how to make your life happy?

China
August 16, 2011 4:13am CST
When I am young,it is so easy to be happy. while after I start to work in society.Gradually,happyness is far far away from me. Now every morning,I try hard to open my eyes and struggle to get up and then go to office with a same day as yesterday to face the same person and do the same work. When I find my first job,I feel so happy and cherished this chance.I try my bet to do a good work and I success.During one year,I got two times promotions.first as sales assistant to operation manager from a sales assistant then manager assistant and later became operation manager until now.during the first 3 years,I really enjoy my work.While during the forth year,we have a new manager and I do not like the way he did for the business while I did not brave enough to guit the job since I do a easy job and the salary is fine. but it is hard for me to be happy during work time.and for my personal life,I have a boy friend ,but I can not make the decision to marry him.I became older and older but still can not persude myself to get marry.I feel there are too many difference between me and him.We are always fighting and I am not sure whether he can bring happyness to me.While I also can not leave him because I feel I do love him and when I left him,I really miss him and cry.So time goes by,i still here do not have a clean clue for my marriage.Just feel ,now my life is full of upset.how to get the happyness back?
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12 responses
@adhyz82 (36263)
• Indonesia
17 Aug 11
wow...your life is seem complicated things... maybe we must discuss one by one.. You are now young anymore i think...You are woman who ready to be married as soon as possible... Thanks to God, you had a boyfriend..But unfortunatelly, you and your boyfriend always fight and had a different view and opinion.. Maybe one of your problems is when you are frustrated because of your boyfriend..and your family push you to maried as soon as possible.. my suggestion to you, so you can get your happyness back, talk to your boyfriend as soon as possible...and make a decision, you still with him or you leave him
@Fireheart (683)
• India
17 Aug 11
What really is happiness, that we know it as living life successfully and by being happy, no matter how you live there seems to be other side to happiness to sad and sorrow, a thing can give happiness for a few moments that pleasure, there are lot of happiness achieved in my life as a kid getting first bike, then getting a pc dn getting a mobile all that are hapiness, now one thing being big happiness for me is to achieve a good job with a nice salary that is my aim and also my happiness.
@nophie (2338)
• Indonesia
17 Aug 11
To make our lives happy, sometimes it takes something that is difficult Sometimes we just make our simple lives become difficult and complicated.. Start by thinking positive Do not always think negative for many things Reduce hostility with many people friends with many people Avoid stress Get plenty of rest
17 Aug 11
hi:) The only way you can live a happy and satisfied life,is when you start doing things that make you happy and satisfied.Sure, it sounds easy, and can be easy if you just remember to make yourself one of your top priorities. so whatever you think that makes you happy, don't hesitate to do it. if you think that marrying your boyfriend can make you happy then go marry him friend,cheer up:)
• Philippines
17 Aug 11
Hi. We are the ones who make our life complicated. The real truth is life is simple. You know what will make you happy, why not go for it. Change is always good.
@artistry (4154)
• United States
17 Aug 11
.....Hi there, welcome to the ranch. Enjoy. Let me start with the first thing that jumps out at me from your posting. The fact that you and your significant other argue or fight most of the time. With a situation like that, you either have to seek relationship counseling or get out of the relationship. You may love him madly, but you have to be able to get along. That may be why you are unhappy or at least a part of it. You cry when you are apart because you have gotten attached and want to be around him. But the foundation of your relationship is not good. Decide what you want to do, talk to him about seeing a counselor, a third party could help. You certainly do not need to marry him at this time. The way you describe your feelings on a daily basis, it sounds as if you are depressed. If that is the case, you need to make sure it is not a medical condition, where you have a blood imbalance which is causing the depression. If it is not a medical condition, then you need to take steps to cheer yourself up. Go on a spontaneous shopping trip, just window shopping, or go into the shops and see what the latest fashions are, spray some perfume samples on yourself. Buy a new perfume. Write down things that will make you laugh, jokes, sayings, and put them in your purse. Read them during the day. Go see a funny movie. You have to fight to be happy. Learn to laugh at stupid things. About your job, try to imagine that you were unemployed and needed money to pay your rent and buy food, as many are doing for real. Some have lost their homes and are on the street. You could be in a much worse place, so start to appreciate the boredom. Begin to plan to find a better position, if it bothers you that much. Or go to school to upgrade yourself. Think positive as much as you can and eventully you will feel better. Take care.
• Philippines
17 Aug 11
Welcome to mylot maria118 You can be happy by just simply appreciating everything that you have big or small. Learn to love not only other people but most importantly, yourself. Being happy is not about having material things such as new clothes, a high tech gadgets etc. You can be happy by appreciating the presence of those people in your life like your parents, brothers, sisters and friends. Happy mylotting!
@zhawee (875)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
i can`t describe what the meaning of happiness to me,
• India
16 Aug 11
you should love your work so that you can enjoy each and every moment of your life.
16 Aug 11
happiness depends upon our temperament. Entering into a battle field and waging war is very difficult is it not? But Alexander, Napoleon, Hitler and many others faced dangers bravely. You are having only one boy friend, but you are telling that your life is boring and difficult. be brave and face the world.
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
Life gets complicated when we aged, because of our responsibilities. Happiness of one person does not rely on other individual, somehow it's a form part but usually we are the one responsible to our own happiness. Happiness is not something we find, it's something we create, learn to accept what is not meant to be, then let go so you can find a new reason to be happy, it's actually the best way to beat the negative side of life. The quickest road to happiness is being able to see what is right in front of us and grabbing onto is with both hands. Have a great day ahead..
@emily75 (89)
• China
16 Aug 11
firstly,happiness has no why(y), and has an I.i remember a movie by your tape of happyness. Do you love your job? maybe you just tired up with your job .why don't change one if there has a chance? or you just smile everyday. smile to yourself smile to others.sometimes smile can make you really happy. as for your boyfriend, fighting is normal , but always fighting is not a good thing . if you do love him ,and he do love you , you should calm down and communicate with each other . hope you can have a happy life and a perfect marriage:) and have a nice day:)