someone for my misfortunes, there is more to life than just regret and self-pity. For me, my life is my own consequence. I don't believe that other people would have an effect on how you live your life or the outcome of it.
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• United States
14 Aug 11
Yes i agree with you that our life really is affected by our own actions and decisions. I think it can be a waste of time and energy to dwell on regret and or self-pity. It doesn't get us very far when we are in that situation and just thinking about ourself and pitying our life.
@varier (5699)
• Indonesia
13 Aug 11
My point of view is still same: Maybe most of people have something that I don't have, But I have something that most of people don't have! Rather that keep whining "I can't have things that I want" I would prefer say "I want things that I have" and then be grateful.. Maybe I can consider my life is sucks, but surely, I am luckier than most of people in the world. Life really is a gift from God. I don't think I ever being cheated out even once :)
• China
14 Aug 11
You are very right. Our life is controled by ourself,not other people. Whatever you do,whereever you are,you always responsible to you decisons.
• United States
14 Aug 11
That truly is an awesome way to look at our life and the things that we should be greatful for. If most people viewed life this way a lot of people would be happier. It's nice to be around people who are happy with their life and aren't always pitying themselves. It is uplifting and encouraging to everyone around. I do my best to affect others in this way because I don't want to be discouraging to anyone.
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@varier (5699)
• Indonesia
14 Aug 11
Thank you for all of feedback :) Happiness comes from inside, and not outside :) And I hope we can keep happy on our life, and then pull the "hidden happiness" from another people :). Guess it is not fair if it's only us whose happy, another people should enjoy the happiness too :)
• United States
18 Nov 11
No, I don't feel I have been cheated. I have lived a long life so far. I'm 61 years young, and though things have been difficult at times.. and really difficult after a divorce.. I can't say I have been cheated. I feel we make our own way in the world. We are not promised a life of ease and comfort. I don't sleep on a bed of roses, but it is still home to me. I am blessed. Every day I wake up and have my senses about me. Every day I am able to put one foot in front of the other, I am blessed. If nothing good ever happens to me again, and I am able to still draw breath.. I am blessed. It makes no sense to sit around feeling sorry for yourself. No one cheats you but you. (I don't mean you.. saying 'you' in general.) Everyone has things they would love to change in their lives.. but that is no reason to hate yourself or hate your life. I just try to make mine better each day.. and my attitude greatly defines on how good a day I have.
• United States
20 Nov 11
I wholeheartedly agree with you. Our attitude greatly affects how our day, or week is going. And we shouldn't hate ourselves or our life because we aren't able to change the past. We have to learn from our actions,decisions, and the consequences and move forward. I'm glad that despite all that you have faced you maintain a positive attitude.
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13 Aug 11
hi:) No I don't feel that I've been cheated,I'm thankful for what I have now, yes perhaps some people have many things that I don't have, and perhaps living a happy life than I am.. but everything I experienced and have and not have is what made me.
• United States
14 Aug 11
I love the way you think.It's really nice. There will be people who have something bigger, better, or more than we at this time in history. That's just the way it is. Spending our time trying to "keep up with the Jones" isn't necessary and can be exhausting. If we are happy with the things we have, and with ourselves we can be fine. It's when we go after things that may not be necessarily attainable for us that we can start to feel cheated or start blaming others.
@hushi22 (4940)
13 Aug 11
i felt this before and my instinct was right. i think the important part of it is to get over that feeling and divert attention and concentration to a better thing that will lead to happiness.
• United States
14 Aug 11
Diverting our attention can get us out of the rut that we may find ourselves in when we are having hard times. I think that it can help a great deal. It is necessary to think about different things that way we aren't dwelling our just our own problems or anxieties.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
13 Aug 11
I have never feel this way, as good lord had been fair to me so far.
• United States
14 Aug 11
I'm glad that you do not feel this way. So many people do. I'm also happy to hear that your things in your life has been going good for you. That is how I feel. My life isn't perfect but that doesn't mean I have to blame God, or other people.
• India
14 Aug 11
Hi, your discussion is so true. And the fact is its like somethibg similar happening in my life. About 2 months ago I had a breakup with my girlfriend. It was her choice for that, it touched my heart so much in the beginning but now I have learned to live my life on my own and have taught myslef to be happiness on my own. After so many years I was very dependant on others. But I think when things go wrong its for our betterment. God always has some unique plans for us. Keeping this in mind it has made me more stronger. I felt very cheated when the situation occured but these are the parcels of life and we should learn to be happy on our own. After all we all have to take care of our own life.
• Indonesia
13 Aug 11
you right. me too, not fell like that. i always think: something good or bad, what happen to me, cause what have i done. and that became a learn for my life. thanks.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
13 Aug 11
I have never feel this way, as good lord had been fair to me so far. We should be grateful for what we have, and be forgiven to everyone did us wrong.