I'm always thinking about my ex?

You never let go. You must make clear to you that it's over and be pure in your brain, and only then are you free for other women. Make this stalk on their side, it brings nothing, of which you can get them not go back. Looking at other women and when is the right thing then you definitely forget it.

I can identify with that. I met my "first love" in 1970 and was dumped by him. We only had a short relationship, about 4 months long, but even now and despite having been in love - probably more powerfully - several times through my life since then, I still feel a pang for him and remember him with fondness. Maybe it's true what they say about first love never dying? I was 16 then...am 57 now!

nakula2009, While I can understand that it is difficult for you to forget and erase everything that you have had for the past nine years with your ex, but I believe you will still need to convince yourself that there's no return at all. For only when you learn to accept and be convinced would you be able to evolve. However, I do not think it is fair for you to use your ex as a measuring yardstick for your new acquaintances. Your ex may have all the charm, beauty and character but who is to say that the other party will not be up to it or even be better. All of us are uniquely different and like you, I am sure you would not appreciate your opposite to use you as a replacement than accepting you for who you really are. Let me say here that if you want to seek new islands, you've got to first loose sight of the shores. Move on.

I understand that already. What you lack is a proper conclusion from this ex-girlfriend. An hour with a psychotherapist is sufficient to identify the reasons why you can not let go out and finish the thing.

Could it be that you have yourself a fantasy-Ex designed with women because you do not get along in real life? Such a god-like person. like you are describing is not. You idealize your Ex As you meet in the other women but to men of flesh and blood, they can not compete with your fantasy-Ex. So you firmly secure yourself against yourself to engage in a genuine human need. Because every relationship Kompormiss means, means are a permanent mutually opposed. Perhaps you are not sufficiently able to?

Some people have to search all their lives, because they cling to their youth * love *. Normally'd have to ban DU that first girlfriend from your * heart *, because you will find in any other woman to find her ...... and never! Look at the young women in your environment and to take each as it is. Each person is worthy to be loved as to individuals. Your search will only end when you've found your dream girl * *.

Hello Dear Nakula! It is very difficult for one to for get one's first love! You have loved your girl friend from bottom of your heart and for some silly mistake, which you are admitting yourself, you had your break up! You are realising now that you lacked the maturity at that time when this incidence happened! There after you tried to search your first girl friend in every women you met, which again suggests your hard core love for her! No two individuals in this World Can have same nature, so were your new girl friends too! You have had a dream about her,which is again clearly indicating that though you have got separated from her subconsciously you are in love with her and you are terribly missing her! I don't know about your present marital status etc. If you are still unmarried then go to her and find if she is still unmarried, if luck favours you you can have your lady luck back into your life! If either of you are married then forget about the issue and concentrate on your family if you are married or concentrate on your work if she is married! As you can do nothing at this juncture if this is the case! I sincerely pray the almighty that both of you are still bachelors and should get back to each other so that the love will flourish between you too! All the best! Thanks !

Well i say its time for you to move on, and forgets such things of her, and keep yourself busy with the person who em you like to be with, as far as i know love kills you if your are broken heart, dont think its the end of life there may be someone better than her, she doesnt deserve you at all, am sure fate will or give you chance to meet the love of your life, this sort of problem even my friend has it, but he overcame it by getting a new girl which now replace his old broke up.

You mean for 9 years you stuck to the memories of your girlfriend and you did not even try to look for another girl? Well, i suggest that you accept the fact that in a relationship, separation is always inevitable and when it happens you should accept no matter how painful it is to you. You said that you see her in facebook, can't you see that she is happy? Maybe what happened was for the better. You have to let go of her emories and move on. You are being unfair to yourself. There are lots of women out there you just have to establish frienship with them and who knows, you will find somebody better than your ex. Dont stick to your thinking that your ex was the best because i am sure there are other better than her. Just give your self a chance to know other girls more through being with them as friends first. What do you think?Every experience is a learning experience and now that you are mature already, i am sure that you will be able to handle relationship better. Good Luck!

As hard as it is, but you have to adopt her from inside, finish the chapter. It's in the past to think nice about it, but it will benefit you nothing. Even if we would come together again, which is nearly impossible anyway, they will no longer be the woman you've met. It has evolved, where art thou fallen by the wayside. I was also once married, have five children, was partly happy, but have now found 8 years ago the love of my life. As you think, aha, so does that feel true love. I firmly believe that one day you find the right person, have patience, I had to be 35 ..... But finally from the past, look forward because life is played out, the past can not be undone, on the here and now you can live your life, then, is history. Look ahead.

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