I think.. I've easily forgiven the other woman...
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30184)
Philippines
August 19, 2011 6:48am CST
I woke up today... Still with a heavy heart... but Thanking God that he has made me sleep well last night... I thank him that he opened my heart, and my mind.. i think God made me sleep and visited me and made me a better person after being cheated on by my bf.
I thought i would forever feel bitter about the woman who was my ex bf's "accomplice" in cheating on me... i thought i'd forever hate her, and her face, and would always want bad things to happen to her...
Im glad though that just one day, after discovering yesterday thaat he cheated on me, after she texted me, called me, and all... You know... I found it in my heart to forgive her... and that, made me feel i am at peace, at least i've held no grudge on her anymore.
Thanks be to God... =)
The glory of Christianity is to conquer by forgiveness.
It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend.
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11 responses
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
19 Aug 11
thank you... thank you for the big hug. i really needed that. i have not hugged someone since i was literally broken into pieces by that man who said he loves me.
=( i know i will be better... things will be better... smile... yes.. i will do that.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
thanks, i think you do seemed like a good person that do not deserve to be hurt. Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=) Godbless you.
@koperty3 (1876)
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19 Aug 11
I know how you feel. Few years ago a bad man broken my heart. But you will see. Today is better than yesterday and tomorrow will be better than today. You are strong woman. You will survive this. I believe in you. If you want to talk you know were to find me. People saying that I'm good listener :)
@FX777222999 (437)
• Philippines
19 Aug 11
Finding peace for yourself means forgiving people for what they've done to you. I really liked what your actuation today...forgiveness for her. Do what you think, what's right for your heart, soul and mind. I think, this is the only way, we can have peace deep inside. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
19 Aug 11
Maybe it is god's gift to me... he knows i was truly hurt, my heart torn, broken into pieces if that is really possible (that is how it felt, actually...
but when the other woman called me, i was not able to answer this afternoon. i just returned the call.. then no answer, i texted what does she want.
she said she is sorry.
and then that's it. I found it in my heart to forgive her, and that too made me feel better.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
19 Aug 11
Good for you, chiyosan, not many people realize that when we forgive, it isn't for the other person, but for ourselves. Yes it doesn't always happen right away and that bitterness tries to come back, but thank G♥d, "greater is He who is in me than he who is in the world!!!!"
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
18 Jan 13
Hi chiyosan, wow I forgot about this discussion. Bless you too...
@globaldoc (858)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
The truth is, I have grown with years, and I have learned to look at such situation differently. I think, with your situation, you should rather be happy that this happened. Why? It i simply because of this. It is better that this situation happens to you now, years before you get married. At least you have realized that the person beside you is someone who will leave you behind years after you get married. At least someone made it clear to you now. It is always better for sch things to happen before you get tied up. With this thinking, you will not bear grudge. Do not think that you have been betrayed. Rather, think that you have been released from a bondage. Do not think that there was no respect. Think that he left his respect behind, and that he has revealed himself to you.
@flowerfest08 (1677)
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20 Aug 11
hi:)
Yes I remember the other day I replied on your post about that, I'm glad you're ok now, and that's the great thing you did today you forgive her already, anyway if they really done something bad to you then they will face also the consequences of that in the end, God really works in mysterious ways, all you need to do is ask Him to make you stronger.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
Good for you. I salute you for that. If I were you I'd probably harbor resentment to that woman for a long time! But I will pity her because she went on with a relationship with a cheater, your ex. Well, if I were I will just wish her good luck and hope that she will not be cheated with the guy like what he did to you. Good riddance to both of them!
Glad you are nicely getting back UP! 
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
19 Aug 11
I haven't been to church lately but i think despite of that god has always softening my heart when ever i acted cold. I learned something from you today or probably i have just forgotten about it a long time. forgiving an enemy is really hard but i guess that's one of the hard things a christian would do, something that I've forgotten a long time ago.
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
19 Aug 11
Wow!! you surprised me! But that is a good thing indeed! When you forgive her automatically you feel that you shed your tears and sadness away. That's the magic about forgiving others. I can't be like you. It takes time for me to forgive someone and I think I should just be like you. No point to think about it and the one thing we should do is to forgive the past.(^^)
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
I have read and respond to your discussion about your bf cheating on you just minutes ago and i was shock reading this one, you can easily forgive her for what she did. It's really fast for you to forgive her, bravo! Thank GOD you feel that way.
You didn't mention what happen to you and your bf?You guys are fine now. I hope after you've forgiven her your relationship with him will be at peace and he will not do such things again. I hope so..Godbless
