Live with parents sucks!

@kwylima (452)
United States
August 15, 2011 9:50am CST
Yes! Live with parent s sucks ! I love my parents and I am really glad to have them around. But live with them when you are 25 years old sucks! I was away from them for 2 years and now that I am back it is hard to live in the same house. I like to keep everyhing organizes and like to eat I. My own time I like to go sleep in my own time and it is hard. I am just organizing my life and I will move out! What do you think? Have you been in the same situation? How did you get through it? Thanks a lot for share!
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14 responses
15 Aug 11
I also understand your feeling this way.. it's hard on both the child and parents in this situation.. this is when you both have to give... keep the peace and make the best of a tough situation. I had my daughter live with me, with her son for a while.. It was very difficult for I was very neat and of course... she was not... there were other issues, and I am sure she wasn't happy having to live with "mom"... at her age of 23 at the time.... but it helped her start a little savings and she has since moved out and on her own... I would do it all again, knowing what I know now.. and would do it for any of my children.. My home is always their home and I would do my best to make it work. Again, it's hard, but try to appreciate it for what it is.... family is always there for you in good and bad times... hopefully, right? Sit down with them as adults and discuss your concerns and perhaps you could all come up with something that will make this situation best for ALL... Best of luck!
• Brazil
15 Aug 11
I agree with you. I live alone, but sometimes I miss so much to live with my parents, because we have to enjoy all the time we can to spend with our parents, because they are not going to be there for us forever.
@kenzie45230 (3563)
• United States
15 Aug 11
I had to move in with my parents when I was in my 50s and they were in their 70s. What an experience that was since my dad had Alzheimer's and Parkinson's and mom had dementia as well. But they still thought they were boss. Since then my dad has passed away and I'd give anything to have him boss me around. I read recently that in the US the average age when "kids" are moving out has increased to 27, so you're not alone.
• United States
15 Aug 11
My son lives with me and his stepdad and we're thrilled that he's here - at 27. Personally, I hope that he doesn't move out until he's ready to get married. In the economy today it makes more sense for families to help each other out like they used to do in the past. The reason having my son here is a blessing is that he has taken on many of the chores my hubby and I can no longer do. Are you pulling your weight?
@dreamy1 (3818)
• United States
18 Aug 11
I'm older than you and I live with my mother and I wouldn't have it any other way. My mother and I get along great. I left for a few years even lived with two boyfriends, had a bunch of roommates when I lived on my own. I used to live overseas but when I came back I lived at home and I'm not going anywhere anytime soon. I love living with my mother.
@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
16 Aug 11
kwylima, I believe you are trying to readjust back living with your parents after being away on your own for 2 years. It is definitely different with whatever you have had 2 years ago, but I do think that you have to put it behind you. It is important to remember that we all will be living with people or person at certain point of our lives and we will need to know how to relate and get along. While it may seem oblivion when we are on our own, like doing and not doing what we like. No one to look over our shoulder and most of all, answer to but we need to remember that we do have our obligations and responsibilities. Sometimes, I wouldn't say that it is all that bad when we live and relate with someone. In actual fact, I do not see that we are on the loosing end in any relationship, for as much as you would deem a loss, I am sure there's a gain or gains. It's life. So, I advocate putting out some thoughts ahead for your actions or decisions and your relations'. Doing this will put some much needed understanding and perception which are need catalysts to all successful relationships.
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
It is! I lived with my aunt and uncle before and everything was in their control. Rules and routines should be followed. Run for their errands and do something what they want. I want to be independent. I want to on my own too. So, after i got a job i moved out. But i still visit them and do the cleaning and help them. But the thing is i do live on my own.
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
Actually, living with extended family is worse. I live with my parents, my mother and stepfather, my one brother-currently studying,2 sisters (one jobless and one is earning a little, good enough for herself), one jobless cousin, my eldest sister and her little daughter who stay in our house most of the time and I feed them all most of time. I have the biggest expense in the house. Goodness!!! What can you say about that? Sometimes, I want to leave them but I can't take it. It's been a tradition in the society to take care of their parents and take the responsibility when they get old. I don't know with other country.
@imkrabii (38)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
Good thing for me, I started to live alone when I was in college. But then I tend to go home at least every weekend and there you'll really wanna go soon because of all of the things that they always do like reminding me of stuff, and telling me of what I need to do, over and over again. But then at some point I realize that maybe they just missed me so much and they tend to kind of "baby sit" me like I'm still a kid to them. Somehow that feels good too.
• United States
16 Aug 11
yes living with parents suck i lived with my girlfriends mom and her her mom never lets me do anything with my child i would like to do some things with her but her mom is jelous or verry controling but my girlfriend is stuck in the middle i am trying to work things out with councleing but would like some ideas of what to do her friends don't like her mom and her friends told her the same things but i want to be with her but i think she would chouise her mom over me any ideas of what to do
@moneywinner (1866)
• Brazil
15 Aug 11
I have 23 years old and I already live without my parents for about 8 years already. I spent 5 years living with my sister and, now, 3 years I live alone. I don't know if it's so bad to live with parents, I like. One time during these years, I moved back to my parents house for 6 months and it was a nice period.
@Judy890 (1633)
• United States
15 Aug 11
You mention that you like to eat and sleep your own time. I'm guessing your parents do not let you sleep on your own time right? well "their house their rules" lol
@Kish2328 (71)
• United States
15 Aug 11
I know sometimes it sucks but having them around is priceless. I've never been away with my family but I have to take a leap and start a new chapter of my life. If you want to get through it, go ahead and and try your best to organize your life. Are you capable of paying your own bills, food and etc? If you can then you can get yourself a place of your own where no one will tell you what to do and what you dont want to do.
• United States
15 Aug 11
After moving out of the home you grew up in, you get the sense of freedom, and to have to move back in with your parents after haveing that freedom can be hard. Hopefully, you won't be there for long, afterall you are 25, you should be on your own. I had to move back with my mom a few times and I hated it, because I had to go by her rules and if I did not, all I heard was her complaining. I will say this though, I lost my mom two years ago, and you do not know what I would give just to hear her complain again. So enjoy the time you have with your parents and tell them you love them everyday.
@cutepenguin (6458)
• Canada
15 Aug 11
We tried moving into my husband's parents' place, and it just didn't work. It's hard to go from being independent to living with parents again. They aren't used to you being independent and having your own schedule, and you aren't used to having people constantly wanting to know what you're doing. Or at least that was part of our problem.
@dodo19 (27755)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
15 Aug 11
I can certainly understand how you feel. My husband and I met at university, and lived together while we were away at university. However, now we're both done university, and had no choice but to move back in with his parents. It's really not something that either one of us enjoys. We loved living on our own, and having our own home. It's not pleasant when you feel you don't have much of a choice.