Are You Seen Yourself Here? How?

@visavis (5945)
Philippines
August 14, 2011 2:27am CST
Hello my fellow mylotters, Chatting in one internet cofee here to a good friend of mine a few days ago, and he told me an interesting story. One time when he was walking home, by surprised when he walked by, a couple who were obviously in an emotional discussion. As he heard, the woman was breaking up with the man, and he was trying to understand why. The drama went something like this: Girl: I'm not attracted to you anymore. I just don't FEEL IT. Boy: But I would do ANYTHING to make this work...I'll do anything you want... just tell me what to do." Girl: "That's the problem. You just don't get it." Ohhh... that was all he heard. Have you ever been experienced such situation? Have you ever had a girlfriend break up with you, or just drift away, and the more you tried to hold on, the further she ran from you? And the more you tried to be a "good guy" and please her, the more distant she became? How you can handle this kind of situation?
4 responses
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Aug 11
The best thing to do is back off. The more you push, the more she is not going to want to be with you.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
You mean back off forget it and looking forward.. no chance to redeem such situation.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 Aug 11
I think that the ONLY chance to redeem it is to back off and give the girl her space. But there is a good possibility that there's no way to redeem it.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
17 Aug 11
Is it normal that if the breakup initiated by a women it is very difficult to redeem or more difficult if the boy? What do you think?
@louie847 (350)
• Philippines
14 Aug 11
I did experience a long time ago when my girlfriend broke up with me. I really do not understand whats her reason and i just feel that there is nothing that i can do to stop her from breaking up with me. I know it hurts but all i can do is to accept it and move on.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
14 Aug 11
Thanks my friend, may be all girls like that if they don't want to one guy same reasons break-up.. However, you did not push her to know the reason why? Because some guys said and if break up, they said if you don't want to continue, who do I..
@ravisivan (14053)
• India
17 Aug 11
louie-- good stand. I appreciate your point "accept it and move on."" you will get another girl early.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
18 Aug 11
That's only his past memory my friend ravisvan, I'm sure he have found what his present love now.
@ravisivan (14053)
• India
17 Aug 11
visavis__-- You are asking from personal experience perhaps. Yes it is true. If u go after one thing that thing will go away from you. if you go away from one thing that thing will come near you. this is applicable in the case of the above situations also.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
18 Aug 11
Hello my friend little bit confuse about your ideas, we are talking about break up which women always doing and we men are common asking why? but women say blah blah...
@neildc (17253)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
17 Aug 11
you just reminded me of my own experience some 20 years ago. well, i know i was a good guy then. i was in college and i want to concentrate with my studies. but she just didn't understand it and she run away from me. i thought i could have her back after some few misfortunes with my life but no. i finally found her only through facebook. unfortunately, we both have our own families now.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
17 Aug 11
I got your point and thank you to your share about your experience. I'm happy that after such situation you learned to move on after break up. Some are really affected and unable to move forward. The bottom line is your not mean to each other.